14 Simple Ways to Text a Girl and Make Her Want You

Dr. Klas-

Good question. I'd assume they're the same... but I deliberately avoid using apps (WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, WeChat). So I do not actually know.

Let me ping a few folks and get back to you on that one. I'll update this comment once I have some confirmation one way or the other for you.

UPDATE: here's what other guys from around GC had to say:

• Denton: "It's the same IMO. Then again my text and online game are trash. All about that cold approach"

• Tony: "On WhatsApp I use voice memos more often"

• Hector: "Same principles, except there's 'read receipts' so someone can know if you read their message or not if you turn them on. Most people do. Or you can turn them off, so no one knows if you read them, but you also don't know if they read you. I think that changes the dynamics a bit... in some meta way I can't describe"

Seems to be largely the same (same messages, timing, etc.), except with a few feature differences: voice memos, read receipts. Hope this helps!

Chase

Ben-

Good question!

Yeah, that'll happen. A mild text conversation can be fine. Just a couple messages in between... if, say, the date is five days out, on the third day after you've set the date, a little rapport text and a few back-and-forth messages can do the trick. For a rapport text, just write a Standard Scheduler Text, but leave the scheduling question off. So it's:

1. Greeting
2. Consideration
3. New information

Then trade a couple texts when she replies. Don't get in too deep.

My personal preference though is if she won't be free for 4+ days, to delay setting details for the meet until we draw closer.

Once you confirm the date, and it's far off, you tell her you'll ping her when you're closer to plan the details.

That's like this:

There's a non-zero chance your "Let's set the details" text several days later results in a flake if she's cooled off. But in my experience it's no greater than the flake rate for girls you set the details for in advance, then call or text in the interim to keep things warm.

There are two advantages of delaying the details until you're close to the date I like:

1. No risk of the interim conversation going weird or derailing things

2. You avoid the "she liked the date idea four days ago, but now she doesn't like it" problem, because you don't set the idea until a few days before the date

Up to the guy, of course. You can do either: set the details, then have an interim chat to keep things warm. Or pick a date but delay setting any further details until the date draws near.

Chase

Científico-

Yes, girls cooling off will happen sometimes... especially when there's a delay until the date. Sadly.

You should try to choose an approach based on your read of how well things went with her. If you made a strong first impression and she clearly liked you, use the delay tactic I mentioned in my response to Ben (commenter above).

If you think she may cool off though (impression not as strong; she seemed busy or more business-like), it may work better to have some interim communication. If you get a strong "this girl's going to cool off" vibe, you may not have made a strong enough impression -- where that's the case, phone calls help a lot. In cases like that, it can be worthwhile to set the date, then a few days in call her up and either have a quick chat or leave a little voice mail in your sexy phone voice.

With girls who don't reply to schedulers: I have done the research, yes!

I used to do the 'witty/interesting text after a few days' without a date request in it. I found girls will often reply to this. Often with an apology for not responding to your earlier request. However, it almost never leads to anything. They don't want to brush you off when they see you're fun/interesting/cool, but they don't want to date you either.

I have had success with switching to phone calls though -- I recommend that. Even if she doesn't pick up, if you leave a great voicemail the "phone paranoid" girls will sometimes respond via text and you can set a date up with them then (once they've heard your voice and remembered they like you). If you can get them on the phone obviously that's even better. Usually it is an 'on the fence' thing; if you can give her some extra things to feel good about you with (like your vocal tonality, your comfort on the phone with her, the laughs she experiences in a call with you, etc.) that can be enough.

The other option you have is to write her off as a one-on-one date candidate, and invite her to a party later. This can work. The weird thing that will often happen is

1. She ignores your scheduler text

2. A week or two later you invite her to a party

3. She apologizes for not responding to your scheduler text, tells you she can't make the party, then offers you her schedule for the one-on-one date

Seems to mostly be a social proof / social value thing. She sees you're a guy with an active social life, decides "Oh! I guess he's okay then", and opts to go out with you at that point.

So, those are your two best options for girls who flat-out ignore the scheduler, in my experience: call her up, or party invite her.

Chase

Lawliet-

National Rebound Day works best with night game. There's a much higher concentration of defiant women out in bars the day after Valentine's than anywhere else.

You can still look for them in day game. But given they're a minority of women out and about, you'll need to do a bunch of approaches to find them anything close to reliably.

Nightlife is far and away your best shot.

Unless you do a bunch of approaches during the daytime.

(though you can certainly keep your feelers out during daytime too... it doesn't hurt any. And you will sometimes run into defiant girls by pure chance this way)

The 'holiday' still applies in any country where Valentine's is a big deal. And national character matters somewhat... Western women are more likely to respond with defiance to things they view as slights as women from some other parts of the world are. But yeah, especially in the West, if Valentine's has a lot of cultural significance, the anti-holiday of National Rebound Day is there to pick up the pieces the day after ;)

Chase

Lawliet-

Well, these are reconstructions. I won't use real girls' images on the site ;)

However, there's a very easy way to get a girl's picture in your phone. And if you take a bunch of numbers or are the busy/distracted sort, it's very helpful.

The way you do it is after she's agreed to the date, and you've taken her contact info, you then say, "Hey, send me a pic real quick so I have you in my phone." Some girls will send to you then, some will send after. Some won't send, which is a little negative compliance but not the end of the world.

In general though, she's complied with the date request, and complied with the contact info, and it's usually not much work to get her to comply with the picture request after these two.

Pictures can be a lifesaver if you bounce around a bit and take numbers fairly often. Girls may fall off your radar and resurface later, and if you don't have a picture you will sometimes have no recollection of whom this girl is. With the picture, one look and usually you'll say "Oh yeah, I remember her!"

Very helpful to have.

Chase

Nice work, Brandon! I'm very happy to hear they helped you line up those dates. Hope the dates went well too.

I wasn't aware the images were missing -- we had to fix something in the article's code a week or two ago; images probably broke then. Just fixed (showing up now). Thanks for pointing the vanished images out!

Chase