To men, women can seem disloyal… Or at least, not nearly as loyal as men. What’s it take to find a loyal lady anyway?
One of the most discombobulating romantic statements I hear from men goes like this:
“I just want to find a girl that’s loyal.”
It’s not discombobulating because women can’t
be loyal. Plenty of men throughout history, down through to today, have
had women deeply loyal to them.
3. Different Loyalty Expectations
5. Different Men, Different Results
6. Conditioning Her for Loyalty
The statement discombobulates, rather, because you cannot ‘find’ loyal women. Any more than you can dig deep into a diamond mine in search of engagement rings, or wander into the African savanna on the lookout for trained circus lions. You may find diamonds in the diamond mine, but you won’t find rings; you might find lions in the savanna, but they won’t be trained. So it is with women.
Some women are more inclined toward loyalty than others, it’s true. But women by nature are opportunistic. They are romantic guns-for-hire, ready to serve whoever makes the best offer... and eminently practical when the lord they’d hoped to sign on with is unable or unwilling to give them the agreement they need.
“I want to find a loyal woman” is a foundational misunderstanding of female psychology. It projects male values onto female prospects.
But women aren’t men. And the way they think about loyalty, treat it, and uphold or enforce it is very, very different.
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