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Calibrating Your Social Frame: Matching Venues & Individuals

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social frame calibrationYour social frame is how well you fit into a given venue or environment. Do you match it – or do you seem out of place? The better you calibrate, the easier it becomes to excel socially.

Hey guys. Today I'll discuss social frame-the social dimension of seduction. Social frame is the underlying social meaning of the interaction between you and the people you interact with, given their sociocultural background. We can define social frame by one's sociocultural identity, expressed during interactions with others. This generates the social frame.

From my past article on social frame:

What is a social frame?

It is a term coined by master pick-up artist Gunwitch (Allen Reyes) in his product Seduction MMA (still one of the best products out there for advanced guys). My interpretation of his definition of a social frame is that it is a frame that covers everything related to the "social" or the "social aspect" in an interaction, or more precisely, in a seduction.

What Is a Social Frame?

Social frame in this context is about conveying that you appear, on a social level, as the type of guy a girl usually hooks up with.

This helps ease the opening process because a girl will be less hostile as you are a guy who is "okay" to talk with socially in her environment. It also smoothens the hooking process because you gain rapport: she is familiar with guys socially similar to you and realizes that men like you are cool and sexy. Most importantly, she will allow herself to have sex with you because it feels okay according to her social frame. Also, her friends will likely accept you if you match their social frame because they think you are high value and safe.

You can make women intrigued and interested in you without worrying about social frame, but it will be challenging - it is much easier when the social frame factor is in place. Arousing a girl when the social frame is off may lead to female state control (FSC), and she may back off despite being aroused to control her state. She will not allow herself to let go and get carried away because she is unsure whether you are a safe lover or a suitable man for her socially.

Social frame is crucial.

Over the years, I have neglected much discussion of social frame. I have covered subjects relating to it that communicate and amplify social frame, like:

But today, let's explore what you should know about social frame.

When to Stay in a Nightlife Venue vs. When to Go

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stay in a nightlife venue or leave it?Some bars and nightclubs are worth remaining in. Some are not. To decide which, you must consider the variables: vibe, crowdedness, sex-ratio, and more.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Decision-making is under-discussed and making the right decision while in a venue can make your seduction successful. A bad one can kill it. And you will often need to make quick decisions.

This post covers decision-making during night game: whether you should stay in the venue or leave. It's similar to choosing the wrong girl to commit to and seeing your results go downhill (see 4 Signs a Girl Can Be Picked Up THAT Night). Some decisions you make are crucial, like selecting the right venue (Picking Up Girls: Selecting the Right Venue). You typically choose a venue based on past positive experiences there. Perhaps you know the venue, the crowd, and how to run it, and you enjoy being there, but when you return another night, it's a less-than-positive experience, and you may need to venue change.

But the grass is always greener somewhere else, right? Sometimes, changing venues may not be the best idea, even if the venue is suboptimal that night.

So, today, we will discuss the different variables that should be considered when deciding whether to stay or change venues.

A few things to keep in mind before we begin:

  • If you leave a venue, do not come back that night. It looks bad, and you do not want to look bad at a venue where you are a regular.

  • Venue changing is easier if alternative venues are nearby, and they should be venues you know (as discussed in my recent post on finding venue clusters). Use this as an opportunity to find new venues.

When Should You Look for New Nightlife Spots to Meet Girls?

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when to try new venues to meet girlsIf you’ve been going the same places to meet girls for a while, they can die off or you can find yourself in a rut. That’s when it’s time to shake it up!

Hi guys and welcome back.

Today, I want to discuss a little-known night game topic: whether you should try out new venues or stick to your favorites.

It depends on where you are, and many factors come into play.

Going to a familiar venue (home turf advantage) where you know the crowd, the staff, the venue codes and social culture, understand the logistics and what strategies work, and feel comfortable will make your night easier.

It is an instinctual response to feel anxious in new venues. A new environment makes you more alert, which makes sense from an evolutionary perspective, as it ensures your survival to be alert in a foreign environment.

And, of course, being anxious and overly alert may affect your mood, impacting your results negatively.

If you know the venue well, you'll know how to play it and feel at ease there. You feel at home and safe, thus, feel more liberated. You know what is appropriate versus inappropriate behavior, allowing you to let go. If you are unsure what is acceptable, you may over-restrict yourself and be too risk-averse.

You may also know people at the venue who enhance your feelings of familiarity, making you even more at ease. Similarly, knowing some people may put you in a talkative, social mood, further contributing to a good state.

Good seducers have home turfs-venues they frequent often. From my own experience, most prolific night gamers become regulars at venues they like and usually rotate between three to five venues. They don't go to new places every weekend. Why? There are benefits to being a regular, and it would be unwise not to enjoy them. Advanced gamers know this.

There are venues I like and that I often return to. Moving around, changing cities every three years, I automatically find a few venues I enjoy (clusters, see my previous post), ranging between two and seven venues at any time. Each venue serves a different purpose.

So, should you even try new venues? And when?

Planning Out Your Night (When Out to Pick Up Girls)

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night game planningIt’s easier to have a successful night out with girls when you plan for it. The keys to successful night out planning: triangulation, transit time, & more.

Hi everyone.

Today, I'll discuss night game logistics and share a strategy for an optimal night out. In the past, I've covered similar topics, such as preparing your place for pulls, and provided checklists before heading out at night, see Logistics Checklist: What to Prepare for Good Seductions

In this article, I'll continue along those lines. I'll go through the steps for planning your night out. When you combine the content in this article with the checklist at the link above, you have your night planned to a T. Everything should go more smoothly. Logistics can make or break a seduction. Good logistics will help; bad logistics will ruin you. It is your duty, I repeat, DUTY, to do all you can to take care of logistics.

You cannot prepare for every aspect of logistics and foresee all logistical hoops. Yes, poor logistics happen, and often they are beyond your control (examples: your favorite venue is dead, your girl lives far away, various wildcards, and more). What you can do, however, is do your best to ensure that you take care of what you can control and prepare for the rest.

The good news is that logistics is one of the easiest factors to fix, and you can implement many measures to ensure your night goes smoothly.

It's one aspect of the game that does not require practice. Just read about how to handle logistics and implement the measures. (You don't need to "practice" to ensure your flat is clean.) That said, experience helps because you may not care about logistics until you lose a good lead (a tough lesson to learn!) And experience helps when you must use logistical thinking to handle difficult and unpredictable situations. However, the latter becomes easier when everything you can control will be in check. And this is what we will cover today.

The Purity Gambit: Open Up Sexual Topics in a Surprising Way

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TEXTThe Purity Gambit introduces sexual topics in a way few women expect: by discussing purity. But we don’t mean chastity! We mean purity of another kind…

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

You may remember a recent post of mine about social observations and how the sexual market has changed. Everything changes, although rarely drastically; it changes enough that we can tweak our game while maintaining our framework. We usually don't need to make extreme changes, which is good.

I pointed to gambits focusing on lowering anti-slut defense (ASD), women's defense mechanism that allows them to reject or resist sexual advances to preserve their reputation, so others don't label them as sluts. These gambits often have fewer effects in more sexually liberated Western societies.

Those gambits still work, although less powerfully. Women still fear the slut label subconsciously, and society still has a somewhat sex-negative attitude toward sex, at least deep down. Today, it has a different form (radical feminism).

That said, the idea of being a sexually free woman correlates with more modern ideals of liberal feminism and being a strong, independent woman. Whether or not we agree with these ideals is up to each of us, but as discussed in my previous posts, we can use this to our advantage to create great gambits.

And this is true with today's gambit.

I wrote this gambit quickly as a forum post a while ago, but since it works remarkably well today, I decided to rewrite it, adding more details and tweaks to make it more powerful. I discuss more of the mechanisms below. You are welcome to read my forum post, which contains a discussion between me and several posters: Sex Talk: The Purity Gambit.

Talk About Pansexualism with Girls (and Hook Them In!)

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the pansexuality gambitPansexualism has become a trendy sexuality… and it makes for great sex talk fuel with girls. Use this gambit in your chats to get the juice flowing.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

In last week's post, I discussed socio-cultural changes in the West that affect the efficiency of sex talk. All my gambits still work, but sexual openness, non-judgementalism, and low-keyness gambits previously had a more significant effect than they do today. We still get positive results, but they are less impactful now. Women back then opened up and loved you for uttering those words. Why the change? Well, slut-shaming is less prevalent, and the culture of female empowerment allows women to be more social about their sexuality. This is not to say that women won't like you for using those gambits; they still have a potent affect-but it is not the magic trick it once was.

However, in some conservative countries with more conservative girls, gambits about sexual openness, lowkey-ness, and reframing sex as positive still work like a charm! So, those gambits have not hit their expiration date yet!

But some subjects simply work better now, like sexual avant-gardism and sexual comfort. The gambit that I am to go through covers the former. It's about having an edge, pushing the norms that help some women become immersed in what you have to say. This allows you to build rapport and get easy hooks. Even better, it opens the gate to juicier, more explicit subjects.

Adapting Sex Talk to Lonely, Independent, or Older Women

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sex talk for lonely and independent womenMore women today are lonely, isolated, and/or sexually awkward. They long to feel like strong and independent women — & good sex talk can GIVE them this.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

Last week, I discussed social change and how it affects game, particularly my favorite technique of sex talk, although you can use my observations to tweak other forms of game.

Today, the Western world is more sexually liberated, partly due to feminism and the LGBTQ+ movement (who may have moved from older ideals, turning to their own political ideology while maintaining the ideals of openness and tolerance). So, the old gambits that convey a sexually liberated and nonjudgmental attitude toward sex may be less efficient than before. These gambits may still work as the fear of slut-shaming is deeply ingrained in women and society, but the effects may be lower.

It’s true—unless you are dealing with a conservative girl or if she wants others to see her as one. If so, the good old stuff still works like a charm. It’s the same if you live in a more conservative country.

However, I have noticed that it is easier to get more explicit more quickly with today’s more liberal women. That doesn’t mean you should drop your calibration, though. Calibrating in real-time is what truly matters, but generally, you can get more explicit sooner. And the good old explicit sexual prizing gambits conveying that you are a good lover with plenty of sexual experience and knowledge—a man who can give her the sex she rarely gets and badly craves still works.

Due to the modern social climate, the primary issue younger girls face is a lack of sexual confidence and comfort. Gambits focusing on those work like a charm. It is like the new gold.

So, today, I’ll continue discussing social change, concentrating on how this affects modern world sex talk.

As we will see, recent social change has forged paths for new sex talk techniques. Today, we have themes that work better and new themes with great potential.

Women Today Are Less Worried About Being "Sluts", More About Being COMFORTABLE

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modern women aren't afraid of being called sluts; they're afraid of being uncomfortableWomen now are far less worried that men won’t accept their sexuality than they were 10 years ago. Yet what’s still key to them TODAY is sexual COMFORT.

Hey everyone. I hope you are all doing well.

Earlier this year, a forum thread by veteran seducer Skills discussed observations about social changes in 2023. He writes about this annually, summarizing social changes while explaining reasons and providing cues and inputs about calibrating to these changes.

In that post, he mentioned several topics, but one that caught my attention was using sex talk (what Skills refers to as second-generation verbals).

From Skill’s original post:

… Physical game and even to some extent dance floor game are 1000% back, More physicality, more people making out at clubs, more pulls when women [are] out... Physical game is back, last year 2021 coming back, 2022 almost 100% back, 2023 was 1000% back, the use of second gen was pretty much nonexistent last year for most people even in lay reports gone...same with dance floor game back…

It pleases me that physical and dance floor game are returning to pre-COVID levels. I used to be good at it, and I miss it. I have been using it here and there and noticed it is making a slight comeback. Other than occasionally, I don’t intend to return to that game style, but I am pleased to see that physical game is returning.

The second part of his comment may seem less hopeful. I know that Skills refers to sex talk when he mentions “second gen.” His observations are partly correct. I responded to that thread with a more sympathetic answer than what I am about to cover, and most agreed with me in the thread. This is not to say Skills was wrong, but that sex talk needs tweaking.

And that is what I will discuss today.

Wingman Guide, Pt. 7: Examples of Deadly Wingman-Combos

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TEXTWhat’s it look like when two skilled wingmen pick up girls together? Peruse these examples of skilled wingman pickups and get inspired.

Hey guys and welcome back to the final installment in this series on wingmanning.

Across this wingman guide series, I have shared posts on the fundamentals of wingmanning, an A-to-Z guide on wingmanning, from meet to pull, followed by posts about calibration and advanced wingmanning techniques that allow you to deal with trickier situations when out with a wing.

By now, you have more than enough material to have plenty of fun with your wing.

However, you may want to push it further. If you are both skilled seducers and want to perfect your wingman strategy, this post is for you.

Today, I’ll cover different wingman strategies for those with high skills. You have infinite ways to combine the skills of two expert seducers with unique strengths. The examples I’ll share will:

  • Display how combining seduction skills best work
  • Inspire you to “complete” one another

The idea is to provide real-life examples by providing entertaining stories to motivate you to work on and perfect your wingmanning skills.

Wild stories are fun. A wild story with a wing is godlike.

Wingman Guide, Pt. 6: Switching Targets, Alpha Females, & Big Groups

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advanced wingman strategiesIn this advanced wingman strategy guide, you’ll learn how to switch targets with your wingman… how to handle alpha females & big groups… and more.

Hey guys and welcome back.

So far in my now 6-part guide to wingmen, I have covered wingmanning fundamentals. Those posts should be enough to get you and your wing results—lots of results.

You can look at the previous posts as your A-to-Z guide on wingmanning. To review, we’ve covered:

Today, we will step it up a notch and discuss how to deal with trickier wingman situations. This and next week’s posts are for more seasoned seducers and work as an “expansion pack” to my previous posts. The strategies covered below build upon what we’ve discussed, so check out my past five posts on wingmanning. Even if you are a seasoned wingman, you’ll likely find some tips in those posts that you may have missed to benefit your wingmanning game.