14 Simple Ways to Text a Girl and Make Her Want You

You get a girl's contact info. Which is perfect, because you already know exactly how to text a girl. You know what to text her. Even when to text it.

You slide out your phone and tap a quick message in. You hit "send."

Soon after, a response arrives. It's her! She seems thrilled to hear from you.

Not only that, but she is eager to meet up with you. In person.

You set up the date. Now her and you get to meet. It's no longer a digital romance: you've moved things into the real world.

This is the goal of every text you send a woman. It's not to have a fun conversation with her (though you'll do that too). It's not to flirt. It's not even to turn her on. It's to get her out in-person, where you can do all that other stuff so much better. You would rather have her right there with you, where you can touch her, sit near her, and hear her tinkling laughter, wouldn't you?

This article is your easy-to-use guide on how to text a girl and make her want you.

Throughout it, I have more and better text examples for you than you will find anywhere else. You can copy + paste these texts, or use them as guide rails to write your own. You'll also get to understand the psychology behind why these texts work. Once you know why the texts work, it's easy to adapt how you text girls to new situations.

First, a few rules before we start:

Your goal when you text a girl is to get her to meet in person
When you text, you must be brief, yet cover the important stuff
Long conversations are best done in-person, not via messages
You can only truly show two attractive traits over text: a.) confidence and b.) social savvy. Trying too hard to show any other trait (like sexiness, adventurousness, or niceness) moves you further from your goal and hurts your chances with her... so keep your eye on the ball and get her out in person (where you can then show all your other great traits)

I've placed the texts in this article roughly in the order you'll send them.

Follow the game plan, and you'll text a girl out with you, happy to see you, within a few days of meeting her -- or even sooner than that.

Obligatory note: the texts below are reconstructions. I'm not so sleazy as to out real (and awesome!) chicks on here. Please treat these as teaching aids.

About the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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Comments

Your Thoughts on WhatsApp Messenger

Posted by Dr. Klas on Sunday, 10 February 2019

Hi Chase,

Great article as always!

I’d like to know your thoughts concerning switching from text messages to WhatsApp messenger. Of recent, it seems that most people are now on WhatsApp and are more likely to respond to a message there than via text — this is from my experience.

I’ve used it to set up dates, and it worked fine for me or even better than the classic text.

Would you advise these techniques for WhatsApp also?

Let me know your thoughts on this matter, thanks!

Missing something

Posted by Ben on Tuesday, 12 February 2019

Hey chase,

So I dont believe you included this in the article,but I think it's very common for a scenario in which you propose a date to a girl but the meetup cant happen until much later during the week like 5 days later or even more. Most of the examples on the site talk about meeting uo with the girl the day of or the day after but a lot of girls have things to do. So what do you text a girl in between when she agrees to the date and the day of the date so she doesnt forget about you,feel cold from the lack of contact, and is more likely to not flake on you? Hector in his yt livestreams suggest to start a mild text convo in between the days so she doesn't lose interest. What do you think?

Great article - questions

Posted by Científico on Thursday, 14 February 2019

Hey Chase,

Really an excellent post. This one will be in my bookmarks and one to reference often. Two questions:

1.) Echoing what the commenter above posted, sometimes the date will not happen until 4-5 days after the number was acquired, meaning there is a lot of downtime. I just had a situation like this happen to me: met girl on a Sunday, she agreed to a date that day for Thursday. We exchanged numbers, warm reply to icebreaker text. Then I set up a time for the date on Tuesday via text and she agreed (did this with the intention of breaking the silence). Thursday morning (today) I text again to confirm and give a location to meet me: she replies with "Im sorry but I have some stuff to do tonight". Whoa! Something went wrong here, and it problably has to do with her cooling off over that period. What to do here?

2.) I've also had two girls this week who I met from daygame respond to icebreaker texts, yet give me no reply at all to follow up scheduler texts. Can think of a few ways to handle these - i.) write them off, ii.) text some witty random comment a days later to see if they respond, iii.) follow up with a phone call a few days later iv.) another scheduler text?

Of course this can be tested scientifically, but I know Chase that you have done the research!

Thanks very much in advance for your reply,

Científico

Very detailed / Valentines

Posted by Lawliet on Friday, 15 February 2019

Hey Chase,

Thank you for this addition to texting! I like how you addressed different situations!

Re: Valentines

Happy Valentines Day Chase ! Have some chocolates! (where we all stay in and play video games or so is the plan)

I tried going out today, but it was raining with snow from the yesterday lying around.

But I still did it. Went out at 2pm or so, and saw barely anyone out. It was cold and windy and cloudy on a Friday afternoon. So didn't to meet many girls for our National Rebound day :(

Any tips for day game on National Rebound day so I can make the most of it next time? Any time / location / weather considerations to max our outing experience?

Weather might have to do with being fewer people out. Most were old seniors out, maybe because it's at 2pm on a weekday. Then again, defiant girls probably won't be going out at such terrible weather conditions. Oh well, I tried.

Lawliet

p.s. have you tried this in other countries? Any observations?