Check the nightlife, and you’ll see almost every guy out to pick
up girls is drunk or high. If you can do it sober, you give yourself a
major competitive advantage.
Do you blaze, drink, or do lines when you go out and hit the club to
chat up girls?
One year ago, William Gupta talked about the truth about taking drugs and hooking up.
After a decade in the Game, I've noticed something striking - almost nobody is sober. When guys learn and practice pick-up, they tend to be drunk, stoned, or both... and a lot of the guys gaming in clubs are, to put it bluntly, doing coke in the bathrooms in order to keep themselves "up" for the long haul of partying and hitting on women until 2 in the morning.
Before you think I'm just being some prude who can't have a good time, let me preface what I'm about to say by mentioning that I struggled with various forms of addiction for a full decade. I've been through the depths of that hell, I know what the demons look and sound like in your head, and I know precisely what kind of blade a man needs to sever them in half and regain his life from the abyss.
Now, before I get into my top 3 reasons to practice pick-up sober, I'll briefly explain why I think so many guys can't seem to perform this art without a little "chemical help" of some type. I believe that the primary reason so many guys do pick-up stoned or drunk... which REALLY became clear once I cleaned up my act and started living the sober life... is that pick-up is scary as hell.
Despite our tendency to think of ourselves as übermenschen in this community who cannot show weakness or vulnerability, let's be real for a second. Walking up to a woman out of our league and trying to have sex with her triggers basically every hardwired fear that men have.
Fear of rejection. Fear of being ostracized from the tribe. Fear of getting your ass kicked by her caveman boyfriend whom you didn't notice next to her until it was too late.
Intoxicating substances, frankly, help dull the edge of those fears enough for a guy to ignore the fact that what we're doing in pick-up is a massive complex of social violations that most human beings will never truly engage in.
And they can help, in some respects. Alcohol can make conversation come more easily. Weed can make loud club music easier to digest if it's not your scene. Stimulants can give you the extra energy to talk and dance all night long, and depressants can give you a chill, detached vibe that some women can't get enough of.
When practicing pick-up, especially at first, substances can be a great crutch. I will not deny the efficacy of these tools. But the problem with all crutches, of course, is that they lessen a man's ability to depend on himself - to truly believe that he can do it, on his own, without help.
And that leads to my first reason why you should start practicing pick-up sober.
#1: Crutches Make You Weak
Just your average nightlife seducer in action.
Sometimes in life, crutches are necessary. Should you fall down and break a leg, you'll need help to walk again, get your chores done, and go where you want throughout the day.
That's because a part of you has been crippled and you quite literally cannot operate fully without a crutch of some kind.
Other times we use a crutch simply because it's easier. Let's be honest for a moment here - none of us guys in the seduction community are here because we were given everything we needed as children to develop into fully mature, masculine, powerful alpha males. If we were, we probably wouldn't be reading Girls Chase.
We each have, in one way or another, some form of psychological or emotional issue, probably since an early age, that crippled our natural ability to succeed with women (probably due to the culture in which we grew up or even some childhood trauma in some cases). That is why, oftentimes, it is easy to justify the use of chemical crutches just to return to a baseline level of strength and independence - because we really DO need the help at first.
The problem is...
When you learn pick-up drunk or high, your neural circuitry equates "getting laid" to "being drunk or high." The result: when you remove the condition of being intoxicated, the other condition does not arise on its own.
"State-dependent memory" is a phenomenon in which certain actions and thought patterns will only arise when your body and mind are in a particular state. This means you can accidentally train yourself to only be able to succeed while intoxicated - and be reduced to a stuttering nervous wreck while sober. This, while it can get you laid a lot, is not the best thing for you and your personal development.
If you go that route, you might easily find yourself reaching for a drink or a joint whenever you want to speak to a woman, simply because that is the state in which you best operate. This can have a severely damaging effect on your wallet, your health, and ultimately - your self-esteem.
It is not good to believe that you, AS YOU ARE, are not "good enough" to get laid. If you forever believe you "need" something else - something external or a chemical alteration in order to pick up women successfully - you'll never develop that inner core strength that will not only make you more attractive in the long run, but will also make you a healthier and happier human being in general.
If you're in this to become the best version of yourself, then you must throw away the crutches.
Not to mention...
#2: You Will Remember Your Best Lines and Moves More Easily
When the only thing you remember the next day was getting laid.
The majority of my most hard-hitting lines, shit test responses, and power plays happen in the moment. They're naturally improvised in response to something the girl says or does, which I did not prepare for ahead of time - I simply rode the energy of the interaction to a new height... with a nuclear impact.
Those illuminating moments are the ones that will shape and guide your Game prowess more than any other. They will teach truths you cannot read in a seduction manual or a study of evolutionary psychology.
And they are, sadly, the first to be forgotten if they were fostered by chemical aids. You might wake up the next day wondering how you managed to get laid, or with only a vague recollection of what you said or did.
When you're sober, on the other hand, the clarity of the moment facilitates the searing emotional impact on your memory that gets burned in so deeply that the response becomes automatic next time you are in a similar situation.
Even better, once the conversation is over, you can immediately go home and write down, word-for-word, precisely what you said or did and the impact it had on the girl in question.
You can add it to your playbook, logically and critically analyze how and why it worked so well, and even develop new techniques and lines based on the principles of what you discover through this process. This is simply not the case when you live your life with your brain in a constant state of fog.
Retaining a clearer memory is a fantastic benefit of doing pick-up sober. But the most impactful benefit, by far, is...
#3: You Will be Forced to Heal
There are no answers at the bottom of that bottle.
This reason, in my opinion, is the most important. As an ex-addict, I know all too well the truth: that most people hooked on substances use them because they're absolutely terrified of the emotions they help to suppress.
We don't want to face the past, so we dull our minds to it. We don't want to feel the shame associated with the decisions we've made, so we detach our brains from objective reality and forget what we've done. We don't want to acknowledge our weakness and our failings, so we distract ourselves from ever looking inward by staying in a permanent state of intoxication.
Look, pick-up is hard. It's not a sport for the weak. It's something most men will never even attempt, and the vast majority of those who try will give up long before they succeed. In that way, it's a self-selecting endeavor by which those who succeed earn the right to succeed by giving an enormous amount of energy and perseverance to the improvement of this skill set.
And there are plenty of examples of people who "bulldozed" their way to success in pick-up, learning the correct "outer veneer" that it takes to succeed without ever actually becoming better, healthier, more attractive men in the process. They get laid, but they're faking dominance cues instead of actually becoming more powerful men.
But getting sober and then going through the crucible of the seduction learning curve will not only force you to acknowledge your demons... it's going to bring each of them to the forefront of your consciousness, force you to feel every nuance of their influence over your heart and mind, and rewire your very soul to minimize their influence.
Childhood traumas, social programming, and fears built upon past experiences will come to life in vivid Technicolor before your eyes. You won't have the option of looking away. You will have to face them, and you will have to fight and overcome.
In doing so, you will not only gain an immense amount of self-control and wisdom - which is very attractive in and of itself - but you will have gone to battle, fought valiantly, and emerged victorious.
And that battle, my brothers, will lead you so deeply into yourself that you will come out the other side having true self-knowledge and the mastery of mind and emotions that comes with the territory.
At the end of the day, it's the single greatest endeavor you can ever undertake for yourself. And I promise you this: there is no greater feeling on Earth than knowing you can walk into a situation, at any time, with no help whatsoever, and achieve exactly what you've set out to accomplish.
It's what every Sovereign man should aspire to, and seducing women sober is one of the fastest - and most powerful - ways to arrive.
What to Do Next
I know that simply the thought of approaching women sober might terrify the living daylights out of you. I know you may have tried in the past, found it too difficult, and turned instead to the quicker and easier path of chemical aids and emotional suppressants.
But as the saying goes: Man is like a river, and becomes corrupted by taking the path of least resistance.
Avid readers of Girls Chase will recognize the path of least resistance as a positive and essential part of the curriculum - that is, minimizing the obstacles faced by women on their journey to your sheets. But in the context of this article (using intoxication as a "path of least resistance" - a crutch), this "easy path" will stunt your growth and keep you from the higher plateaus. That's why I'm recommending that, regardless of how far you've come or how many women you've been with, you start over, sober, and learn it again from the ground up.
At first it will be much, much harder. Your own emotions will fight you every step of the way. But in learning how to properly manage them and build a skill set with genuine core confidence at its foundation (rather than only a slick set of practiced and perfected maneuvers), you will truly join those ranks of men who deserve to be called conquerors, warriors, and heroes.
Drexel
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