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Articles by Tony Depp

The 30-Second Rule and Other Night Game Strategies

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Guys often get approach anxiety because they don’t have a strategy: something to start and drive the interaction. So here are some proven night-game strategies for ya!

I used to have this fantasy, sort of like that Sonic Youth video where these two teenagers are staring longingly at each other across a mosh pit but the guy is too shy to approach. The mosh pit eventually bounces them serendipitously into each other.

Before I discovered pickup, I only went to bars to drink, see live bands, and hope that fate would push a hot, lonely, hipster girl into my lap. When I stepped into the mosh pit, I’d just get smashed around into some sweaty punk’s armpit. It wasn’t long before I realized the only dudes there getting laid were in the band.

Then I discovered the pickup community and all its politically incorrect but incredibly effective dating advice.

Out of all the concepts like teasing, negging, displaying higher value (DHV), and cold reads – I’d say the most useful advice is the three-second rule.

What’s the three-second rule?

  1. See a hot girl
  2. Approach her within three seconds (before your stupid brain talks you out of it)

The 3-second rule is great for newbies. But it’s not necessary for advanced guys. I prefer sniper-style game – analyzing my target, gathering data, and not moving until the situation provides maximum effectiveness or maximum results for the least amount of energy.

Advanced night gamers don’t have that annoying little voice that the 3-second rule overrides. We know how to shut it up, or at least ignore it.

The little voice sounds like this:

People will see you. You don’t know what to say. She looks like a bitch. Get a drink first. Maybe you should hit the gym for a month first. Check your Tinder. You can try again tomorrow.”

More Tools to Help Conquer Your Fear of Approaching Women

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If you want to get laid, approach lots of girls. Sounds simple, but what if approaching women terrifies you? These tools will help you conquer your fears.

Approach anxiety is the #1 problem every guy thinks he has.

I say “thinks he has” because once you get over your irrational fear of striking up conversations with attractive women, a whole world of dating possibilities bloom. But you can’t even seed that journey if you’re too afraid to approach.

#2 is knowing “what to say” to girls.

The two are connected.

You don’t approach because you don’t know what to say – you don’t know what to say because you don’t approach. It’s a paradox with a very simple and logical solution.

8 Ways Men Over-Game Women in Pickup

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Guys who do pickup and seduction often over-game women; she’s ready to smash, but they keep spitting game. Here are some tips to avoid falling into that trap.

Are you making success with women more complicated than it needs to be?

Most likely you are. I know – because been there, done that.

In seduction, true beauty is found by taking something rough, disorganized, and raw, then whittling it down into its most pure, functional form. You strip away the excess until all that’s left are results. Or, at least, a sharpened tool, or polished art form.

That’s the idea anyway.

Back when I was a noob, there was this cute barista I wanted to bang. I didn’t realize at the time that I could have had her simply by saying “Hey, what are you up to tonight?” Instead, I’d go in there, order a coffee and practice my game on her.

I’d use push-pull, making fun of the way she wiggled her nose when she talked, or how her lips curled upwards when she was annoyed. I’d show her new gambits, like palm reading, or the horsey flowers routine. I’d do everything except pull the trigger and ask her out.

One day she’d had enough. In the middle of one of my jokes, she said, “Tony, why don’t you just get real with me?”

“Just get real.” Uggh. She was right. I’d been over-gaming. Trying way too hard. Practicing rather than seducing.

Taking something incredibly complex and skill-based seems as if it’s natural, easy – even effortless, as if you were born gifted. That’s the law of Sprezzatura. But to get to Sprezzatura, you’ll have to earn it.

It’s the process of earning your skill that leads you through the land of try-hard, where over-gaming rules the experience.

Rather than focusing on hundreds of theories and tactics, focus on maximizing your strengths and minimizing your weaknesses. Simplify your game.

7 Misconceptions About Pickup and Seduction

Misconceptions About Pickup and Seduction
The seduction community has its share of critics who portray pickup artists as unnatural and manipulative. Here’s why we don’t see it that way.

Remember that classic line from the movie Fight Club? What was the first rule? Oh yeah, don’t talk about Fight Club. And in that movie, almost everyone broke the rule.

The result? The ranks exploded, and they were branded a terrorist organization.

When I first got into pickup, I joined a men’s pickup artist group called the Montreal Lair. It was run by a guy named Cliff who was made Internet-famous by that book The Game. He made me sign a non-disclosure agreement, promising not to talk about the group. “Media has infiltrated us before. We need to protect the identity of our members,” he told me.

Since then pickup artistry has gone mainstream.

Now YouTubers have in-field videos with millions of views. Books on the subject have sold millions of copies, and websites like Girls Chase get millions of readers per month. Yet we hide.

The Value of Putting Your Thoughts and Goals on Paper

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If you don’t chronicle your goals and achievements, kick yourself in the ass and start now. Here’s how it will impact your motivation, success, and fulfillment in life.

Will setting goals speed up or improve your game? Of course – but it’s one of those things you should absolutely do... but probably won’t.

When I first started my pickup journey, I didn’t want to improve my communication skills or achieve social freedom. I wanted to bang college babes. A lot of them. That was my only goal.

Looking back, I could have greatly decreased the time it took to learn the fundamentals if I’d had a proper training regimen, with specific goals.

Rather than goals, I had the desire, which is powerful but somewhat unfocused and inefficient. For some reason, having goals felt like stripping the journey of all its mystery and romance. Sort of like the tortured artist who thinks marketing is selling out.

I didn’t see these sexual desires as goals. My drive to succeed with women was purely instinctual. Just like you need water, I need hot girls. I would never be happy dating mediocre women. It was learn pickup – or become a monk.

But I got over my aversion to writing down goals, and I’m glad I did. Today, I’d be kicking myself if I didn’t. Now I have a dozen journals chronicling years of field research – lists of goals and desired achievements.

20 Types of Girls You'll Meet in Day Game

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Pickup artists are essentially actors – and women, the audience. These day-game tips will help you identify which niche a woman belongs in and calibrate to her quickly.

It’s impossible to find one day-game technique for all women because their archetypes are as diverse as rainforest plant life. I always advise massive field experience – I mean hundreds, or thousands of approaches over a period of years, to build reference memories, rather than relying on techniques alone.

Sometimes when I’m gaming, I feel like I’m playing Grand Theft Auto. In my twelve years of professional skirt-chasing, I’ve met many clichés and stereotypes. So for fun, I thought I’d give you the low-down on 20 of them.

Most game boils down to recognizing and adapting to patterns. You can learn to recognize the archetype and adapt to the social pattern. It’s a bit of a guessing game, but with practice, you can identify the different sorts of girls very quickly and adapt your strategy appropriately.

 

Girls, Girls, Girls

One girl will be open and friendly, another dismissive, shy, or rude. Some are adventurous, and others are cowardly. Some are all about Justin Bieber, and others dark metal. Some swallow and some won’t.

Pickup artists are essentially actors – and women, the audience. The advanced day gamer will be able to identify which niche a woman belongs in and calibrate quickly. You wouldn’t want to play a comedian for a vampire fan, or an action star for a lover of romance – metaphorically.

“Shouldn’t you just be yourself?”

Well sure – if you’re an amateur. The professional rake knows how to throw on a seductive identity like a super hero’s cloak, and only reveals his true self when she’s fully hooked. That’s why Clark Kent couldn’t bang Lois until she discovered he was Superman. Clark Kent sucks.

So on that note, here are 20 types of girls you’ll meet during day game.

Day Game Tour with Tony Depp, Pt.7: Instant Dates

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Why wait days for a first date when you can fit it in right now? Instant dates are perfectly normal, and you’ll be surprised how often girls say yes to them.

In Part 6 of my day game tour, I taught you about The High Five Game and how it can help many aspects of your day game.

Today’s article is about instant dates.

If you’ve been following this series, you’ve learned how to approach with direct compliments, indirectly with situational openers, and how to get phone numbers.

But something many new guys overlook in their nervousness is that some girls will be down for a date right now.

So let's go over some techniques on how to get a date with a girl without having to go through the rigmarole of asking her out, getting her phone number, scheduling a date, getting flaked on, rescheduling, and all the other issues that present themselves between the time you meet a girl and your first date with her.

Seriously, why wait days to do something you can get done right now?

Day Game Tour with Tony Depp, Pt.6: The High Five Game

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Give that chick a high five! Sounds pretty simple, right? But for beginners, it can be a challenge and a great way to learn the fundamentals of day game.

In part 5 of my day game tour, we covered various tips and tricks for day game, like warm-ups, hired guns, transitioning from indirect to direct, and more.

Today’s article is a dive into an exercise I employ in boot camps, and I’ll explain why it’s incredibly powerful for improving your day game.

As a coach, I’ve learned that teaching game is more than pointing and saying “Go talk to her.” The challenge is to nail down lessons on fundamentals, like vocal tonality, body language, and verbal game. You want experiences that push your comfort zone and give you reference memories so that you aren’t stumped when you encounter similar situations.

They say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. That’s one reason why learning game is so hard. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between going to war, and embarrassing yourself in public.

You have to train it.

Also, women love men who “don’t give a fuck.” If you are so embarrassed or worried about social fear that you can’t even give someone a high five… then you give way too many fucks.

On that note, here’s one of my favorite day-game exercises.

Day Game Tour with Tony Depp, Pt.5: Advanced Approach Techniques

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Let’s look at some advanced techniques for day game: how to get in the right state of mind, how to approach and not be creepy, and much more.

In Part 4 of my Day Game Tour, I covered what women want in a man, the three rules of day game, physical game, and logistics. For Part 5, I’m going to hit on more advanced tips to help you get better results.

First off, day game should not be advanced. It should be as simple as possible in theory and execution. I call it advanced in that for a newbie, everything is advanced, and for an intermediate day gamer, advanced techniques should already be common sense.

You should be following the 80/20 rule of 80% practice, 20% theory. So, for every hour you spend reading about pickup, spend three practicing, and you’ll be on the way to Jedi Knighthood.

On that note, here are a bunch more day game tips to help you with those beautiful day game babes.

The BISA Method: How to Turn Dreams into Reality

How to Turn Dreams into Reality
Learning pickup has changed my life. But the mechanism behind my transformation is applicable for realizing any dream you may have. I call it “The BISA Method.”

Gotta say…

Thanks to this pickup stuff, I’ve had a pretty amazing life.

Back when I first discovered it, I only wanted to fix a problem – I had no idea it would lead to a life where I’m actually paid to pursue my passion to write, date incredibly beautiful women, and travel the world coaching and helping men achieve their goals.

It’s like I won some sort of lottery. Thanks Internet!

I took a chance and it paid off. But look, if you’re new to all this self-improvement stuff, here’s a little story to motivate you. Maybe you’ll want to be a world traveling pickup instructor, maybe not, but my story here will illustrate just how big of an impact learning these skills has had on my life – and how big an impact it could have on yours.