In "Why I Quit Dating Girls Who Club, Party, or Drink", a reader notes:
“Anyways, I've been having problems with something that should be fairly simple for most people, but I fear that it is far more nuanced than it seems: disagreeing with woman. I remember reading an article about addressing women objections, other one about not saying "no", but I can't seem to find one on "How to disagree with women" or "How to show disapproval".
My point is that, as time goes by and your confidence goes up and you become more comfortable leading women, what happens a fair number of times is that she'll do or say something you do not like. And while a "nice guy" would just suppress that thing in his mind and get over it, I do not. But I must be doing something very wrong, because I'm under the impression that every time that I do this, me and the girl end up arguing, or feeling that our connection is somehow weaker, etc.
So, I ask you, is there a "right" way to say/show you *don't* agree with an attitude she had (or any other thing that comes to mind)?”
The way you'd hear it from most men, disagreeing with women cannot or should not be done, at least not in a way that's anything remotely close to effective at getting your point across or changing her mind.
You've pretty much got to just bite your tongue and let it slide... unless you really want to get your hindquarters handed to you in tatters.
While I used to subscribe to the old advice of "stay unreactive" - basically, sit there like a lump of coal and do nothing and say nothing, no matter how crazed, incorrect, or offensive she becomes - I'm only a (pseudo-)fan of that these days in certain situations.
These days, I'm a big
believer in dealing with disagreeable statements swiftly, the moment
they come up. How you disagree with women depends on the situation,
though - sometimes it's going to entail direct confrontation, but many
times you'll take a far subtler approach.
Either way, if being completely unreactive is out, you're going to need another set of tools to deal with disagreements.
And I've got just the tools you need.
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