Do you seek approval? Is your behavior tentative or uncertain… or is it clear to women that you are confident – that you just KNOW what you are and what your value is?
Sometime back, I wrote an article on giving girls oral sex (i.e., cunnilingus).
In it, I gave a tip of maintaining eye contact through the session if you want to ratchet up the intensity.
A reader writing in the comment section commented that his girl "hates it, finds it incredibly feminine." He adds that women in pornography "stare up at the guy while giving him a blow job, seeking approval." Then says that his woman doesn't want that.
It took me a moment to wrap my head around where this guy was coming from at first. Yet, then, I realized where that was.
With almost anything you can do, there are different ways of framing a thing, both internally (in your head) and externally (the way you present it).
In this case, here was me framing a thing one way. Then this reader came along and framed it another way.
This difference in framing gets picked up on by the woman herself.
About the Author: Chase Amante
Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.