A look into the way women see love, life, lust, and relationships.
I am very direct with women. It works.
But I wanted to ask some girls their perspective. Getting advice from girls can be tricky since they answer with emotion and also avoid being too honest and "red pill" since it can make them seem callous. Basically, you can't ask a fish how to catch it....
Most of the time.
Attention seekers seem like great prospects, but they’ll almost certainly end up wasting your time... unless you know how to reframe their go-nowhere attitude.
Hey, guys. Welcome back. In my previous article on premature ejaculation, I told you that I was going to use the knowledge and material covered in the article as a sex-talk routine.
Contents
1. Clarification on Attention-Seeking Behavior
3. Reframing Attention-Seeking Behavior
Unfortunately, I have not been able to do so yet for one reason: last weekend, I only went out once. I did try to use the material covered in last week’s post, with great success. It actually worked quite well. However, it did not lead to any full closes.
Additionally, I also feel that one or two trials are too little to base a Girls Chase article on. Sure, it is enough to tell your co-seducers about it, but you guys read this blog to get advice that works and techniques that have been tested multiple times. This routine hasn’t made the cut yet. We shall see after this weekend.
However, I am not coming to you empty-handed. Today, I will discuss attention-seekers and how to deal with them... again. You have probably noticed that this is not my first post on the subject. So the question is, why am I putting so much emphasis on this?
Though you can experience attention-seekers in countless other situations – e.g., during the day or at social gatherings. If you are into club game, you will eventually notice (and get frustrated by) the fact that so many women seek attention. This could be because the club offers a great source of validation from a bunch of intoxicated, desperate men.
The advice written in my previous post about attention seekers will still apply here. These are just additional techniques you can use to really hammer the nail into the coffin when dealing with attention seekers.
The good news is that this is a very effective technique that I know Pablo really likes and has started using, and it hasn’t failed me yet. Additionally, it is really easy to understand and pull off. This post is therefore dedicated to every seducer out there – newbies and pros alike.
When you kick a girl out (or leave her place yourself), you set excellent precedent – for the long-term of that relationship.
There's one very special thing you should do with every girlfriend you plan to be with longer than a month or two.
It's a thing she will always remember - one of those memories that sticks in the brain.
She may not necessarily cherish it... but then again, she may.
That thing is to kick her out.
You can also leave. Though leaving is less powerful than giving a girl the boot.
You don't want to do this capriciously. You should only do this if a girl truly gives you a good reason to.
Fortunately, women being the boundary-testers they are, sooner or later every girl will give you a good reason.
And when you give her the boot - or take your stuff and go - you set a precedent for the entire rest of the relationship that makes everything else you do easier... because it's backed up with teeth.
She’s
super flirty or grinding you on the dance floor. So you reciprocate...
but she quickly loses interest. How in blazes does one take these
freaky girls to bed?
Hey, guys. Now that I’m done with my series on hooking, I can finally allow myself to move on to my next project. However, for now, I’ve decided to spend a bit of time responding to some great questions from our readership.
Here is one of those questions, from Lawliet:
When a girl makes a direct statement of interest or sexual flirting, such as:
Her: “I did something sexy today.”
You: “What did you do?”
Her: “I’ll show you.”
Her: *sits on your face*
Or this happens through role play over text – you get the idea.
When they talk like that in person, or over text, what is your way of approaching this?
Jump on her? But what if it’s over text? Invite her out?
That feels a little too reactive.
[And when you decide to react]:
You: *jump on her*
Her: “Hold your horses, sweetheart, and maybe you’ll get some tonight ;)”
Then we’re stuck there, hung out to dry.
Would love to hear some examples from you on girls taking the sexually aggressive role verbally. How do we not kill the tension while keeping the mating dance going? I honestly love this flirting back and forth.
This is a great question because there is a technical element at play here. I know exactly what type of situation Lawliet is talking about, and if you haven’t seen this yourself, let me illustrate with a more extreme and even more frustrating example.
Every girl has baggage. But should you date one with a lot of
baggage... And how do you deal with baggage a girlfriend brings into
your relationships?
Commenting on my article about starting a relationship with a new girlfriend, a reader named Arik writes:
Contents
4. Alternative to Being a Mule
5. Screening for Girls w/o Baggage
“Hi Chase,
I’ve been gaming for a while and defintively gotten amazing things from it in all areas of my life. I met a girl that I really like and would like to move foward with her. She has had a bad experience with getting cheated on and feels scared of going through that again.I met her through cold approach. She is scared of me doing this all the time. If she were to find out that I do and flirt with girls boldy like that daily, it will definitively hurt her bad. I dont want stuff like that in my conciense I already talked to her about my intentions with her and pretty much following your points. Nothing official yet but clearly the ‘we can see other people until then’ wont fly well. At the same time, I know that if I stop approaching and doing game, just like with he gym, my gains will be gone and that will drive her away. I’ve seen it so many times happen to others. I am not sure how to handle this, since this is the first girl I want to push things with from game. All this time I’ve been focused on getting good and refusing to settle with girls I met. You talked briefly on ideas of how to handle this, but If you could elaborate further, I would greatly appreciate it .
Thanks!”
First, a few notes directly to Arik’s situation. If a girl is adamant that you don’t approach other women, and you assure her you won’t, you’ve made a choice. You could lie and do it anyway... whether you are comfortable with that or want to deal with the fallout from it is a personal decision. That said, you can still flirt with women in your day-to-day life, sans cold approach... that will maintain some degree of abundance (albeit not to the level that taking things farther along with women will).
That said, what we’ll focus on in this article is not the question of Arik’s comment but rather one that occurs to me based on the situation he details. It’s that of ‘women with baggage’ – for example, this girl who’s been cheated on... and fears a repeat. Should you date a girl with baggage... and how do you manage it if you do?
How do you change a girlfriend’s beliefs, and bring them inline
with yours? By shifting her personal Overton window – to alter her
ideological environment.
Commenting under a prior Tactics Tuesdays article on dismissing ideological fights you want no part of, Kaelos asked:
“How about in a long-term relationship with a woman, where you share similar beliefs/views but there are some mild to moderate differences on topics like feminism, frugality vs spending, child-rearing practices, small differences in religious beliefs, etc.
Is there a strategy to implement so that her beliefs/views more closely match your own well-researched beliefs/views over the long term?”
We’ve talked about behavior modification on Girls Chase plenty.
What about belief modification?
Well, yes. You can absolutely change someone’s beliefs... to an extent.
To do that, first, we’re going to focus on shifting a woman’s own personal Overton window.
Few
things can boost a man’s game like having a girlfriend. Women show more
interest, and talking to them becomes easier. Ever wonder why this is?
During my previous monogamous relationships, I noticed that my ability to talk to women dramatically increased, as did their attraction. I would also get a lot more approach invitations and even get approached on occasion, mostly because of social circle game – we’ll talk about that later.
I had to ask myself, “Why am I suddenly better with women while I have a girlfriend?”
The answer: “You just are.”
But like you, I wanted more details. What specifically is it about being in a relationship that made me magnetic? Obviously, I was harder to get, and this unattainability stirs female lust. But after looking deeper, I've discovered some more key factors of having a girlfriend that can affect your game for the better.
Here they are.
Women often reference third parties to covertly obtain info
about you and what you want. Understanding this clandestine woman-speak
can be very useful!
Women are masterful at communication. The ability for women to convey and decipher information is so sophisticated that most men completely miss the point and wind up wondering... “What the hell are these girls talking about?”
Contents
1. What Is the Scapegoat Frame?
2. When Does the Scapegoat Frame Happen?
3. Case Studies of Tanya and Sarah
4. Addressing the Scapegoat FrameAs men, we’re very direct and straightforward, saying things in ways that usually don’t have subconscious meanings. Women, on the other hand, can be circuitous and sneaky, conveying information in two layers. The first layer of communication is what’s obvious, but as we all know, the real meaning behind what women say is hidden in the next layer.
This layering of communication allows women to acquire information in a multitude of ways that aren’t apparent at first glance.
Women sub-communicate their intentions to get what they want from others. One of the best examples of this is the “scapegoat framing” tactic, which I will share with you today. It’s a means for a woman to acquire information about guys for her own purposes, while simultaneously using it as a form of influence by creating a condition around a mysterious third party.
In the last couple of months, I’ve experienced this frame on two separate occasions. In the first case, with a girl called Tanya, the frame was used to persuade and influence. In the second case, with Sarah, the frame was used to acquire information – the opposite of Tanya.
Want the most enjoyable way to fix a girlfriend’s bad behavior?
Do it with sex! However, you must be careful to do this the RIGHT way…
I was too late with yesterday’s Recommended Reading list to make Tactics Tuesdays this week. But we’ll still cover a useful tactic for your relationships regardless.
Today’s tactic focuses on fixing a female partner’s behavioral problem through a mix of calling a problem out both before and during (good, but not great) sex.
This is an ‘intermediate’ level tactic and up. I don’t suggest it for beginners... you need to be fairly dominant already with women to pull it off, and you need fairly solid social calibration/timing. If you’re still building your confidence around women, save this tactic for once you’ve built up more.
You’ll also want to save this for
your more girlfriend-level relationships. Using it with friends with benefits is too
much; while it’s a great technique for behavior-shaping, it also
communicates to the girl that you are really looking out for her, and
this is a bit too much for casual relationships.
The gist of the technique is you will tell a girl to knock off a bad behavior... then begin sex with her... then, when the sex is good (but not before then), you’ll tell her in a dominant-yet-protective way that you want her to cut off the behavior and how it is for her own good.
Before we get to the technique though, we need to talk about one aspect of it.
