How Slutty is She? 7 Ways to Gauge Her Sluttiness

Girls won’t just out and tell you when they’re sluts. You need to do some digging. Yet different kinds of sluttiness shows up in different ways...

“I’m curious, how many guys have you slept with?”

“Well, when I went on vacation to Central America, I had a bit of fun.”

That explains why she’s on a date with me. She likes Latinos.

“What’s the number, then?” I look at her carefully but without looking overly interrogative.

“Umm, I’d say like 8? Maybe a few more.”

Maybe a few more.

A few minutes later, I tell her to come over to my house. She asks what we’re going to do.

“To watch a movie.”

My shit-eating grin gave me away.

“Ohhhh, nonono. A movie? Yeah, right.”

I laugh.

“It’s fine. If you don’t want to fuck, we don’t have to.” I respond calmly.

“Okay, I’ll come over, but we’re not fucking.”

We get to my room and she says to me, “I’m gonna change real quick.” She heads into the bathroom with her backpack.

She went from jeans and a crop-top to a t-shirt and booty shorts. No one walks around with an extra pair of clothes without expecting to use them.

Sometimes I wonder if these girls are actually retarded or if they think I am.

This girl was insatiable. We must have screwed nine times. Every time I came, she would want more. She knew how to move her tight ass, too. Which was great, because my opener to her was literally “Damn, you have an amazing ass,” as I walked past her late at night. A week later, we were in my room having a sex marathon.

As we rest from our Nth session, I ask her more about her time in Central America. She unloads. She tells me in more detail how much she traveled, how much she saw, and how many times she opened her legs.

“So, how many guys did you fuck?”

“Oh, a few. I’d say I’m around thirty or something?”

From 8 to 30. In a span of a few hours. Impressive.

I’m far from ignorant about women, and this was almost two years ago, but it’s always the simple, fundamental lessons that we forget. A shame, too, since these are the most important to remember.

Women lie.

People lie.

Especially about their sexual experiences.

This article is about seeing the truth whether or not she says it herself. I also explain at the end why some women are slutty.

Why is it important to discover if she’s a slut?

For relationships.

If you don’t think promiscuity is important in considering a relationship (though research suggests it is), then this article won’t concern you. If you do, on the other hand, then it will. Today we’re going to cover seven (7) ways you can gauge a girl’s sluttiness level. And I’ll introduce you to three distinct kinds of sluts. Let’s get started.

 

#1: Don’t be a Boyfriend Candidate

You’re far more likely to get her true body count if she doesn’t envision you two getting married anytime soon.

Otherwise, she’s liable to lie or evade the question so as to seem innocent as possible.

 

#2: The Non-Judgmental Frame

You can do this explicitly by telling her something like “I hate when people judge other people.” But I prefer, with these frames, to show her instead of telling her.

If a topic you disagree with comes up in conversation and it’s not a big deal to you, express your disagreement, but then add on something like “But hey, everyone has their opinion, right?”

Something as simple as this is more powerful than telling a girl you’re non-judgmental. She will infer what she needs from this.

By showing her a lack of judgment, she’s more likely to open up. You see, women want to open up and to feel understood. That’s what feels good to them. If you give women an empty ocean of non-judgment to spill their secrets into, they will unleash the flood. They love to talk. Hopefully, one of those secrets she divulges will be her lay count.

 

#3: If She Evades the Question

This one is hard. Some girls will evade the question because they’re genuinely conservative and think it’s classless to discuss this with someone they just met. In these cases, you need to build up comfort.

Other girls will evade because you unexpectedly put them in the hot seat and they’d rather deflect than lie or answer. Deflections works on most men. They don’t want to stir the pot. They’re happy enough to be on a date or to sleep with her.

“I only travel for the scenery.”

Press too much, however, and you’ll lose your non-judgmental frame. Only experience, body language, knowledge, and other screens will help uncover why she’s lying.

 

#4: If She’s Sexually Confident

If she’s outspoken about what she likes in men, romantically and sexually, and seems almost try-hard with her seductions, beware. Her lay count is massive, or it will be soon.

Another sign of promiscuity is if she approaches you as confidently as a man would a women or gives you overly blatant approach invitations, like standing next to you and staring at you for five seconds.

 

#5: Number of Relationships

If she’s been in relationships for most of her life, there’s a good chance her lay count isn’t too high. The younger, the better. She’s had less time to hop on too many cocks. If she’s older, pay attention to the time between relationships.

This number might deceive you if she’s a serial girlfriend. This type will have one or two boyfriends a year (or more). This girl either chronically cheats on boyfriends and dumps them when she can’t stand how much of a pussy they are, or she’s a girl who can’t screen well and gets dumped by guys who only date her to keep boning her until they find something better.

Hence the importance of the next screening tactic.

 

#6: Length of Her Relationships

High quality women usually have fewer, long-lasting relationships. Why? Because men work hard to keep them.

These women screen their mates well. They date men they know are crazy about them and will work hard to keep them.

Also, in most cases, these women are in control of their relationships. Relationships with women in charge usually last the longest, because they are the most problem free. When she has a problem, he submits and she gets what she wants. At the same time, he’s hot enough or he provides enough that she stays in the relationship. Win, win.

Every genuinely high-value girl I know, those who are beautiful and smart, well educated, and come from a conservative upbringing, all have ex-boyfriends who pine after them long after it’s over.

One girl I recently went on a date with told me how she’d recently gotten out of a 2-year relationship, and before that, she was in a 7-year relationship. She’s 29, meaning that since she was at most 20 years old, she’d been in relationships, leaving very little time for hooking up. Given her other qualities and behaviors, I’m pretty confident she was telling the truth. I mean, you never know for sure, but there do exist conservative women.

 

#7: Number and Circumstance of Hookups

How many has she had? And how did they happen?

If a girl has been cold approached, seduced, and led home to shag the first night, there’s a chance she’s done that before, especially if it’s at night. Girls who regularly go to bars and clubs are far more likely to hook up, which means their lay count is a bit higher. Is this always true? Not necessarily. I’ve met a few genuinely beautiful and quite conservative girls who admitted to having only one or a few one-night stands despite occasionally going out to bars and clubs. The less, the better.

Super-high-value women usually don’t hook up all that much.

If one of her few hookups came from social circle, I’d judge it differently than I would a bar hookup. The 29 year old I mentioned earlier told me how she did once have a one-night stand with a guy and never had a relationship with him, but that she knew him for years through social circle.

This and her two ex-boyfriends were the only notches I knew about, so I estimated her lay count between three and six, perfect levels for a girlfriend. She also doesn’t drink, has a degree in finance, and from her descriptions, was in control of her relationships. All great signs of a dominant, conservative girl. She’s also beautiful and has a banging body. Wifey material right there.

 

Why Don’t Beautiful Women Hook Up Much?

“If all these people want to have sex with her, why doesn’t she oblige them?” you might think.

It’s not like all those men are lame, either. Any woman above an eight can pretty much sleep with any guy she wants. Neither quality nor quantity are her issue.

Her issue is getting a boyfriend. Why? Because as much as women love sex, they also want love and security – financial, emotional, and social.

The last one is most important, especially in our age. Even if women can provide for themselves and have thousands, if not millions of men giving their attention on social media, it doesn’t matter. It’s potato chips of gratification.

What every woman needs is the satisfaction of having a strong, sexy man commit to her.

That’s the test of her skill as a woman.

Women know they can have sex with pretty hot guys whenever they want. They also know the sex can be great. But every man she gets that feeling with is replaceable. Even a sexy man is replaceable. Even you.

There are thousands of men out there as sexy or sexier than you, and she meets them on a regular basis if she’s a beautiful girl.

What’s rare, however, is a hot guy who will commit... and is worth commitment to in turn.

She’s not dumb; she can tell who’s going to hit her and quit her. And she can tell who would worship her with unearned, undying loyalty. The first she respects, because at least he’s expressing his sexuality, but she still avoids him; the latter, she hates in every way.

She can read commitment on a man’s face, in his actions, and in his words. If she’s uncertain or if he’s too ambivalent, she will bail. She can afford to wait. These women can go a year or more without having sex. Does it suck? Sure, but they’ll be fine.

It blows my mind they can wait so long, but that’s because I’m thinking like a man. I’m coming from the framework of “screw as much as you can,” and unless a girl is crazy or broken, or low value, she doesn’t need that sexual validation. She already knows she’s hot shit. She has her sights set on higher achievements, like an amazing husband.

 

The 3 Types of Sluts

Don’t show this part of the article to a woman, especially if she’s with other women. She’ll lose her mind.

But a slut is a slut. I don’t have anything against sluts. Sluts are some of my favorite people. However, there is a literal definition of someone who is a slut – they have a lot of sex. And a woman who opens her legs to lot of different men is not great for a relationship. Don’t believe me? Go date one.

 

Type A: Hot and Broken Sluts

These girls can be genuinely beautiful. I dated one girl like this. Unfortunately, she was blessed and cursed with the worst situation possible, at least for a guy wanting to date her. Naturally beautiful with amazing assets, a naturally monstrous sex drive, but she also had daddy problems and mommy problems.

Just because she looks good or seems classy doesn’t mean she is choosy.

She has every reason in the world to think highly of herself, especially considering how intelligent she is, but she does not. Plagued by borderline personality disorder and massive anxiety issues, she would drown herself in cock, drugs, and alcohol. She could attract the hottest guys, but she had no moral or personal restrictions against hooking up with any and all of them. Other girls who fit this criterion are girls who are hot but not naturally beautiful.

They’re usually butterfaces – great body, baggable face. A beautiful woman is always more attractive than a meh-looking girl with a great body, but a lot of men can’t see past their dicks (myself included, admittedly) and will pass up genuinely beautiful women because they’re not dressed well for their body or don’t flaunt their body.

I see a lot of celebrities get caught in this trap – guys who could be slaying genuine 10s, but they instead knock up a 6 or 7 and get roped into an 18-year relationship with that woman whether they like it or not. Sometimes these women get hot through fitness (which I admire) or through plastic surgery.

Either way, they are late bloomers, and because they were ignored in their early years, they develop a massive hole in their hearts that breeds a penchant for manipulation and bitterness. It also fires their ambition. This is why girls who are hot but not beautiful will often be the absolute rudest to you when they reject you. They’re taking out their anger while, at the same time, knowing they can do better (and they can, in many cases). I don’t blame them.

Most guys reading this website are driven by their insecurities (myself included), not their hopes. And pain is one of the best copilots out there, but it does create an edgy personality – which doesn’t always look great on women.

 

Type B: Competitive Sluts

These girls have no choice. They’re not really that hot or smart. Stacked up against more socially-attuned, beautiful, hotter girls, they don’t have any competitive advantage. But they still have a pussy, and that’s often enough.

They might occasionally lock down an attractive guy who gets addicted to the pussy, and they will literally bend his view of reality – I’ve seen studs fall for this, and I have fallen for it myself on occasion. Girls who I really liked porking would get hotter the more we hung out. I’d find myself saying things like “I mean, she’s not that hot, but she’s really cool, and by god that pussy is great.”

Then I’d drop them or sleep with some other women, after which I’d look back and say, “Um, yeah, she’s a six. At best.” Pussy is one hell of a drug. These women know that. Their strategy is “shag as much as possible and see whose sperm wins.”

 

Type C: Environmental Sluts

Very often, these girls are quite naturally pretty, come from good, nuclear families, and have no particular traumas to speak of. And yet, they will rack up dozens of lovers in their early 20s. Why? Their environment. Some are brainwashed by the environment of college – they’re told that they can do whatever they want without consequence. In the short term, it proves true, so they slut it up. If I was a girl, I’d probably do the same.

Other times, it’s much more complicated. She might have a nice father, but not a strong father, so when she goes to college and finds these aggressive, dominant men who absolutely blow her primary model for masculinity (her father) out of the water, she can’t help but be attracted. You will usually find that the highest-quality women had very strong, dominant fathers and developed their tastes based on him. My ex-girlfriend had a very strong, dominant father, but he was neglectful and wasn’t strict with her. She even expressed regret over this. She wished he was more authoritative with her – it’s no surprise, then, that she reacted best to a mix of aloof but also very dominant, authoritative behavior.

Without the genetics and the conditioning, then, a girl is still liable to slut it up.

The highest-quality women, most of the time, have it all – genetics and parenting. Is this rare? Yeah. There’s a reason why there’s a 1% in the world. Only a fraction of humanity will fit there.

I remember a guy complaining on my “How to Date a Party Girl” article that my criteria for girlfriends disqualifies more than ninety percent of women.

My response: “Yeah, that’s the point.”

Here at Girls Chase, we give advice geared to the top 1% of men. That’s what any good teacher does. He reveals the best path to the highest peak, which can then be followed as far as one likes.

To all the beautiful sluts out there...

Hector