Dating Rules

A good compliment goes a long way with women. But to give a good compliment and have it be effective can take a bit of know-how. Here’s everything you need.

I love to give a good compliment. It makes me happy to compliment girls, because if I’m not being brazenly honest with someone, I’m uncomfortable. I have to be like that.

Plus, it’s so beautifully polarizing to compliment women. It’s the epitome of strength, in my opinion.

All of that “oh, never compliment a girl, because you’ll make her think you’re just another loser who’s chasing her” nonsense is exactly that – nonsense.

Are there times when you shouldn’t compliment a girl? SURE.

If she’s being a snotty ho with her nose in the air? Don’t compliment her. She doesn’t deserve it.

But if you just met her and you’re having a conversation, and she’s been nothing but nice and warm?

GIVE HER A COMPLIMENT.

I find the “don’t give her a compliment” camp quite funny because they’re so afraid of coming off like they’re “beta” that they inevitably come off as beta. They’re afraid of some girl thinking, “Oh, he likes me.” Sounds pretty lame to me.

Complimenting a girl makes it a man-to-woman interaction. She knows you’re attracted, have a sexual and romantic interest in her, and are going for it.

Girls respect that purposefulness.

Okay, so why is the title of this article “14 Anytime Compliments to Use on Her Today”?

Because you can use these compliments anywhere and anytime.

The sun is up? Compliment.

The sun is down? Compliment.

The world is ending in an inferno of chaos? Compliment.

You can use it at any point in the conversation.

The first thing you say (the “open”)? COMPLIMENT.

Five minutes into conversation? Compliment.

As you’re fishing for the edge of her uterus with your dick? CUMPLIMENT.

K. Cool. Compliments are cool.

So, how do you give a good compliment?

Why wait days for a first date when you can fit it in right now? Instant dates are perfectly normal, and you’ll be surprised how often girls say yes to them.

In Part 6 of my day game tour, I taught you about The High Five Game and how it can help many aspects of your day game.

Today’s article is about instant dates.

If you’ve been following this series, you’ve learned how to approach with direct compliments, indirectly with situational openers, and how to get phone numbers.

But something many new guys overlook in their nervousness is that some girls will be down for a date right now.

So let's go over some techniques on how to get a date with a girl without having to go through the rigmarole of asking her out, getting her phone number, scheduling a date, getting flaked on, rescheduling, and all the other issues that present themselves between the time you meet a girl and your first date with her.

Seriously, why wait days to do something you can get done right now?

Planning a date shouldn't be complicated. These tips will help you avoid flakes and set up a date that builds a connection and ultimately leads to sex, and beyond.

Good date planning will prevent most common issues – ghosting, flakes, etc. You, of course, will have to be charming, assertive, and be able to hold a conversation if you want the date to go well, but if properly prepared, that will be the only thing you have to worry about.

All these tips will have one of two goals in mind – for her to be excited for a second date, or for her to end up in your bed.

Whatever it is you’re looking for – a relationship, marriage, or just casual sex – it’s all dependent on your ability to get her in bed.

Get sex. Get it as fast as possible. And have good sex.

The root of eros (romantic love) is sex. There is more to relationships than sex, sure, but it is the cornerstone and foundation of all romantic relationships.

If you’re new here, let me be the bearer of good news: the media, your culture, and everyone around you have lied to you, either purposefully or out of ignorance (mostly out of ignorance). I say good news, because at last you've found this website.

Welcome.

Here is the truth.

Women like and love most the men who screw them, and screw them well.

This is why women tend to fall in love the hardest with the rogue bad boys, the rich playboys, the hunky gym studs, or the saucy artists. These guys get her pants wet and satisfy her needs. You don’t need to be any of these, however, and they are stereotypes that no one quite ever lives up to exactly, but the point is – guys who get her wet and glide into that wetness are the ones she loves most (and thus the ones she ends up wanting to date and stay faithful to).

There are many arguments in support of this correlation between affection and sex, but the greatest is that of experience, and the women who have fallen hardest for me are the ones I had sex with. The ones who weren’t that into me were, unsurprisingly, those I failed to have sex with.

I stress this so hard because all of the following date planning tips will be given with the hope that they ease the transition from setting up the date, getting her to actually show up for the date, and getting her in bed (or getting her excited for a second date – but even the point of that second date, or third, or fourth, ad infinitum, is to get her in bed).

If you need more education on these precepts, start here:

• Secrets to Getting Girls: Move Faster
• We Are Not Having Sex Tonight: What Happens When You Don’t

Let us begin.

Spending time with a cute girl is fun. Enjoying sex and good conversation with her is one of the finest pleasures in life.

But sometimes that's all you want.

As lovers of women, it's paramount that we make sure she knows that's all you want and doesn't get her hopes up for anything more than you can offer.

We want to make women happy and leave them better than we found them.

That's why it's important to understand precedent and expectations, in any kind of relationship, sexual and romantic.

Watch the video to learn how to set the right expectations with women.

How long you wait to have sex is important no matter the type of relationship you want, be it casual, serious, short or long term. So, what’s too fast and too slow?

How long should you wait to have sex? A month? A week? Seven minutes? Most guys would probably love to be able to have sex with a girl in seven minutes but, in reality, they’d most likely get bored eventually, due to a lack of challenge.

You can learn how to have sex very quickly – but should you? Do you even want to? If you want to have a quick one-night stand, the faster, the better.

But if you want to see a girl again, it might be better to stretch things out and get to know her a bit.

Either way, never ask her how long you should wait to have sex. She doesn’t know, and it’s just going to be awkward for both of you to ask something like that.

As a dating coach, I advise my clients to have sex as quickly as possible, because I’ve seen way more girls lost from moving too slowly than moving too fast. I’ll explain why that is in this post.

That said, yes, I’m also a pickup artist, and so are most contributors on this site. But we’re all dating coaches who understand that not everyone is keen on the “pickup” mentality when it comes to dating, and that’s totally cool.

Everyone has different woman goals, so we are here, first and foremost, to help you get what you want, no matter what your goals may be, short or long term.

The following advice... is for everyone.

One compliment is all it takes to deepen your connection with a girl. If it’s thoughtful and genuinely conveyed, it can really help move things forward.

Here’s a nifty little tool you can use on dates. It’s best used to manage your attainability on a date and show a girl that you genuinely like her. It allows you to accelerate the speed of the date and transition it into something more intimate.

However, the way you use it must be timely and carefully calibrated to the moment.

This is a tool that was taught to me by my friend Franco, Girls Chase board moderator, so all credit goes to him. It revamped the way I went about first dates, and my pull rate increased dramatically. It basically shifts any girl on a date into overdrive the moment you use it, but you must use this tactic at the correct moment to exploit its full potential.

Today, we’re going to talk about dates – specifically, first dates. You’re always going to be setting up your dates correctly using other Girls Chase-taught procedures no matter what stage you’re at in the courtship. You approached her, got her number, and asked her on a date. Now you’re going out together somewhere, so she’s invested in seeing where this is heading.

Sometimes a girl will flake because she sees you as unattainable or as too high or low value. Here’s how to react, pass her tests, and get her to show up.

We were supposed to meet at 7 for drinks one weekday evening.

I sent her an anti-flake text at 11:10am that said “See you tonight, lady,” to which she did not respond. I showed up at the venue at 6:05 and didn’t see her anywhere.

I sent another: “Just got here.” Then I waited. I knew what was happening. I didn’t hear from her until 7:20.

“Hey! Sorry – lost track of time, such a busy day. I’m just going to shower quickly and then I’ll head over that way.”

We were going to have drinks about five minutes walking distance from her own apartment.

By the time she showed up, it was 8:45. In the meantime, I chatted with my buddies on my laptop, had a beer, and wrote about 1000 words of this article.

She arrived about two hours late and apologized profusely, but I could tell she was nervous as hell, and I knew why.

We didn’t go home together that night, but it’s only because she didn’t see me as attainable for what she was looking for at the time, and I ended up being too needy in my behavior. However, up to that point, everything was handled.

You might be asking, “Why in the world would Varoon wait almost two hours for a girl to show up to a date? I’d probably have left after about fifteen minutes.” Normally, if a girl is that late, I’ll just text her, reschedule, and preserve my own time.

However, this situation was completely different because the core issue in the girl’s behavior was my attainability, not my value. Just understanding that required a completely different strategy to handle the issue and preserve my chances. This girl knew my value and thus wanted to slow-play the dating process. To get her, I realized I had to play into that.