How to Know If a Girl Likes Oral or Anal Sex: The Pleasure of Sex Gambit

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I’ll share an explicit sexual gambit to arouse your girl and escalate the vibe. What’s more, it can help screen for specific sexual practices, like oral and anal sex.

PS: this gambit is advanced and requires good conversational skills, calibration, and experience with sex talk. You should know how to tackle potential resistance and have good frame control and delivery to ensure success.

I have not shared an explicit gambit for a while, as I favor lighter, less explicit gambits that are not as prone to trigger resistance. This lets me play it safe and introduce the gambit early, usually in night game, allowing me to set an early sexual frame, which has several benefits.

Lighter gambits are still powerful, though. They get the job done and set a sexual frame. They may not arouse her like explicit gambits do. Still, sometimes it’s not necessary if you set a clear sexual frame, set sex-positive frames, and avoid resistance through anti-slut defense busting gambits, such as communicating you are low key, How to Have Discreet Sex (and Communicate Discretion) and that you are nonjudgmental. Then, physical escalation is often enough to seal the deal.

Typically, explicit sex talk is beneficial and risk-free to pull off in late game when you can escalate. There are some exceptions; see When to Switch to BOLD Sex Talk When Talking to Girls.

Some guys, myself included, prefer verbal escalation to sexual. In these cases, bold gambits have their place too.

With that out of the way, let me show you a gambit that serves a different purpose—for screening.

 

Gambits for Screening

When I started using sex talk in 2008, I was much more explicit. On the upside, it escalated the vibe quickly and was ideal for quick pulls and very wild sex. On the downside, the riskier cost made some girls resist and blow out, but when it worked, it worked like a charm.

Using sex talk this way (high-risk/high-reward), aside from setting sexual frames and conveying sexual prizing, serves as a way to screen for receptive girls, especially sexually experienced and open girls.

This type of game appeals to many guys, although these days, I prefer playing it safer to get a wider selection of girls. Even if a girl resists explicit sex talk early, it does not mean that the sex will not get wilder later; it just requires more work and time. So, for me, there are fewer benefits, aside from time and efficiency (although playing a numbers game is not necessarily time efficient if you must approach more girls to get success). Of course, personal preferences, depending on your game style, matter. If you like to screen for sexually receptive girls early, sex talk is your friend. The bolder the sex talk, the harder the screening process.

So, I have moved away from explicit sex talk somewhat. However, there is still one way that I find sex talk as a screening tool to be helpful: to screen women for certain sexual preferences and to find out what their sexual preferences are, especially those of a more unusual nature. When you have sex, you can more safely opt for those practices. It is a bit like throat-screwing. Most girls are not fans of this, but some love it and like talking about it. If she responds with a positive attitude about it (or better, she says she loves it), chances are that you can safely shove your penis deep down her throat. (But if you are in the moment, and she does not like it, stop. Consent is king.)

The gambit that follows serves this purpose. It can screen for oral and anal sex, and you can create variations of this gambit emphasizing one or the other, given your preference and what you want to screen for. Or you can change it up depending on her response. (She says she loves anal sex, so you focus on that; if she mentions she loves oral sex, focus on that.) Most girls like oral sex, but this gambit is especially suited for those who love it.

 

The Gambit: The Pleasure of Sex

I tend to suggest transitions for my gambits. I will do so today, keeping in mind that this gambit is suited for early game rather than mid to late game. Also, this should not be the first gambit you transition into.

It’s a great gambit to use as a follow-up to previous sex talk gambits. Whenever you have already discussed sex previously, a sexual frame is set, and the conversation is already about sex, so transitioning into other sexual subjects is easier and feels natural as a progression of your interaction. For example, start with a light gambit, perhaps move to this bolder one if the vibe is right and her response is positive. If not, add compliance by gradually increasing the explicit content of your gambit until you reach the point where this gambit feels natural to use. Once that happens, jump right into the gambit.

However, for those who want to screen hard and play high-risk/high-reward, you could transition to this gambit by using a proxy. One example is to talk about a chat you had with a female friend, eventually discussing the themes I am about to share. I will share a quick transition on how to get into the gambit. I am using a gay friend as a proxy, but you can use a female friend, too. I feel that using gay men as proxies can give you extra leeway because it can be viewed as politically incorrect to react negatively when talking about homosexuals and sex, especially in the West.

Alek: So, the other day, I was talking with my gay friend Jacob, and we discussed sources of homophobia and homophobic sex.

Her: Ah, yeah?

Alek: In Western Christian theology and philosophy, sex is often linked to reproduction. The purpose of sex is to reproduce. For this reason, sexual practices not related to reproduction have been associated with sex perversion as it does not live up to its ideal and purpose. Thus, any homosexual sex practice is seen as perverse and could be the source of homophobia.

Her: That’s interesting!

That’s a possible transition. Now for the gambit:

Alek: Even though it is true that sex is linked to reproduction, many sexual practices people enjoy daily, like oral sex, may not suit the ideal of reproduction. However, people find it pleasurable.

Her: Indeed!

Alek: That is fascinating because whenever one penetrates a vagina, there is always this underlying idea or drive related to reproduction, and that’s surely hot on an instinctive level. However, I believe the reason people like it is because it is not associated with reproduction: there are also sexual practices for the sake of sexual pleasure. There is no other purpose behind it than pure pleasure.

Her: Interesting.

Alek: People like anal and oral sex for the sake of excitement and pleasure, not to reproduce. Thus, in some way, there is a sense of purity associated with those practices, as people do those sexual acts, not because of a desire to reproduce but purely for the pleasure of sex!

Her: That’s an interesting point of view.

 

Follow-up Gambits

In the example, the girl reacted positively. However, a girl may mention that she loves oral sex but doesn’t like anal sex; she loves anal sex but doesn’t like oral sex. If she dislikes one practice, stop talking about it and focus on what she enjoys. If she says she loves one, focus on that subject. If she doesn’t like either, change the subject and talk about something else for a while. Try a different sex talk gambit. If you are a hard screener and want girls who have anal sex or oral sex and love it, and she isn’t one of them, move on to another girl. The choice is yours.

The follow-up gambits I provide next are optional.

 

Oral Sex Gambit

If she expresses a liking for oral sex and you want to talk about that to set a strong “oral sex frame” (which may increase the likelihood of good oral sex later), proceed as follows:

Alek: The beauty of oral sex is that you have the most control with your mouth, much more than with one’s penis, vagina, or ass. Thus, there is more personality involved since you use technique and control.

Her: True.

Alek: Another beautiful aspect is that you are giving something to someone. In fact, oral sex is a process of mutual gifting: the pleasure of giving and receiving a gift. It adds a sexy narrative!

Her: So true!

Alek: And it also feels amazing, don’t you think? What do you like about it?

Her: [Mentions what she enjoys]

Now, get the conversation going to build some strong sexual rapport.

 

Anal Sex Gambit

For the backdoor lovers:

Alek: It’s funny that some view anal sex as dirty and taboo, but that is what makes people attracted to it even though it has become normalized. The forbidden is sexy.

Her: Indeed!

Alek: Did you know that women who have anal sex and orgasm from it generally orgasm more easily in general? Perhaps it’s because she is more comfortable with her body. Those women also tend to orgasm harder from anal sex, probably because of the design of their vagina, so the wall between the rectum and the vagina is more sensitive and reachable through anal sex.

Her: Interesting!

Alek: Shockingly, many women love anal sex but are afraid of feeling judged and, of course, some are scared of accidents. In my experience, this does not happen often, and usually, one can avoid those by simply checking with a finger first: either he does it, or she does! Problem solved!

Her: Clever!

Alek: And if, by chance, there is an accident, well, whatever, it is not fun but no big deal really (sexual comfort).

Her: Oh, so many men get mad when accidents happen.

Alek: Well, it is part of the game.

 

Mechanisms at Play

The idea behind this gambit is to discuss philosophically interesting facts about sex before moving on to more explicit topics.

What can this gambit do?

• It reinforces the sexual frame.

• It implies sexual experience (sexual prizing).

• It screens for sexual preferences (anal and oral sex).

• It gives a good reframe related to the taboos of some sexual practices (sexual reframing).

• It gets her talking and thinking about those sexual practices, and she will link those to you, increasing the chance of them occurring.

What can the follow-up gambits do?

• You talk further about each sexual practice, reinforcing the sexual frame, allowing the frame to be more about those practices so they are likely to occur when sex happens.

• If she happens to love oral or anal, she will be very aroused! (If she doesn’t, she won’t, and you should NOT use the follow-up gambits!)

• They show sexual experience with each sexual practice through sexual prizing.

• When using the anal sex follow-up gambit, you generate sexual comfort, which may be necessary when dealing with this practice.

 

Recap

The pleasure of sex gambit:

• Screens for anal and oral sex

• Tells you if she likes both or either of these practices, thereby increasing the chance of them occurring by doing a follow-up.

Remember that the gambits given are examples. Feel free to rephrase and reword them. After you learn the mechanisms at play and understand the themes, play around with variations you like.

Let her talk if she reacts well and shares her opinions and experiences with each practice. She will give you key information and material you can use to further your sex talk, plus it allows her to invest in the interaction, which is always desirable.

Now, for you dirty people, go out and have fun!

Best,
Alek