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The Darker Personalities of Prolific Seducers

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By: Daniel Adebayo

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Men who sleep with large numbers of women typically are less than normal guys. Whether due to ego or antisocial personality, they stand apart.

A brief warning. In this article, I’ll be shining a light on the darker side of seducers and seduction. I know that a lot of our readers often wonder: what is it like when you’re on top of your game and regularly taking new women to bed? What does the life of such men look like? How do the seducers with strong hedonistic tendencies think? What would it be like to look through their eyes?

These are questions that once plagued my mind several years ago. And I believe it would be quite educational to answer some of them, so I will do so in today’s article. But like I said – it’s going to be a bit dark.

I’m basing this article off my experiences from the last year or so (as well as many conversations with fellow seducers who have been operating at this level – and beyond – for several years).

When you’re ready, feel free to join me down the rabbit hole.

How to Use Sex Talk in Day Game

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Sex talk is a powerful technique to turn women on. But is there a way to use it outside nighttime venues? How do you use it in day game?

I wrote this article as a drawn-out and more elaborate version of the advice I had for a reader in the comments section of Alek’s article on conversational pauses – it was actually Alek himself that alerted me to the reader’s question.

The reader asks:

“I was wondering if you have any examples of using sexual prizing in day game.

Just curious how it would be played to work effectively.”

This is an excellent question.

Though I think, instead of just focusing the article on how we can use sexual prizing in day game (since that’s only one of several ways to use sex talk), it would be better to explain how sex talk works as a multifaceted technique and how it can be used in our day-game interactions.

Now, before getting into the specific tips and step-by-step methods, I also think it’s necessary for us to understand sex talk as a concept in the broader sense of seduction.

We need to familiarize or reacquaint ourselves with the purposes served by sex talk during a seduction. Because with any seduction technique, the more you understand the purpose of the technique, as well as what you’re trying to accomplish with it, the better your chances of pulling it off properly. And with an advanced technique like sex talk, it’s especially important that we understand the concept behind it at least somewhat, because if we don’t, it’s very likely we might end up making mistakes in field that could have easily been avoided.

So in this article, I will first dispel any fogginess that might be associated with sex talk and make things as clear as day. Once we understand sex talk as a general concept, figuring out what it can accomplish in day game will be very straight forward. Then we can get on to some of the more specific aspects of how we use sex talk in day game.

6 Ways to Prepare Yourself and Get in State to Meet Girls

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These 6 tools get you ready to go out and meet new girls. Mental preparation + a good state? It’s what the love doctor ordered.

In most of the articles here on Girls Chase, we often discuss the nuances of the seduction. From the specifics of what to say to girls, tips on frame control, how to respond to tests, as well as the building blocks that make a talented seducer – the mindsets, the fundamentals, and how to maximize them.

But in this article, we’ll talk about one of those building blocks. An under-discussed yet key component of what makes an able seducer; one that gets overlooked: how prepare yourself to meet new girls.

Today we’ll focus on what happens before you even step outside the door. Plus how you can make a few easy adjustments (six, in particular) to maximize the results of an outing.

If You Go Out to Meet Girls, You Need to be Cross Gaming

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Do you do day game, or night game? When you cross game – that is, do both day game AND night game – you get the benefits of both, and more.

Have you decided to start to cold approach but wonder which type to choose – day or night game?

Or maybe you’re already experienced at one or the other, and you’ve asked yourself whether it’s worth it to branch out. Should you stick to your niche... or diversify?

To put simply, should you make a choice between these two times of day, two styles of meeting women?

I believe quite firmly that the answer is to do both.

This article sums up my reasons for why you should be ‘cross gaming’.

What is cross gaming?

Cross gaming is making use of multiple avenues to meet and seduce women. While there are several ways to cross game (i.e., social circle, online, etc.), for the sake of this article, we’re going to focus on the cold-approach aspect of both day game and night game to meet and seduce women.

In this article, I’m going to explain why you should start cross gaming... if you aren’t already.

The Spontaneous Bounce, Conversation Control, and Seductive Flexibility

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Sometimes it’s going great with a girl – and then it all goes sideways. To have any shot at saving things, you need one quality: flexibility.

We already know how important it is to be smooth.

The ideal master seducer – a man who can walk into a room, pick out a woman, and consistently take her to bed – must be smooth. Now, there are several things we can do to elevate our game to bring us closer and closer to that ideal. We work on our fundamentals, we develop our conversational skills, we handle the logistics. And with time and elbow grease, our interactions start becoming smoother with women and more efficient in our dating.

However, even as we become better with girls, we can still have interactions that go sideways. Something happens that takes us by surprise, disrupts the flow, and makes you think it must be ‘game over’. I’m sure you’ve had moments like these, and experiencing that crushing feeling of:

 “I had her... we were so close... but things just went wrong.”

Thus, the topic of today’s article – a characteristic we want to develop alongside smoothness. This characteristic is a key element of truly stellar frame control. That characteristic is flexibility.

And to help you add a dose of flexibility to your seductions, and give you a pair of wonderful firefighting techniques for those scenarios where things go sideways, today I want to discuss the spontaneous bounce, and conversational control.

How to Build a Woman Cloud (and Unlock Abundance Mentality)

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Dating is a lot more fun if you have a cloud of women to choose from. To build your woman cloud, you’ll need a slightly different approach to follow-up.

This article revolves around a common question I get asked – about an issue with a particular kind of seduction, with a particular kind of girl. Maybe she’s hotter than the usual… or maybe there was a genuine connection, or the stakes felt pretty high. I’m sure most of the readers have run into similar situations during certain levels of their progress… I’m sure a lot of you can relate.

Maybe you met her at a bookstore, or on the street, or at a bar. You traded phone numbers and tried to set up a date. She’s busy. Or you set up a date, and she flaked. A lot of seducers at the intermediate level and below tend to get quite bothered by this issue. And I certainly did, too.

And what’s the solution? Better texting? Making a stronger impression? Both are valid things to try. However, those aren’t the types of things that address the deeper problem, which is:

Abundance.

An abundance mentality is something that has been discussed on Girls Chase before. And most of us already have an idea of what it looks like… or should look like. To a seducer with abundance mentality, that particular seduction or that particular girl isn’t a cause for concern... because there’s always going to be another girl willing to go to bed.

But you might be curious… how can one cultivate such an attitude?

It usually takes a few years – and heaps of experience – before this starts to take shape. It doesn’t happen overnight. But what if you could develop a higher level of abundance… let’s say, in a few weeks’ effort, or a month, or even… this time next week?

That might sound like a tall order… but it’s something that can definitely be done.

The Sexual Reframe, Part II: Sexual Mystique

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You can use the sexual reframe to quickly make conversations hot and sexual. The trick is to build a mystique – and to paint sexual images into her mind.

In my previous article I reintroduced the concept of the sexual reframe.

To recap... the sexual reframe is a technique where you take a girl’s desire for sex, and mold it into something new and different that can be enjoyed by the two of you.

This also ties into the power of liminal space – a moment hanging between time and space, in which whatever happens “doesn’t count” and we get to tap into our primal desires. And, as I discussed in the previous article, sexual reframing is a technique used on top of a liminal space to suggest to her that she shares your desires – with the purpose of heightening the sexual experience.

It’s how you encourage her to like – what you like.

Now, to pull this off consistently, there are just 2 necessary steps that need to be worked into your seductions. Think of it as a recipe for sexual reframing.

  1. Cultivate a Sexual Mystique
  2. Share Emotional and Erotically-charged Narratives

The Sexual Reframe, Part I: Reprogram Her Desires

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The sexual reframe lets you take innocent behaviors and make them sexual. To pull this off, you need three (3) requirements in place first.

In the era we live right now – an era of rampant debauchery and staggering amounts of casual sex, in which everybody is “doing it” or at least making an effort to join in the fun – one night stands, no-strings-attached sex, and friends-with-benefits relationships are not only supported, they’re encouraged.

Especially if, like me, you’re a young man in a somewhat stressful environment like a university... let’s just say that everybody tends to start looking for a way to relieve that sexual energy every now and again. All that pent-up tension has to go somewhere.

You might wonder... in this day and age, with such “loose morals” and lowered levels of anti-slut defense, what’s the point of a sexual frame? Sure it’s a technique that has already been discussed here at length, and by default these days, you might think: “Well, if we’re both attracted to each other, then sex is on the table and will most likely happen in due course.” And you’re right. In most dating situations in North America, Europe, and beyond... there’s much less need for setting an actual “sexual frame” with a girl. More and more these days, girls will happily go to bed with you so long as you present yourself as a sexy man. But if you’d like to take things further, then this might be the article for you.

Please allow me to re-introduce a concept that my buddy Alek Rolstad wowed the seduction community with back in the late 2000’s. It’s called the sexual reframe. It’s also a technique that another master seducer, Ricardus Domino, has been using for almost a decade. And after setting aside time for intensive practice... I’ve been able to use this technique consistently.

How to Calibrate Your Openers to Her Situation

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Do you ever struggle with how to open a girl in a strange or novel setting? The 2-part Opener Calibration model makes talking to new girls easy.

It has been said that a masterful seducer – a man who can flip a woman’s script – can walk into a room, any room, spot a girl and know exactly how he will go about seducing her. When I started tweaking my day game process back at the start of the year, this was a thought that stuck with me.

We already know about the flaws of the direct opener (courtesy my first article on Girls Chase, “Day Game Tips: Make Her Curious”), and that if we want to choose our women, making them curious first is the way to go. This is especially true in day game.

But perhaps you might be wondering “How, specifically, can I make her curious in certain situations?” or “What if I’m in a venue where it’s not really applicable?”

A commenter from “Make Her Curious” asked:

“How about situations where situational openers are not ideal? Like, picture a girl reading a book or just walking on the street or at the bench. It would be weird to come up and just comment about something.”

– Kalyann

This is a good question. In this article I will do my best to not only answer this question, but guide you deeper into the related principles. Namely, the principles of social calibration.

How to Use Liminal Space to Advance Your Dates with Girls

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When a girl’s in liminal space with you, the outside world no longer matters... And she’s free to do what she wants. The catch is, you’ve got to keep her there.

In my previous article on building bubbles, I shared some tips as to how we as seducers can pace girls out of their day-to-day lives and into our reality.

But this may raise a few questions, like what exactly is this reality anyway?

And once she is a part of it, how do we make sure she doesn’t slip out of it?

This article aims to answer those questions for you, so you can make sure the girls you suck in stay sucked in... And adore it.