Tactics Tuesdays: Foreplay a Girl… with Your Penis

When most men think of foreplay, they think of:

• Using their hands on a woman’s body

• Using their mouth on a woman’s body

• Getting a woman to use her hands on them

• Getting a woman to use her mouth on them

They might be touching her pussy with their mouth or hands. But NOT their penis.

That’s not foreplay. That’s the main event. Right?

SHE might be touching their penis with her mouth or hands. But NOT her pussy.

Again, that’s not foreplay. It’s the main thing. Right?

Yet, in fact, there are numerous ways you can engage in foreplay where you actively use your penis on a woman – not waiting for her to suck you off or stroke you – including on her pussy, without getting to vaginal penetration, before sex starts.

Today I’m going to introduce you to some. If you’ve never done these before, they might just change the sexual escalation game for you.

 

A Foreplay Tactic from the Zulu

When I was in high school, I had an assignment to write an essay about a foreign culture.

I’ve always loved things foreign. We’d had a lesson in history class about a battle between British redcoats and Zulu warriors, in which an army of Zulus armed with just sticks and spears vanquished a (much smaller) army of British redcoats armed with muskets. The British army was the most powerful army in the world… yet they lost to a group of tribal warriors!

Of course, the Zulus suffered horrific losses in that battle, charging hordes of men straight into musket fire. The victory was a Pyrrhic one. The British reinforcements arrived and the Zulu surrendered.

But I was fascinated with the Zulu nevertheless, so for my assignment I picked up a few books from the library about them. One was written by a witchdoctor of theirs, and it contained some of the most intriguing insights into Zulu culture.

Zulu warriors, the book said, practiced a kind of meditation that allowed them to still their hearts before a battle. They grew so adept at this that the witchdoctor claimed they were never taken captive by other African tribes or the slave trade. When enemy warriors captured them and brought them to their camps, or to the beach to be taken aboard slave ships, the Zulu warriors knelt down in the sand, used their minds to stop their hearts, and keeled over, dead. No Zulu could be taken alive.

I don’t know if that’s true or not. It’s fascinating either way.

But another thing the book talked about was the sexual practices of the Zulu. A Zulu girl had to remain a virgin before marriage. The night of the wedding, her hymen was inspected to make sure it was intact. If it wasn’t, she could be put to death. But the betrothed boy and girl had their ways to explore each other without penetration.

Among young Zulu males and females, there was a common practice, the name of which I always misremember as hlobagne (pronounced hlo-BAHN-yay). This technique, which I call hlobagne (in fact, Hlobane is the name of the battle the Zulu won against the British), consisted of the male rubbing his penis on the outside of the woman’s vagina. Through this practice, the witchdoctor said, both the male and female could experience great pleasure, without breeching the female’s hymen. Of course, sometimes they got too excited, he said, and penetration happened. At that point the male would have to run off with the female for them not to die. They would need to seek refuge with another Zulu tribe, and live their lives there, never again visiting their families.

After I read this account, I was fascinated with the idea of (what I call) hlobagne. As soon as I could, I tried it out with girls. I’d get a girl bottomless, get myself bottomless, and rub my erection on the outside of her vagina: labia, clitoris, the works.

What I discovered was that women who weren’t trying to preserve their hymens could only take so much of this before they just took my penis and shoved it in themselves.

Even girls who were resistant to sex… once my erection was going back and forth on their clit, rubbing across their labia, that vaginal opening just got wetter, and wetter, and wetter, until the girl could take it no more, grabbed my penis, and shoved me in her.

If you can get her bottomless, it’s easy enough to lead into: “I’m not going to put it in you. I’m just going to rub it on the outside. It’s a technique used by the Zulu called hlobagne where no penetration occurs. They use it to let girls preserve their hymens before marriage.”

This is as fascinating to girls as the idea first was to me when I read it. Most girls are curious to try out this Zulu sex technique from a book written by an African witchdoctor.

(I wish I could find the book by that witchdoctor again so I could remember the right name for the technique. It was written in the 1960s or 1970s. It might be MY PEOPLE: Writings of a Zulu Witch-Doctor, which is dated to 1977. I cannot seem to find a copy of it though, except for a $200 out-of-print version on Amazon. Anyway, you need a name to call it… so I just keep telling girls it’s hlobagne)

Within a minute or two of your cock rubbing all over their pussy, though, they just can’t take it anymore, and stick you right in. Sometimes they grab you and plunge you in. Other times they start moving the mound of their pussy up more and more, trying to position the opening of their vagina in front of the head of your penis as you’re thrusting, so you slip in.

It makes you wonder how those Zulus kept their hymens intact until marriage.

You can make a game of it, seeing how long a girl can take it before she grabs your penis and stuffs it in her.

(don’t tell her you’re doing that, of course! Then she’ll see it as a challenge to hold out as long as she can. You don’t want her thinking that way… you just want her thinking, “Well, nothing will happen, there’s no penetration to worry about,” followed by, “OMG, this feels good… oh Goddddd I want him in me sooooo bad… I can’t take it; I need him in me naoooww…”)

It’s best to switch to this after you’ve warmed her up with other foreplay. If you try to go straight from kissing to hlobagne, that’s too fast for most girls. Rub her pussy, enjoy her body, give her other forms of foreplay – then when you’re pretty sure she’s pretty warmed up, get the hlobagne going.

Another fun fact from the Zulu: according to the witchdoctor’s book, because the young brides are virgins at marriage, they have a ritual where the mother of the bride has sex with the groom the night before the wedding. This is designed to test the young male’s stamina and make sure he has no sexual dysfunctions (impotence, premature ejaculation, etc.) that’d make him unfit to give her grandchildren.

Sometimes, the witchdoctor said, and not infrequently, the mother would be so taken with the young groom’s sexual stamina, and the young groom so taken with the mature woman’s sexual experience and technique, that the two would fall in love during that night of lovemaking, and run off to another tribe to live their lives out together.

You can tell girls this too. These little anecdotes add all the more spice to your Zulu sex technique.

 

Fingering Girls with Your Penis Inside

Here’s another sexual technique. It can work as foreplay, though it’s in a sort of gray area as far as “Is it sex or is it foreplay?” is concerned.

In this technique, you have penetration, but the primary way you stimulate her is manually.

Basically:

• You get her half on her side, half on her back

• You are in the same position; if you were both on your sides you’d be spooning her

• Your penis is in her, having entered her from the back

• At the same time, your hand is on her pussy, rubbing her clitoris

If your arm is over her thigh, a lot of girls will close their thighs up, which makes it easier for you to rub their pussy but nearly impossible to thrust with your penis. So you can loop your arm under her thigh, and rub her pussy from the other side, which forces her to keep her legs spread, that way you can both rub her pussy and thrust into her with your erection.

This technique is GREAT for:

• Girls who needs loads of foreplay but you really want to get your penis in them

• Situations where you’re low on sexual stamina but still want them cumming with your penis in them

• Getting girls to squirt or training girls to squirt

As far as foreplay goes, you can use it sometimes to enter a resistant girl by telling her, “I’m not going to thrust; I just want to be in you while I finger you so I can feel you.” If she’s turned on enough, she’ll often agree to this. Of course, you need to keep your promise and not thrust once you’re in her! Once you’ve been rubbing her long enough and made her cum a few times with your penis in her, you can tell her, “If you want me to start thrusting too, just let me know,” and very soon thereafter (if not immediately) you’ll get that green light.

I use this technique most often with girls where the girl is having trouble getting into the sex for whatever reason. Maybe I didn’t do enough foreplay, or she’s too in her head with something she’s got going on in her life.

Whatever the reason, get her partially on her side, with you behind her, penis in her from the back, and rub that pussy. It’s easy to get her off this way – she’s getting manual stimulation + penile stimulation.

Don’t be hurt if she’s more into your hand at first than your penis. It takes time for girls to warm up to wanting to get really dicked down. It’s easier for her to get off from your hand rubbing her clitoris. At first, the penis is just a bonus; the hand rubbing her is the main event.

Once she’s had enough orgasms that way, though, she will tend to be fully warmed up… at which point she will just want to get fucked. That’s when you switch to a different position where you can really start railing on her and give it to her hard to make her cum with your cock.

As far as squirting goes, this position gets the head of your penis pressed up against her g-spot, while you are rubbing her clitoris on the outside. Girls can learn to squirt pretty quickly this way. Be warned that if you are doing this technique, and you’ve got a girl who’s a squirter, you will want to have her pee before you start the sex, unless you’re into a strong pee smell mixed in with that female ejaculate.

 

Other Ways to Involve Your Penis in Foreplay

There are other ways to get your penis into the foreplay too:

• Rub your cock all over her breasts and over her nipples. Depending on the girl, this can be very pleasurable for some girls – those girls with more sensitive breasts

• Titty fuck her. Of course she has to have large-enough breasts for this. But even girls with A-cups can sometimes push their breasts together enough for you to get some friction going. If you plan to do this until you cum, you’ll need some lube… but if you plan to do it until you cum, it’s not really foreplay then, is it?

• ‘Finger’ her clitoris with your cock. This is an alternate way to stimulate the clitoris with your penis. Put her naked on her back with her legs spread. Kneel naked in front of her. Then, grab your erection, and rub your glans (i.e., the head of your penis) back and forth on her clitoris. You can give girls clitoral orgasms this way. It’s not quite as much fun as hlobagne, if you ask me, but it gets girls off quicker and it’s a different thing to try if you’re all hlobagne’d out

• Just-the-tip fuck her. There’s the foot-in-the-door technique where we tell a girl we want to put in “just the tip.” This quickly leads to girls wanting the whole enchilada. But you can also literally just stick the tip of your penis into her, and fuck her that way. After a minute or two of just the head of your penis going into her and out of her, most girls will start writhing around trying to get more of you in them. At that point you can just ask, “You want more?” When they say yes, you say, “Okay, I’ll give you a little bit more,” and put a little more into them. Rinse and repeat. Great way to tease a girl and make her hungry for all you’ve got to give her

While other guys are busy figuring out new ways to use toys, restraints, and so on, you can be the guy figuring out new ways to dick girls down.

Personally, I think it’s a lot more fun, getting your penis involved in the action as soon as possible, rather than making that poor little guy hang around on the sidelines too long.

 

Recap

Now you’re armed with a few different ways to sail past the last stages of last minute resistance – those times you’ve got a girl completely naked but she won’t let you stick it in.

You can also use these techniques just for fun with girls you want to foreplay with, tease, or just to add a little variety into your sexual life.

The “fingering with your penis in her” has an additional function, as a kind of “lazy man’s way” of getting girls off. If you’re not up for fucking her silly, throw her into this position and you can get her off with your hands while still having your penis in her… so at least it still counts as sex and isn’t just you masturbating her. Also good for girls you’re having trouble getting warmed up – this technique almost never fails to get even distracted girls into it, so you can then commence pounding a fully-engaged lover.

I hope you enjoy the techniques. Some I’ve collected (like the Zulu “hlobagne”); others I’ve stumbled across through experimentation.

Do you have other ways you use your penis for foreplay with women, whether new girls you’re bedding the first time or ones you’ve been seeing a while?

I’d love to hear about them in the comments if you do.

Chase