Each girl needs you to show a somewhat different amount of interest in her at different phases of the courtship. There are 3 keys to this: her interest, her type, and calibration.
A few weeks back, a reader commenting on my article “The Single Guy’s Guide to Starting Fresh in a New City” asked a few questions, including this one:
“How to show interest while maintaining a sense of mystery and make her wonder whether or not you like her?”
The only short answer to that question is ‘it depends’. It’s calibration. Some girls you show more interest in, some girls less.
The long answer involves a few steps: you need to know how interested she is, you need to know whether she responds better to aloof men or interested men, and you need to calibrate accordingly.