Can You Approach 4 Girls Per Day for 30 Days?

A few nights ago, a friend of mine had a woman he describes as quite beautiful, with whom he's built a great connection over the past few weeks and for whom he's really begun to fall, come over to his home. She showed up in a tight red dress, with a plunging neckline, displaying her huge breasts (the biggest of any girl he's been with, he says... and he's been with about 70 women; he's not inexperienced), and her tight figure (she does a lot of running and biking).

This friend, a Christian, who has been trying not to have sex before marriage, and tells girls this, had this fetching red dress girl he's been seeing for a few weeks sit down next to him on his couch. She then turned and point blank (apparently having had enough of chastity) asked him, "Do you want to fuck me?"

My friend really doesn't like to violate his religious principles... and he also worries that any time he sleeps with a woman he doesn't marry, he does some harm to her. But anyway -- he's also no saint.

So he gulped, looked at this comely girl, and told her "Um... yes."

He then gave her three rounds before they parted ways. (and now he feels both good, because he really likes her, and also got laid, and bad, because he violated his principles!)

The very next day he went out, did a few more approaches, and met another girl he immediately liked.

He also had a few more dates set up throughout the week with other women he'd approached, whom he liked.

And yet another girl from his past whom he'd also very much liked but who'd ghosted him long ago suddenly messaged him.

This friend's a rather experienced day gamer, but he'd been in a rut. He hadn't been approaching much, and many of his approaches of late had not worked out.

Girls flaked on their dates with him; if he brought them home they'd resist his escalation and run off; and he was generally not doing too hot.

He's a middle-aged guy (mid-40s) and isn't interested in casual sex anymore. He just wants a wife -- one young enough to start a family with.

We were talking, and I said if I had 30 days with him in which I could get him to do absolutely everything I instructed him to do, I was confident I could find him a wife he'd be very happy with by the end of those 30 days.

He asked what my plan would be. I listed out 10 items.

Some of those we couldn't realistically do at the moment, because they'd require my active in-person involvement (I'd sit in on his dates and even on his escalations at his home to see where he's going wrong; I'd go around with him and pump the buying temperature on women he was meeting to motivate them to sleep with him; do approaches myself and pawn the women off onto him; etc.).

But there was one item on my list he could very easily do on his own:

Four (4) approaches per day. Every day. For 30 days.

And when he saw that in my list, he decided to try it on his own.

And just like that, he was right back in it.

 

The Magical Number of 4 Per Day

A lot of guys try to motivate themselves with, "I just need to do one approach today."

But when you only do one approach, you never get warmed up.

You also do not usually feel motivated to do more, once you've already completed the day's goal, when the goal was not big enough. Occasionally you might... but not usually.

Other times guys will use a too-big goal: "I'm going to approach 10 women today," or, "I'll approach 20 women today," or, "I'll approach women today for as long as it takes until I find one to take back home."

However, if you have not built up sufficient momentum when you embark on a goal like this, it'll probably be out of reach.

You'll only de-motivate yourself by aiming for it (then failing to hit it).

Four per day gets you something different.

It gets you enough approaches that you can get warmed up.

Read more: Tactics Tuesdays: The Warm-Up Approach

Yet at the same time it is not so many as to daunt you.

If you're a total newbie, 4/day probably feels like a tall order.

If you're brand new, rather than four approaches per day, I'd recommend our newbie assignment. This assignment gives you missions to go on for the next 14 days that will get you comfortable approaching, and making different kinds of approaches. It will also help you find good places in town to approach, which is important.

Also, if you're switching to a different kind of game (i.e., if you are an app guy who is switching over to night game... or a night game guy who is switching to day game) you may want to do the newbie assignment rather than 4/day for that as well. We've had guys do this to good effect (such as Nino, one of our original newbie assignment takers, who used the newbie assignment to help him transition as he switched from night game to day game, and laid two new girls over the course of the assignment).

But if you are not a newbie, and you have places you like to go talk to women, and you are in a position where you can meet women daily, "4 girls per day for 30 days" is about as ideal an approach schedule as you can ask for.

Over the years, I have used "4 per day" whenever I've needed to shake myself out of a rut and start building momentum again. It is very good.

It's not too much -- only four approaches, which you can make in an hour (or even less).

It's not so little that you won't warm up. Nor is it so little that it'll take you forever to find a girl you click with, like it will if you're only approaching one or two per day.

It's big enough it feels like a mission (and not just screwing around, which is kind of what "one a day" feels like to me).

Yet it's also small enough it doesn't feel like a daunting mission (at least not to any guy with some experience).

4/day is just right.

 

A Quick Path to Lots of Girls

Over the course of one month, how many approaches is four per day?

Well, it works out to 120 approaches (4 x 30).

Could you meet a girl you liked and really hit it off with if you approached 120 women?

Odds are yes, you could.

Could you sleep with a fair few fetching new women you're quite happy to sleep with?

Most likely, yes.

These aren't just any women you'll be approaching, mind you. They are 120 women you find attractive enough to approach.

As we've discussed repeatedly, you must talk to lots of girls to achieve consistent results and make any sort of rapid progress with dating.

4/day is an easy way to get yourself some halfway decent numbers, without it feeling like you are doing a huge amount of work or exhausting yourself with incalculable approaches.

 

Accountability for the Challenge

If you accept this challenge, I suggest you post about it on the forum.

You can easily start a journal on the Journals Board. Or update the one you already have, if you have one there.

If you're not a forums guy, you could also just tell a friend in real life. Ideally he'd be a guy who's also doing the challenge, or who knows about and supports your efforts to meet new women.

The point is having accountability, beyond your own self, so you have that extra bit of social pressure on top of your own drive to help motivate you to keep up with it.

Nobody wants to look like the guy who says, "I'm doing X for Y days!" and then stops doing X when he's only at half-Y.

If you're highly internally self-motivated, you might be able to pull off a 30-day challenge all by your lonesome. But most folks need a little accountability to pull it off.

So, figure out what way works best for you to keep yourself accountable -- then get to it.

Approach girls however you like, in whatever way works best for you.

Day game, night game, transit game, street game, pick one (or more than one).

However -- and this is an important rule of the game -- apps don't count.

It is not an 'approach' if you are on an app. It's a swipe. And you can easily do 1000 of those in the time it takes a real-life approacher to make his four approaches that day.

This is an in-real-life-only task.

Are you game for it?

Many men won't be.

But the ones who are will see a lot of growth, meet a lot of new girls, and have an excellent time doing it.

Ciao for now,

Chase