How much should you care what others think? Everyone cares at least a little. The key is that the reactions of others can tell you what to modify in yourself.
1. Improvement is No Bad Habits
2. Understand Why They Dislike You
3. Criticism Out-Values Compliments
I’ve always seen the opinions of others as a paradox.
We’ve all heard people say they don’t care what anyone thinks of them.
Well, that’s sort of impossible. If you didn’t care what people thought of you, you would never take time to cater your reputation or really even talk to people in general, since their opinion of you is a non-issue.
Obviously the spirit of this mantra of “no fucks given” is meant to combat the neuroticism that leads to the criticism or hate of others keeping you from pursuing what you want to pursue, but there is something to be said about learning from criticism.
Criticism, and even hate, can highlight possible areas of improvement, especially in regards to how you communicate your thoughts and ideas, either verbally or non-verbally.
In other words, if someone dislikes what you say or do, many times it’s how you come off doing it, not necessarily what you actually did.
And if we completely ignore the criticisms of others, we are missing out on possible improvements, no?
For instance, the advice of a mentor or teacher is criticism, but it comes from a place of compassion. He wants you to see how he sees your flaws, because he wants you to fix them, since it’s your desire to become better.