Girls teach you a lot when you try to talk to them, date them, or pick them up. They’re among the greatest teachers you’ll have, in fact.
In Drexel’s post yesterday on the top 3 reasons to pick up sober, he discussed pickup as a crucible through which you may purge demons and unlock total masculinity.
There are a few areas of life that shape and mold boys into men in their own unique ways:
- Group leadership (sports, clubs, politics, priesthood, military)
- Business operation (or in particular, business ownership)
- Cold approach pickup
None of these are guarantees. Plenty of men make it through any of these crucibles with gaping holes in their masculinity.
The talented seducer who sobs over yet another girlfriend who’s ditched him, or flies into a rage when some girl dares reject him.
The father who fails to discipline his children out of fear and instead raises dysfunctional adults.
The leader who’s a leader in name only, and never learns to look out for anyone more than himself.
The teacher who’s only in it for the paycheck, the power, or to indoctrinate and inculcate, versus the instructor who exists to challenge, spark curiosity, and open minds.
The business operator or owner who cuts corners and does anything for a buck, leaving a trail of burned contractors, employees, and customers in his wake.
However the man who takes his cultivation serious can grow enormously in any of these roles... Far more so than he can in any other way.
That’s because central to each of these roles are two elements as crucial to succeeding with women as they are to succeeding as a man: the social crucible, and responsibility for more than one’s self.