Sometimes you go for intimacy, but a girl stops you because she
feels
slutty. There are 5 major ways to help her past this: adventure, sexual
expertise, urgency, and more.
This is an old request from the GC topics queue – it goes back about
four years or so. A reader (who happened to have attended my alma mater) had this to ask:
“Hey Chase,
this was an absolute mind boggling article, gave a new
perspective to things. Anyway, recently I went on a date to a local
bar, Cafe 210 in State College if you know it. We stayed there had a
few drinks and then I pulled her back to my place. I then made my move.
I had her shirt and bra off, and then refused to take her pants off,
and I tried everything to get them off but failed. She had the vibe
that she was trying not to be slutty/easy, and was could tell she was
experienced. This has happened several times to me with other girls. Im
assuming I’m in BF territory, but any advice on making girls not feel
slutty/easy would be great.”
You might think at first this is just a last-minute resistance
issue. And you can treat it as such. However, if it is a pattern, where
you encounter this repeatedly when you get women alone, it’s more than
just LMR. The LMR is only a symptom of the overall problem. Girls feeling slutty about sex around you
is the root.
If you can make a woman feel comfortable being sexual with you, you
will not face this obstacle. Sure, a girl may still resist sex with you
for any one of a number of other reasons... you
may not have turned her on enough, the environment may not be conducive
to it, or any of myriad other possibilities may be the case.
However, if you remove the “she feels slutty about sex” issue, this
reason for resistance goes away.
And it should be noted here that this goes beyond any boyfriend
considerations. That’s because if she does not see you as a boyfriend,
but she still feels like it’d be slutty or too easy to sleep with you,
she
will resist sleeping with you. And meanwhile, even if she does see
you as a boyfriend, if she feels like she can hop
into bed with you and it won’t affect how you see her or her prospects
with you (and she has no other reservations about intimacy with you),
she will hop right into bed with you.
The key, of course, is you must remove the ‘too easy’, ‘too slutty’
objection, first.