How to Be a Sexy Man

Have been continuing to read the posts here since finding the site two months ago and was just re-reading the one about paying for dates and a thought occured to me.

It seems like on most of the posts, if I'm understanidng you correctly, you make yourself the lover by dq'ing yourself as the friend or provider.

My question is whether dq'ing youself is the only way to make that clear or if there is something you can do to help ID yourself as the lover without/in addition to that approach.

I posted here because this seems to be the closest to answering that, but I'm not sure that most of the behaviors here are truly exclusive to the lover category.

Also random thought about walking with your legs wider, particularly if you point your toes out.... seems to me it makes your hips look narrower which in itself is considered more masculine, plus it makes your shoulders look broader then by comparison as well. Thinking this might be part of the reason for your noted reaction.

So recently I decided to try some online dating and I sent out many messages to girls I was interested in and today I got a reply back from one of them saying I looked like I was 6(I am 21). My mouth dropped open. I do get the age thing a lot and its been anywhere from 12 to 16 but I have never gotten 6 before. Anyway I can't yet get "sexy facial hair". Is there anything that can be done? I wear mature clothes and I actually have a voice that is quite deep so when I meet someone in person I am obviously not a young teenager. But my concern is that the girls I have messaged are seeing my photo assuming I am some bored middle school student or teenager yanking their chaines and therefore "passing me up"

don't disqualify yourself as bf, its more difficult that way. being carefree is the better way to go, she says you'd make a great boyfriend, you respond by a sexy smirk or smile and bite half your lip, then run your hand through your hair and look her in the eyes really sexy and say"maybe". Its so ambigious and also leaves room for possibility. you've made yourself hard to get and mysterious.

I agree with these. I'm a girl and i know what a guy could do to make himself much sexier. this is accurate. I'd be attacted to a guy like this. there is one other thing though. you have to seem like your not trying, going about it quickly is a good approach but there are a few things you could add. There is a good example of a very sexy men that anywomen would want. watch the real world cancun and the boy Joey is sexy as hell even though he's not that beautiful and then colin from the twilight series. that movie was absolutly horrible and the actor was pale and not even good looking but his attitude was so sexy that girls watch the movie just to see him. i watched part of it and im like wow that's so sexy. please have sex with me, take my virginity i don't care lol. I don't know why guys are so oblivious to this. most boys are so obnoxious.

kindly elaborate on how to use your mouth and smile ?
What exactly are pursed lips ? Few pictures would be of great help.
And what about the smirk/smile thing ?

Hey man, really great article! I really want to start applying these things to my life.

One question, how exactly do you recommend one change their voice? I'm still unsure with that after reading this article. Any specific role models to look up to in terms of voice?

As a woman who loves (good) casual sex (with sexy men), I wish it were more common for men to do these things you recommend, because sexy men are actually frustratingly hard to find. For most of us (men *and* women, myself included), being sexy does require quite a bit of conscious effort and work in terms of cultivating a good attitude and maximising your physical attractiveness. I think a lot of men simply don't realise they can increase their sexiness levels, another group don't have attracting women as a priority (which is fair enough), and then a lot have bought the idea that women just aren't very sexual and so don't see any reason to work on enhancing their sexual attractiveness. That leaves only a really small proportion who are either magically, naturally super-hot, or who have deliberately developed their sexual attractiveness. It's tragic! *Here I pause to give thanks to the universe for the sexy men I *do* know and get to fuck*

On one point I have to disagree though - I think a good conversation isn't focused on one of its participants, and I for one prefer perhaps a 1/3 each split of talking about him, me, and other issues & ideas. When a man I'm getting to know continually steers conversation onto me I often feel quite uncomfortable, and it generally comes across as very pick-up-y (in the bad way) and inauthentic. I also think that any woman who just wants to talk about herself constantly, well, kind of sucks.

what if you are really close to a girl (family friends) and you really like her, i have read most of your other articles, and must say, they are very helpful, anyways, i was wondering, the family friend i really like only likes me as a friend, not as a "partner" and im really not sure what to do, iv actually thought about "using" other girls to get her to notice, but i just cant do that, as i respect women, not treat them like tissues, (use it and go to the next) can you please help!!!

Thankyou, please respond :)

Hi, Chase. Although I've read your post on voice, I could use more help with it. Improving tone and depth would nice, and possibly on how to talk when nervous (sometimes, even the best get nervous.) My voice is kind of shaky and I sometimes have a hard time getting the desired tone or delivery. It's a very important fundamental, so this would be appreciated to say the least.

Thanks!

What's up,

I am beginning to apply your physical methods and it's powerful, but there is something I'm confused about. How would you look sexy and powerful when you sit down in a chair, couch, etc?

This post is my new Bible. I'll post back in 6 months to let you know how things are going.

But what if you are ugly, and you know it? You can't be sexy if you are physically unattractive. Right?

Hi Chase, I have a problem called gay voice. I am 100 percent straight, but i sound like a faggot. You can imagine its not very sexy, voice is 38 percent of communication. What can i do? Should i just take some steroids or something?

I read all items written above and i would implement it in the future. I thanks very much!

Made very interesting reading.

I do feel concerned particularly for the younger generation since they are spending way too much time pissing around online dating sites. They just need to get out and meet women cold. Let's how you learn to build confidence and perfect the art of sexiness if you like. Not sitting around trying or tapping on your phone to someone you have only met online. Plus you are actually sacrificing that sexiness by being online in the first place.
This also goes for the girls

You cannot convey true sexiness online no matter how hard you try.

Hey man,

I'm not saying I'm not sexy or never was but I'm just starting out and I've read a lot of your articles (and actually tried to comment but it's not possible on my iPad it seems). And I've learned a few things in the past unfortunately not as much as I have in the past week or so. I'll say more in the forum section because it's just crazy what I've had to go through and what I've been seeing recently. I guess I'm just trying to saying thank you for now because at this point in the past week I have seen several girls turning their heads and looking at me so I think I'm doing something right. In addition to that I was at church this past Sunday after a long absence but not too long and the women were doting on me like are you looking for a wife and different things and one asked me for my number and they're all over 65 years old (way older than me) and have never done that before even though I've looked good in the past. My ex taught me a few things about clothing and bought the shirt I was wearing and so some of the credit goes to her but I've worn it before, worked out before, dressed nice before, etc but never got the comments like I did this past Sunday. I am blown away so just wanted to say thanks.

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