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How to Qualify a Girl and Ramp Up Attraction

Hi everyone. Good to be back! How is everyone doing? I am sorry for having been inactive. I was busy with school. But now it is all over and I will be able to pump out a few articles for you!

Previously we discussed what it meant to have standards. We covered different types of standards and reflected on different aspects of it. Today we will talk more about standards, but this time more about its practical aspects – namely, how you can use “standards” in qualification.

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First of all, I am aware that qualification has been covered multiple times here at Girls Chase, but in my belief, repetition is good, especially when it is about important topics.

Also, I probably have a different view on qualification than other posters here, which in the end will just build up to your technique arsenal of mass seduction. New readers will of course benefit from this post as well.

Also keep in mind that this post on qualification, like the previous one on standards, is another of the crucial elements of sexual prizing. This post, in fact, covers such an important element of sexual prizing (a concept I introduced a month ago), that if you want to be able to truly understand my upcoming posts on that topic, this one is a must read.

Alek RolstadAbout the Author: Alek Rolstad

Alek Rolstad launched his pickup career at age 14, an early starter and seduction savant. His unique style of game focuses on “sex talk”: a way to make sex the primary topic of conversation. Sex talk lets the user excite girls rapidly, and filter for girls open to fast, raunchy, kinky one-night stands and sex. Alek plans to offer phone coaching to students of Girls Chase soon… Just as soon as he can find somewhere to hold phone calls on sex talk and threesomes where he won’t be shocking his roommates.

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Anonymous's picture

Glad to see you back!

Question: Should qualifiers be used throughout an interaction? Like should we qualify a girl before getting her phone number AND qualify her on the date?

Once she qualifies herself, should we sometimes qualify her some more after that?

Nick Shaw's picture

Hi Alek,

I am taking a tango class, in order to improve my elegance, movements, and attain grace and yes of course to meet some girls. My problem is, I am just a beginner, having no prior experience in dance, and the girls, even the least experienced are way ahead of me in skills. Right now they are not really interested in me. I remember something that Chase wrote, that women always mate with their superiors, never with someone who is below them in status. And since I am a beginner right now, and the only way to demonstrate value in that class is through dancing skills, I am a low status male at present.

That seems to defeat the purpose of joining the class. As such, I have no problems in pulling women otherwise, it is only in that class that the females seem unattracted to me. Is their any way out, or do I have to keep practicing dancing and getting skilled at it, before I have a shot. And would you suggest I drop the class. That is something I dont want to do at all since it would be quitting, running away in the face of obstacles.

The reason why I talk about quitting is because last week was my first class, and I was really bad. So bad that the instructor felt that the girls were wasting their time dancing with me and told me to take a breather/ dance with men instead. That sucked.

However I still dont intend to quit. Would like to get your views on it.


Aiden's picture

Hey Nick,

Regardless of how well you think you went did you enjoy learning to dance and dancing? If so; don't worry about anything else and what others think of you at the present moment, you're a complete beginner and still learning and you will improve it just takes time. I was the same with starting Salsa classes... I was wooden, let the girls lead and woefully under confident but I kept going and have a blast now. Hang in there if you like it :)

Regards, Aiden

Anonymous's picture

sounds alot like screening ;) how u mention possibly complimenting during the screen/qualifier itself.

David Riley's picture

Hey Anon,

That is a good trend to follow, you want to reward a girl when she's being cooperative and punish when she's not. When a girl is engaging with you during the conversation reward her, and if she's not being receptive give her the bored look. It shows her that she can't treat you just any kind of way. This will make girls respect you in the end.

Take care,

Just Dave

Ash's picture

Great article!

A few quick questions...

How do you respond when she asks you a qualifying question?
I'm guessing some deflection/Witt or maybe flipping it round so to get her qualifying?

RE: when she won't qualify (you mentioned she might be playing games) sometimes this is because she can sense you're getting the power and doesn't want to lose it all, she's just socially savy. I found a way around this is to be indirect with qualification, so I'd talk about past dates and the things I really like and the things I didn't, that way she can agree with me without losing her power. This has worked really well for me, with the girls still chasing me.

JD's picture

Hi Alek,

I've been in a 1 month official but total 3 months relationship with a girl. We are both in mid 20s. 25 years of age. I mention to her that there are alot of traits I like about her which is why I got into a relationship with her but some things need a tweak. I do not like her drinking habit. She has been drinking for a long time and has a good tolerance to alcohol than most girls. She's never went all the way with any person - drunk or not drunk. She's fairly new to the game and that's a plus for me.

My Question is how do I try to have her change the drinking to the limit part? She always says: I'm in control. She recently had a work party and they had dinner and club and told me she was in control throughout but she was pretty gone in the pictures she told me. She takes loyalty very seriously - told me in extreme details on how guys tried to come and grind onto her and she moved away several times. Ofcourse she's dancing at the club - yes it's a work party. I'm okay with her drinking but not to the extent where it's past 4-5 drinks in total. How do I incorporate this to let her know this is what I EXPECT from my girlfriend?

Thanks for your article - it's a great technique.

David Riley's picture

Hey JD,

What you want to do is bring it up to her in a non nagging or judgmental way. You want say it in a "Hey you're really but I feel like you're more fun when you don't drink so much." I would even try not rewarding her when she drinks excessively and rewarding her when she doesn't drink excessively. This way you don't send mix signals to her. Overall though, just explain that you still like but the drinking thing bothers you a bit. Don't make any ultimatums, girls are gonna do what they want. It will only drive her away. Just keep it cool and set the expectation that you don't want that from your girlfriend. You could also try activities that don't involve her excessively drinking.

Take care,

Just Dave

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