before we get started: this one’s more for intermediate and up
guys who are running into this issue. For guys who are beginners, stick
with treating your interactions with women more “mechanistically” and
breaking them down into bite-sized pieces and goals you’re trying to
accomplish and milestones you’re trying to pass – you’ll learn a lot
faster that way. Think of this article as “switching to natural... once
you’re already fairly good.”
A reader named Robert writes in:
“I have a question, hope you guys can answer it for me!
I have pretty solid game, can get girls, move things forwards etc.. etc...
Where I stumble is in my own experience of the whole interaction- MY attraction to HER! Is it because I’m not going for hot enough girls? I’ll get super turned on when the situation is still unclear, and sex is not guaranteed. But then once I am pretty sure it’s gonna happen, I will lead her to it, but my arousal is wayyy less than earlier/before the interaction.
My thoughts are I should try to escalate as I feel the tension, in slow, somewhat intense and subtle ways... focusing more on the vibe and staying with it. Or perhaps convince myself that sex is not guaranteed yet? Or is this a sign that I am simply trying to pump my own ego, and the attraction isn’t real to begin with?”
Ah, yes. An all too common issue of the developing seducer: why does reaching the point where she’s ready to go to bed with you kill all your interest in the sex?
The instant it’s unequivocally clear that yes, she DOES want to go to bed with you, and WILL go to bed with you – POOF! All the crazy desire you had to go to bed with her up until that point just vanishes.
Where did it go, and why does this happen?
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