Tactics Tuesdays: 3 Ways to Make Women Undress

You can undress her yourself. But what if you want to make a woman undress on her own? There are 3 ways: tell her to, use barriers, and take her pants off first.

I know you’re used to the ‘standard’ way to get a new girl into bed. Bring her home, kiss her, continue to escalate on her... rub your hands up and down her, start to peel her clothes off her. She resists, you persist. Rinse and repeat until she’s naked. Then, intercourse.

Today we’ll talk about another way to do this. Rather than you be the one to take her clothes off, today’s article is about how you can make a woman undress herself.

You can use this with girlfriends and new girls alike. It can help you break through tough bouts of resistance. And it can make the escalation process a lot more fun. Tired of having her take your hands off her or stop you from disrobing her? No problem. Get her to take her clothes off herself instead.

We’ll cover three (3) different ways to do this in this article. And in my opinion, each of these is more fun than the one before it.

Tell Her to Take It Off

The most straightforward of our tactics is to just tell a girl to take her clothes off.

Simple enough, of course. But how often do you do it? I’m guessing not a whole lot. Furthermore, how often do you remember this as an option when you encounter last minute resistance? Because you might be surprised how well this works with some girls.

To use this tactic, all you have to do is instruct a woman to undress. The more specific you are, the more effective the tactic is; “take your shirt off” succeeds a lot more and better than “take your clothes off.” Simpler instructions are easier to follow and harder to say ‘no’ to; they create a path of least resistance.

With a resistant girl, the very best time for “take your [article of clothing] off” is just after a heart-to-heart. For example, you’ve tried to get her shirt off for 30 minutes and she’s resisted the whole time, so you decide to back up a minute and see what’s going on with her. You have a nice, sincere chat, and she tells you she’s afraid it’s too fast and you’ve only just met. You deal with that, explain your philosophy of “the only time I move slow is if I don’t really like a girl” (or whatever your philosophy is; that’s my philosophy, anyway), and get back to kissing. And before you even try to take her shirt off yourself this time, you stop, look her in the eyes, and tell her: “Take your shirt off.”

She’ll do as you’ve instructed her to.

The simple command: to-the-point, and works.

You can add a reason if you think she might need a little convincing: “Take your socks off, your feet are going to get all stinky.” “Take your bra off, your skin needs to breathe free.” “Take your jeans off, the buttons are digging into me.” The reason doesn’t matter that much, it just needs to sound like a reason. Even if it’s kind of silly, like “your skin needs to breathe”, the real point is you are tapping into her own desire to be naked with you (she really does want her skin to ‘breathe’ with you), and giving her a reason to do what she wants to do.

With girlfriends or girls you’ve seen a while, you can use another variant of this, where you tell her to put on a show for you tonight and that you want to see her strip. Don’t do this the first or second time a girl is intimate with you; she’ll be self-conscious about her body. But once she’s comfortable with you, telling her to strip is a nice way to inject some spice into the buildup to sex.

As a corollary to this, you can also tell her to do a dance for you, both while she strips and once she’s naked. If you haven’t had a girl strip dance for you before, it’s fun... and you’ll be surprised how sexy a naked, dancing girl is. It’ll get you both excited.

Build Tension and Use Barriers

Our next way to get a woman to get herself naked is to ramp up the sexual tension... then drop a barrier on her.

The tension you can build up any number of ways. Some of the most common ways are:

• Lots of passionate kisses (to her mouth and elsewhere)
  
• Running your hands up and down her body
• Breathing on her skin
• Grabbing fistfuls of her hair and tugging her head back
• Pushing her body up against a wall or into the bed
• Tossing her around / being physical with her
• Rubbing your hand or knee against her crotch
  

Sometimes you can get a woman turned on enough she will proactively undress on her own. But many girls won’t do this... no matter how turned on they get, they will lie there dying of anticipation, passive, in a receptive state, waiting for you to undress them (then penetrate them).

So quite often, if you want to make a woman undress herself, you will have to prompt her to do this.

Thus, barriers. If you’re unfamiliar with the term ‘barrier’, all we mean by this is any statement you make that sets up a challenge for a girl to overcome to get what she wants. So long as the challenge is something she feels is surmountable, if she wants the carrot you’ve dangled for her, she will generally try to find a way past the barrier.

For example, if you’re at a bar with a girl, and things have grown hot and heavy, and you say, “It’s too bad all these people are here, because if they weren’t, I’d rip your clothes off right now,” that’s a barrier. The barrier is ‘all these people’; the thing those people are a barrier to is you tearing her clothes off. She can either enjoy the thrill of knowing you want her yet are restraining yourself, or she can take action to clear the barrier (in this case, usually by suggesting that you get her out of there: “We can go back to my place,” she may volunteer).

With getting girls to undress, you can use barriers like these:

• “It’s too bad you have that bra on. I’d love to suck your nipples.”

• “I wish you didn’t have this shirt on. I want to bury my face in your breasts.”

• “You know what sucks is that you still have your jeans on. Because if you didn’t I would lick the ever-loving crap out of your horny little clitoris.”

• “Too bad you still have your clothes on. You have no idea what I’d do to you if you took them off.”

• “If you did not have these pants on, I would be doing unspeakable things to your body already.”
  

You: “Too bad you have that bra on.” Her: “Not much longer.”

Two keys to this: you want to make sure the (veiled) instruction is clear, and you want to make sure you’ve promised a clear benefit for her if she removes her clothes.

Thus, “Your jeans make it a lot harder for us to have fun,” is not a very good barrier. For one, “have fun” is hardly a strong benefit (isn’t she having fun with you already?). For another, “your jeans make it a lot harder” is not nearly as clear a barrier as it could be; instead, it sounds more like a general complaint.

So you’d rephrase that as something like, “If those jeans were off you, my tongue would be all over ever inch of leg, pelvis, and pussy you have down there.” Clear barrier, clear benefit; jeans a lot more likely to come off.

With girls who are already your lovers, you can be more explicit: “If those jeans weren’t on you, I’d have my cock crammed up your pussy right now.” Usually you won’t want to get this far ahead of yourself when it’s your first time with a girl though... the escalation proceeds one step at a time, and she does not want to look overeager to have your penis inside her (even if she’s bursting at the seams for it).

But for a girl you’ve already been intimate with on multiple occasions, it’s fine to use sex itself as the carrot, if you so choose.

Go for Her Pants (She’ll Do the Rest)

If you ask me, our third tactic is the most fun of the three tactics. Simply because it leaves you in the aggressive male action-taking role, while at the same time breaking the pattern for her and leaving her scrambling to get the rest of her clothes off after the fact.

During the escalation, you ignore her shirt, bra, socks... anything else she has on but pants and panties. If she has a skirt or a dress on, and you can get her panties off without taking it off, leave the skirt or dress on.

Some girls will take the rest of their clothes off once you have their nether regions exposed. They decide that sex will happen, the resistance phase is over, and figure they’ll enjoy it more if they’re naked. So they just disrobe. (this is always my personal favorite... just something nice about watching this girl you’ve just de-pants’ed, whom you’re about to have for the first time, strip off her top for you just before your first time together)

Pants and panties off first. The rest can come off later.

Other girls won’t take the rest off on their own until you start to finger, lick, or enter their naked parts. If they don’t move to take their clothes off at all, you can either do it yourself (which is still fun... peeling off a girl’s top while your penis is already inside her) – but then you won’t be making them undress themselves – or you can tell them to do it: “Hey, this is silly. Take your shirt and bra off!”

You’ll find girlfriends you’ve seen for a while get lazier / less excited and are less likely to take their shirts and bras off right away (unless you tell them to). However, if you proceed to have intercourse with them anyway while you leave their shirt/bra/dress/other items on, once they get excited enough much of the time they will undress on their own at that point anyway (especially if it gets hot/sweaty). And of course you can still always tell them to take their clothes off on their own if they don’t do it proactively.

A Little Extra Variety

These tactics to make women undress for you are neat little ways to spice up your escalations. If you’re tired of always escalating on new girls the same way, or you want an extra tactic to get you past that last leg of LMR, or you have a girl or two or three you see regularly and want to mix in a bit more variety during the disrobing, making the girl undress herself is a prime way to do this.

You have three (3) ways to pull it off:

1. Tell her to take it off
2. Build tension and use barriers
3. Go for her pants (she’ll do the rest)
   

Try ‘em all out. See which approaches suit your style. And the next time a girl gives you a little trouble on the road to sex, or you want to kick back a bit and let your woman show some skin for you, pull out one of these ways to make a girl undress, and let her put the goods on display for you.

Always,

Chase Amante