5 First Date Plans that Lead to Sex

The right first date plan doesn’t just help you get to know someone.

It helps you get to know her well enough that she ends up in your bed!

There’s no reason intimacy needs to take three dates… or five… or more.

There’s also no need to risk stretching things out and missing out on someone you could have been with (had you completed all the steps up front).

We’ve all had life intervene: people get busy, they meet someone else, and suddenly that great first date with an awesome connection leads nowhere.

No further dates manifest… and you are left scratching your head, wondering what went wrong.

Most first date planning articles (like this one, this one, or this one) just focus on activities to do on first dates. They aren’t actually focused on the outcome of that first date.

However, with the right first date plan – one that leads the two of you to become lovers by the end of it – you can all but ensure a second date… and a third… and beyond.

She’s a lot more likely to see you again once you’ve been in bed together. That’s a fact.

So let’s look at five (5) of the best first date plans to put a girl in your bed by the end of them, and all but guarantee she sees you for many more dates after that.

 

First Date Plan #1: Café-Home

Do you have a cool little café near your home?

It may well be the ideal spot for a conversation-oriented first date plan that leads to intimacy by the end of it.

Remember our five Cs of dating, which we first talked about in my article on bad first dates:

1. It must be cheap
2. It must be convenient
3. It must be conducive to conversation
4. It must be covert
5. You must be in control / calling the shots

A cool café near your place satisfies all five Cs of first date planning:

• It’s inexpensive
• It’s right near you
• It’s easy to talk there
• No one she knows will see her
• It’s somewhere you know on your turf

Look for places with a good vibe that aren’t too crowded. Then pick a spot within the café that is quieter and more secluded, like a corner or an upstairs room.

Interesting, eclectic décor can help set the mood, but isn’t necessary.

Quiet coziness, on the other hand, is. A crowded Starbucks with people on every side of you is not the sort of place you want your first date to take place.

 

What to Talk About on the Date

A good first date plan includes ample opportunity for scintillating chitchat.

Focus on building a connection with your date via conversation. Get her to talk about herself. Deep dive her.

Scientific studies show that the more a woman reveals of herself to you, the more she comes to trust you, finding that

both men and women were more likely to report a connection if the woman talked about herself.

The same study also found that

women, to a greater extent than men, wanted their date to create and maintain a lively conversation.

Finally, the study adds

Females also viewed conversation topics such as discussion of past relationships as a negative indicator of their date’s attraction to them. This corroborates the findings of the study, as females wanted the conversation to be focused on themselves. Not only are outside topics not as favorable, but bringing up a previous romantic entanglement signaled that the man is not attracted to them.

Got that? So:

• Get her talking about herself
• Keep the conversation lively
• Don’t take the focus off her
• Don’t talk about past relationships

See my article “The Conversationalist” to learn more about building great conversations, or watch this video of mine from our video site, GirlsChase.TV:

Video: How to Deep Dive a Girl (and Get Her to Really Open Up)

 

From Conversation to Consummation

How do you go from great chatting to lusty lovemaking all in one date?

One very important thing to include in every first date plan is the opportunity to touch.

Studies show that when a woman is touched, she rates both the man touching her and the environment she’s in more positively.

You must touch women in ways that make them feel more and more connected with and compliant to you. See my article “7 Ways to Touch a Girl + 3 Ways to Have HER Touch YOU” for tips on how to touch.

Here are a few tips right now for touch on a first date:

• Touch early, with a handclasp to greet her
• Sit next to (not across from) her to make touch easy
• Begin with small, incidental touches and build up

Touch is vital.

You’ll struggle if you try to go from a touchless date to a touchy seduction. It’s awkward.

Instead, add touch to your dates early, to make the escalation from strangers to lovers fluid.

When do you invite her home to yours?

While some dates allow you to do it fast (45 minutes or under), your general first date plan should allow for two to three hours of conversation and touch before a woman is ready to head back to yours.

 

First Date Plan #2: Dive Bar-Home

Small, cozy, intimate dive bars can make for great date locations too.

Not every girl is the coffee sort. Some girls like their booze!

Before you pick café or dive bar, try to find out whether she likes to drink or not, so you can pick the better first date plan for her.

Dive bars serve the same function as cafés, in that they give you a quiet, intimate location with ample opportunity for conversation. Be sure to pick a dive bar that minds the five Cs of dating.

This article has a set of solid suggestions on identifying bars good for first dates.

Much of the work with any first date plan is in finding the good places… because one you’ve found them, you can take dates to them again and again.

 

How Dive Bar First Dates Differ from Café Dates

A first date at a dive bar isn’t exactly the same as a café first date.

For one, there’s alcohol involved, which tends to make things a little sexier.

For another, you will usually be going at night, while café dates are more likely during the day. This, again, makes dive bar dates more sensual.

On the downside, it is very easy for dive bar dates to turn into all-night affairs, especially as the alcohol flows, the music volume increases, and the bar transforms from “dead” to “hopping.”

The most surefire dive bar first date plan goes as follows:

1. Reach the bar early, say 7:30 or 8 PM (ideally it’s dead at this time)
2. Have your first few drinks, get to know each other, and touch in the almost-empty bar
3. By the time other people start showing up, you and your date are vibing very well and are very comfortable touching one another
4. Let the energy of the other people showing up spread to you and your date, as the two of you get closer and closer
5. At some point, tell her, “It’s getting pretty crowded in here. How about we head back somewhere private for a nightcap?” and take her to your place

Just like that, you’re back at yours by the end of the first date. No second date required.

 

First Date Plan #3: Active/Fun Date

Not every girl is the “sit and talk” type (or you may not be yourself).

Some are a lot more active. Some need to feel their blood pulsing!

Some get too bored by too much sitting.

What do you do if she’s this type?

You put together a first date plan that’ll keep her on her toes throughout… and gives you the chance to get her blood really heated up.

A good active/fun date plan involves multiple steps. For instance:

1. Meet your date
2. Walk/drive and chat
3. Fun Activity #1
4. Break to talk/bond
5. Fun Activity #2
6. Back to your place

Here’s an example:

1. Your date parks at your place
2. Both hop in one car to drive & talk
3. Play tennis against each other one hour
4. Take a break to have ice cream & talk
5. Go to a nice spot to watch the sunset
6. Back to your place to unwind/get intimate

You’re still fitting in plenty of time to talk.

You should still be going places that mind the five Cs of good date planning.

Yet you’re also injecting a lot more energy and movement into the date as well – which is perfect for this type of girl.

 

Activities for a Fun/Active First Date Plan

What kind of activities work for a date plan like this?

I’ll give you a list. You don’t have to use all these.

In fact, you can pick one or two you like and make those your go-to active/fun dates.

Here’s a sample list of active/fun date activities:

• Picnic
• Bonfire
• Skiing
• Jet skiing
• Wakeboarding
• Snowboarding
• Rock-climbing gym
• Paragliding
• Sailing
• Tennis
• Laser tag
• Miniature golf
• Arcade
• Fair / festival
• Fun house
• Haunted house
• Haunted hayride

I’m sure you can think of others.

This should be enough to get you started though.

If you need more, this article has a list of 101 active date ideas worth checking out.

 

First Date Plan #4: Middle Step Date

What’s a middle step date?

Simple: it’s a first date plan that combines a café or dive bar date with a middle step sandwiched between the first step at the café/bar and the final step (taking her to your place).

That middle step will vary by the girl.

For instance, if you think she needs to get her blood pumping more, you may want to throw one of those fun/active date ideas from above into your first date plan as a middle step.

Or if you think she really just needs to laugh, try a visit to a comedy show as your middle step.

If all she needs is time to get close to you while getting the wits scared out of her, follow the café with a visit to a haunted house, or to the cinema for the latest scary horror flick. When it’s done, take her back to yours.

 

What the Middle Step Does

What’s the use of the middle step in a first date plan?

Simple: it allows you to ‘buff up’ something you might otherwise have trouble adding to the date:

• If she mostly needs connection, but she also needs her blood pumping, connect with her first at a café or dive bar, then take her to the arcade or fun house on the way back to your place
   
• If she really just needs to laugh and release, take her to the café or dive bar, followed by a comedy show

You can also reverse the steps if it’ll work better.

For example, you may want to start the date with surfing or snowboarding, then relax at a café or beach bar, then pull her home after to cook a little food or watch a movie.

Generally speaking, if the active/other part of the date is going to take more than an hour or two and it does not involve sitting down, it should probably come first.

Otherwise, have it follow the café or bar step in your first date plan.

 

First Date Plan #5: Hangout Date

At last, we arrive at the simplest first date plan of all (at least on paper):

The hangout date.

The hangout date looks deceptively simple because all you’re doing is, well, hanging out.

She’ll come to your place, you’ll put on a movie, play a game, mix drinks, or cook food, and it’ll be straightforward from there. Right?

Except not every hangout date is so simple.

It’s not always easy to get a girl to your place for the first date in the first place.

Second, even when you manage it, “we’ll just hang out” isn’t exactly a complete date plan.

How will you create the vibe?

Build trust?

Get her excited… and turned on?

If you’re an old pro at these, you may be able to wing it.

Everyone else though is going to benefit from an actual first date plan – even if it is “just” a hangout date.

 

First Date Planning for Hangout Dates

Let’s add a little date planning strategy to your hangout first date.

Some points to include in your date plan that will raise the odds you make this date a GREAT one:

1. Meet her outside your place (parking lot, metro stop, etc.) and walk her in
2. Give her a quick tour of your place so it all feels familiar
3. Let her get settled in (optional: use the bathroom so she can settle in alone)
4. Try not to have solo chairs in your place where you can’t easily sit next to her
5. Have something on for background noise (music, music video, boring movie)

All this will help her get settled and make it easy for you to start bonding and exciting her.

Be sure to sit CLOSE to her! This is critical for touch… and touch is critical for it to NOT be two people sitting awkwardly in a room together, trying to be romantic, without physical contact.

You want a boring movie (if you choose to have one playing) so she does not get too engrossed.

A good first date plan at your place plans for how to make sure touch will be happening.

That’s because if she comes in and sits down in an isolated chair far away from everything else, you’re in for an awkward time.

I hope you won’t feel weird dragging another chair over next to hers so you can touch her!

More practically, you’ll need to get good at telling a date to come sit near you – or else just don’t have single empty chairs hanging out in space in your apartment where a date might plop down far away from you.

 

Intimacy on Hangout Dates

How do you end up in bed with a girl you invite over to your place?

What can you add to your first date plan to get past the precedent of having been sitting in an apartment talking for a few hours WITHOUT making a move… and suddenly switch over to rounding third base without it being awkward?

For that, see my complete guide to the hangout date, which you can find right here:

“How to Hang Out with a Girl (and End Up in Bed Together)”

 

First Date Plan Wrap Up

That’s a wrap for our five first date plans that lead to first date sex.

Did you find a plan that works for you?

Is there one of these date plans you already use to seductive effect?

Is there something different you do that you find leads to great first dates?

Drop me a comment below.

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