This is an article about the journey you will experience as you
proceed from a man who never walks up to strange women to introduce
himself and flirt, to a man who does so all the time, and reaps the
rewards, both in terms of women and in terms of how he thinks about women.
If you have read my two previous articles on this website (here’s one and here’s two), you might
have noticed that there is a word that I mention frequently (directly
or indirectly): and the word is cold approach. In my
case, the preference is for street
cold approach, though cold approach of any kind is the key.
Cold approach is at the heart of my game; in fact, it is my entire game. When I say it is my “entire” game, I do not only refer to my outer game, but to my inner game as well.
The power of cold approach is so big that I cannot put limits on it. It contains a transformative power that has the ability to change your relationship with women in a dramatic way, on all levels. There is a lot of talking about “inner game”. Well, despite being the cause of your actions, your mindset will also follow the progress you make in cold approach.
Now, let’s make an important clarification: everything is mind and everything comes from the mind. As a consequence, outer game is really a reflection of your inner game. It all starts with a decision, and the decision will happen in your mind. You’ll decide that you are entitled to hot girls, so you’ll go out and talk to them, and then through consistent action you’ll start seeing evidence of your own belief.
Therefore, action is not the cause, the cause is your decision. Action simply follows your decision, and that’s why inner game always comes before outer game. And yet, action is the only way to play this game. Action is born from your inner game, and yet it is the only way to change, improve, sharpen, and expand your inner game. That’s the paradox.