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How to Be a Gentleman

how to be a gentlemanI've been getting called "gentle" and "a gentleman" quite a bit recently. Me, of all people! The man who prides himself on taking women as lovers within a few hours of meeting them, and who hardly ever goes on second dates because he either sleeps with a girl on the first date, or burns the house down trying.

Yet I am, according to more and more women I meet these days, a gentleman.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Harry's picture

Exactly Chase! Way to get down to the real meaning that most women themselves won't admit what they think a gentleman is.

Lucas's picture

Perhaps this falls under the category of 'being a gentleman:' what is an appropriate way to turn down a girl who is very interested in you, but you are not (or are no longer) interested in return? I'm sure it depends on how much interaction you have had (10 minutes of chatting versus 6mo of dating, say). But I find myself feeling guilty if, after 3 dates and maybe one night in bed, say, I've lost interest but she's convinced I'm supposed to be her future husband.

Generally, I do what I wish women would do: instead of beating around the bush or flaking, I just tell her directly that I've lost interest, let's just be friends. Is that too blunt? What do I do if she demands to know what she did wrong, or what I find unattractive about her?

Anonymous's picture

The more relaxed I am around a guy the more dates we're doing. Seriously, dating is terrifying for girls. Most of the time you're thinking about how you're getting home and hoping this one doesn't follow you as you leave... that might just be me though

Dating according to Louis CK:

Don's picture

While these points are valid, I've discovered there are many other issues that attract women. Grooming and dress are key. Stop going to Supercuts and go to a barber. Don't bite your nails. Get a mani and/or a pedi. Ditch the shorts and flip-flops. Always dress like you're going out on a date, even to Walgreens. Keep your house/apartment clean. Hire someone if you can't do it right. A dirty bathroom will tell a woman you don't care about yourself. Clean your car, even if you only drive a moderate mid-size car, it should smell nice and be washed. And go to the gym. We all need it!

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