What's It Take to Attract and Date Younger Women?

In Part I of this series on dating younger women, we addressed some of the bigger questions on the subject: do younger women actually like older men; are older men who date younger women 'dirty'; are younger women dating older men all gold diggers?

Some of the conclusions we came to include these:

• Age is nature's proving grounds for male mate quality: a younger male is selected on the merits of his promise and potential; an older male, meanwhile, is selected on the degree of his proven, achieved success

• There's a huge difference between exceptional older men, and ordinary older men - the former being most or all of fit, healthy, confident, charismatic, high status, and financially well-off; the latter being none or few of these

• A woman's mating preferences are: top - proven (exceptional) older man; middle - unproven but promising younger man; bottom - unproven and unpromising younger man (creepy guy) and ordinary (unexceptional) older man (dirty old man)

• Because most older men fall into the "ordinary older men" paradigm (ordinary is the norm, after all), most older men are not especially attractive to younger women, thus the 'dirty old man' wrap that some people are quick to label older men interested in younger women with

• Most real-life older man / younger woman couples are actually two decent, normal, attractive people happy and comfortable with each other and reasonably proud of each other - not many are the rich guy / gold digger couples modern popular media seems so eager to paint them as

While the previous article was about answering the higher level questions - what's with the pushback in the West against older men dating younger women? Do women find older men attractive or not? Why would a woman choose an older man when she could have a younger one? - in this article, we focus on the how-to.

How to date younger women, that is.

So, grab your walking canes, gentlemen, and let's talk about the mechanics of meeting, dating, sleeping with, and having relationships with younger women when you're an older man (and a little bit about this if you're a younger man, too).

Oh, and if you haven't read it yet, do check out Part I here, as well: "Dating Younger Women: Does It Make You 'Dirty'?"

Onwards, then.

 

"OMG, he's sooo sexy."

"Ew, gross... he could be my father."

The first comment is one I've heard made repeatedly about Sean Connery by teenage girls. Not 1960s James Bond Sean Connery, mind you, but present day in-his-80s Sean Connery.

The second comment is one I've heard several times by teenage girls about amorous men in their 40s or 50s.

What's the difference?

Well, Connery's a celebrity, of course. But this isn't the only path to sexy-older-man-dom - in the last article, I related the tale of a 59-year-old Navy Captain who did just fine with young, pretty, vibrant 20-somethings. And I've known my fair share of men in their 40s and 50s who regularly picked up and slept with and dated women in their 20s - some of them have even been students of mine I've watched firsthand pick up girls in nightclubs and meet women on streets; some are guys who post on the discussion boards right here on the site today.

I've had girlfriends of mine - beautiful, educated, charismatic girlfriends in their 20s - tell me they'd take a seasoned, attractive older man over me. I had one remark - while watching a recent Harrison Ford movie, where the senior was at one point in mortal danger - that she wanted to jump into the movie, save Harrison Ford... then leave me there and bring him back out with her instead.

I watched a gorgeous 28-year-old ex-girlfriend of mine with a killer body and a great career date her boss, a bald, portly Frenchman in his 50s who'd been divorced three times.

I listened as another girlfriend, 26 at the time and with a strong career in finance, told me about the man in his 40s she'd doggedly chased down for a relationship until he'd turned her down, telling her she was too young for him.

Clearly, at least SOME younger women like older men.

But what do you have to do and who do you have to be to make that be YOU?

 

The Older Man Template

When most people think about older men dating younger women, I think they mostly either picture a suave, well-to-do man in a suit jacket with a social climbing young girlfriend, or some creepy, predatory older man with money to throw around dating an obnoxious gold digger.

While these templates are no doubt based on paradigms that do occur in the world, I haven't met people who much fit these descriptions myself, and they're pretty poor stereotypes for older man / younger woman pairings in general.

In the real world, the kinds of older men women find attractive are every bit as diverse as the kinds of younger men they do.

Here are the types of older men I've seen various attractive younger women fall for:

• The spunky, vivacious guy bursting with energy and enthusiasm (that Navy Captain I told you about)

• Smooth, charming, sexy, and playfully flirtatious (Sean Connery fits this bill, as do some of the older men I've known who did well with women)

• Manly, brooding, and darkly humorous (Harrison Ford goes here - this one's harder to get initial attraction with sometimes, but once a girl gets to know a guy like this she becomes nuts about him; George Clooney's somewhere in the middle between this one and the smooth, charming, sexy, flirty guy)

Naturally, different types of women go for these different types of men:

• The spunky guy gets more submissive women

• The smooth guy gets smooth women, or sometimes brooding women

• The manly, brooding guy gets spunkier women

I'm certain there are other "templates" out there I haven't seen - had I not known my old Navy Captain, for instance, I wouldn't have thought that "spunky" worked for an older guy (or even that there WERE spunky older guys, for that matter).

The point is though, there is not a one-size-fits-all version of the sexy older man you must be.

Instead, you have some options, no matter what your base personality may be.

 

What the Science Says

Let's get into a bit more research.

From "Winners, Losers, and Choosers: A Field Investigation of Dating Initiation", published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin in 1984 about video-dating (a pre-Internet dating service):

“Two studies on interpersonal attraction were conducted at a commercial video-dating service. Profiles of members were rated on age, physical attractiveness, status, humor and warmth. In the first study, significant differences were found between popular and unpopular males, physically attractive males being more popular. Popular females were found to be younger and more attractive than unpopular females. The second study investigated the dating choices and rejections of twenty new members. Higher status and physical attractiveness were significant predictors of males being chosen by females, whereas the only significant predictor of females being chosen by males was physical attractiveness. Males tended to choose and reject younger women. and females tended to choose and reject older men. There was also a tendency for both sexes to choose targets of higher social desirability and reject targets of lower social desirability. We concluded that the male-older, female-younger norm and physical attractiveness are important factors in dating initiation strategies for both sexes, although females also rely on status.”

Here it's found that women select for (at least in video dating):

• Looks
• Status
• Older men (though how much older is unspecified)

Nothing earth-shatteringly new there.

From "Partner preferences across the life span: Online dating by older adults", in the June 2009 edition of Psychology and Aging:

“Stereotypes of older adults as withdrawn or asexual fail to recognize that romantic relationships in later life are increasingly common. The authors analyzed 600 Internet personal ads from 4 age groups: 20–34, 40–54, 60–74, and 75+ years. Predictions from evolutionary theory held true in later life, when reproduction is no longer a concern. Across the life span, men sought physical attractiveness and offered status-related information more than women; women were more selective than men and sought status more than men. With age, men desired women increasingly younger than themselves, whereas women desired older men until ages 75 and over, when they sought men younger than themselves.”

So here the conclusions relevant to us are:

• Men offer status information more than women
• Women seek men with status more than men do
• Men seek increasingly younger women as they age
• Women desire older men (though again, no age specificity here)

Although I can tell you from skimming online dating profiles (what the study authors did here), while I've seen women with more limited preferred age spans, I've also seen plenty of women with 25- to 30-year age spans for men they're looking for (say, 25 to 50 or so) - it's not that uncommon to come across.

A more interesting finding from the July 2001 edition of Evolution and Human Behavior is "Age preferences for mates as related to gender, own age, and involvement level", with the following findings:

“The present study examined desired minimum and maximum ages for mates across five different levels of relationship involvement (marriage, serious relationship, falling in love, casual sex, and sexual fantasies) comparing individuals of 20, 30, 40, 50, and 60 years old. Consistent with previous findings, women preferred partners of their own age, regardless of their own age and regardless of the level of relationship involvement. Men, on the other hand, regardless of their own age, desired mates for short-term mating and for sexual fantasies who were in their reproductive years. However, with regard to long-term mates, men preferred mates who, although younger than them, were sometimes above the age of maximum fertility. Explanations for these findings are discussed.”

According to this research:

• Women desire partners their own age
• Men desire short-term partners of reproductive age
• Men desire long-term partners their own age

The bullet about women preferring partners their own age contrasts with the earlier research, and with what I've seen myself - this survey largely seems to be self-reported, so that might be down to the difference between what women say they want vs. actual real-world preferences (something we'll talk about in just a bit when we talk about women being reputation conscious and worried about what people might think).

The more interesting notes here are older men's preferences for flings with and fantasies about reproductive-aged women, but for commitment they select women their own age. My guess would be a fling with an older woman doesn't provide much reproductive value (i.e., she's likely to be infertile), but when you want a companion around for the long haul, you probably want someone you're able to relate with and connect to as much as possible - and that's probably someone with a similar level of life experience to you.

Now here's the most interesting chunk of research of all: from a 1985 edition of The Journal of Social Psychology comes "Ratings of Physical Attractiveness as a Function of Age":

“Holmes and Hatch (1938) theorized that physical attractiveness is related to erotic desirability and to biological superiority with the result that through selective breeding, the species, Homo sapiens, is improved. Elaborating this theory, Symons (1979) suggested that over the life span of a single individual, the correlation between physical attractiveness, erotic desirability, and biological superiority would ensure that the individual would have children only during periods of superior fitness. He also suggested that physical attractiveness is more important to males in selecting sex partners than it is to females. To test the theorizing of Holmes, Hatch, and Symons, it was hypothesized that following puberty a negative relationship would be found between an individual's age and ratings of physical attractiveness by judges of the opposite sex. Furthermore, the relationship would be more negative for ratings of women by men than for ratings of men by women. The negative relationship was found for ratings of women made by American men (n = 40) but not ratings of men made by American women (n = 40).”

So, the researchers went in hypothesizing that age leads to a decline in one's physical attractiveness as one advances in years, and that this decline would be steeper for women than for men.

What the researchers found was that, while the decline in physical attractiveness for women as rated by men existed, men's physical attractiveness ratings as judged by women did not go down at all as they aged.

Now isn't that interesting.

When I had a long-running debate before with a friend of mine about older men's desirability to younger women, the crux of his argument was, "Women want young hot men, because older men are ancient and ugly."

Apparently though, women themselves beg to differ.

 

Silverback Theory

In the previous article, I mentioned how the only men I really see as tough competition anymore when I encounter them vying for a woman's affections are attractive, put-together, exceptional older men. When I'm up against these men, I lose.

I look un-suave by comparison.

Doesn't matter how smooth, slow, or mature I am. A suave older man still has me beat. I don't know if it's life experience, or more years in seduction, or simply the magnetic appeal of a stand-out older man, but I don't like having to compete against a guy like this, and when I roll with a guy like this, it's one of the very few times the lead female of any pairs or groups we meet goes for someone else (him) instead of for me.

Women are attracted to the guy in charge. And when you put a 30-year-old guy next to a 50-year-old guy, it isn't the 30-year-old guy who strikes you as the one in charge.

I think of this as being rather similar to how things function mating-wise for gorillas.

You see a band of gorillas, and it's a family group of females and children, led by one dominant male: a silverback.

The silverback is a mature, older male. He's big, he's strong, and he's sharp - he knows how to maintain control of his group and keep it his.

If you didn't know better, you might think a younger gorilla would be able to take his band away from him - the younger gorilla is more energetic, he's hungrier, he's youthful.

You'd think he'd be able to take on a silverback and win.

But he can't. He loses when he tries.

Humans aren't gorillas, of course. A male gorilla has a comparably slower path toward maturing into dominant silverback material than a male human does to reaching proper adulthood. The advantage age brings is not quite as extreme in man.

But even in humans - from everything I've seen - there doesn't really appear to be anything more attractive to a woman than a stand-out, exceptional, attractive, high status older male.

The silverback takes all comers, and wins.

 

The biggest part of dating younger women, of course, is the same as dating any kind of women: having your fundamentals tied down tight.

That's things like:

• Your fashion / hairstyle / facial hair / body
• Your body language / nonverbal communication / facial expressions
• Your sexy vibe / sexual tension / general sexiness
• Your conversational ability / deep diving / emotional connecting
• Your ability to lead women / take the reins / handle logistics

... basically, everything we talked about in "How to Attract Women: The Guide."

Those are all the things we teach you to do all over this site, in the programs here, and on the discussion boards.

If you've been reading this site, you've got 95% of it already.

However, there are a few other considerations to keep in mind.

 

Pressure on Younger Women to Conform

One of the key things standing in the older man's way, when it comes to dating younger women? Status, reputation, and social pressure.

Women - especially young women, frequently enmeshed with large, fluid groups of opinionated friends - are extremely status conscious, and retain reputation management as perhaps their foremost social priority.

Make a girl potentially look bad, and you will be thrown under the bus faster than you can say, "What just happened?"

... EVEN if she liked you and found you attractive.

Because there is a lot of public sentiment in the West regarding older men interested in younger women as 'dirty' right now, and younger women interested in older men as 'gold diggers', even though most younger women don't actually hold these views, they will fear their friends will when being approached by an older man around their social circles.

What ends up happening much of the time when a girl is approached by an older man while with her social circle in the West is this:

• Older man approaches younger woman in front of her friends

• Younger woman panics internally; thinks, "Oh no; what if my friends think I'm a gold digger, or into dirty old men?!"

• Younger woman rejects older man to ensure she maintains her social status; gossips to her friends: "Can you believe that? He's old enough to be my father!"

• This reinforces to the group that older men are 'dirty' and need to be rejected by any of the group's members on said older men's approaches

The larger and more cohesive the girl group, the stronger this effect is.

But much of it is group-based; the effect goes away rather fast when a group disbands or a girl stops associating with a tight-knit group of judgmental (or imagined to be judgmental) friends.

That is to say, if you meet an 18-year-old in high school with her group of 7 besties, even if you're attractive and she might otherwise like you, you're walking into a bear trap as an older man and will easily be eviscerated.

Conversely, if you meet an 18-year-old in college when she's just recently arrived and doesn't know anyone yet and there are no suspected social repercussions for her actions (she is anonymous), and you're attractive and she likes you, there's a good probability things go quite well.

Therefore, if you're an older man who likes younger women, avoid approaching large, cohesive groups whenever and wherever possible.

If you're a younger man, your odds are a bit better... but you are STILL a lot more likely to get thrown under the bus by a girl in a tight group than a girl you approach who is alone or with a sole friend.

The rule of thumb for older and younger men alike, then, but especially older men, is this: approach girls by themselves or with but one friend as your preferred choices.

The girl with 2+ friends in-tow is less and less likely to be receptive, because she's too worried about her reputation and too uninterested in however attractive you actually would be to her in another situation.

Of course, if you see a girl you really like, and won't have a chance to meet her in more favorable conditions, give it a shot anyway. The worst she can do is laugh you off... but she'd do that to anybody in that situation.

 

Approaching Younger Women

Goes without saying, but same as any other advice on this site - don't bother making excuses for yourself, qualifying yourself, or anything - it just makes it weird.

That means, don't try to explain why you're approaching her, as if she's going to think, "Isn't this guy too old to be talking to me?!" Just act like it's the most normal thing in the world, and she's a lot more likely to follow your lead. Eventually, you'll get comfortable enough with approaching younger women that it WILL be the most normal thing in the world.

Sprezzatura becomes ever more important as you age - a young man chasing a woman around is bad; an older man chasing a woman around is worse. Obey the Law of Least Effort. It's crucial to coming across as a stand-out older man rather than an ordinary or washed up one.

Is there a specific type of opener to use with younger women?

No, not really.

As usually, situationally relevant openers will get you into more interactions, more smoothly, and provide an easy entry into indirect game, while direct openers are more polarizing, and will lead to strong disapproval from some women and strong instant attraction from others.

Worth noting here: women will use the, "Aren't you too old for me?" or, "Aren't I a little young for you?" excuse to reject you when you are older than them and they are younger than you and they are not interested. Don't take this at face value, any more than you would a woman telling you that she has a boyfriend or isn't really dating right now or what have you. It's just an excuse. Women will pick the first excuse at hand to reject you with when they aren't interested... but the real reason for the rejection is that they simply aren't interested. They almost never actually know why they aren't, though.

I've several times seen younger women reject a man with an, "I'm a little too young for you, don't you think?" excuse, only for them to later end up with a man older than the one they rejected (usually one more charming than the first).

Don't take it to heart when you get the "you're too old for me" rejection; it just means you were doing general attraction things wrong, not that you've crossed some age threshold whereby you are no longer attractive to any women of her age bracket anymore.

 

Differences Between Older Guy and Younger Guy Game

Depending on your age, you'll treat younger women a little bit differently.

Generally speaking, younger Western women like being teased. They respond well to it. They enjoy having a man gently nudge them in the ribs and delicately pop their egos.

Teasing properly is an easy way of showing a younger woman you aren't putting her on a pedestal. The great masses of younger and older alike men are guilty of this; and usually, both younger and older men need to tease somewhat to differentiate themselves from the kiss-ups and supplicaters.

Regardless of your age, it's important to keep this teasing light and not too personal. You don't want to send her into auto-rejection; you just want to tease her enough that she says, "Oh, good... he can be normal around me and isn't going to be tip-toeing around because he thinks I'm young, hot, and amazing."

Also regardless of your age, you will show interest in her potential, asking her things about what she does with her time, what she'd like to do, why she does the things she does and not the things she would rather be doing, etc. - everything we talked about in those conversation articles (if you need more, see "Conversation Example" and "What Does She Want? The 8 Things You Must Ask Her").

However, when you're younger and talking about yourself, you'll want to allude a bit more to qualities that paint you as wild, rebellious, adventurous, and ambitious - travel, sports, martial arts, getting arrested, starting a business, etc.

When you're older, you want to allude more to things that imply you've "made it." Not showboating, mind you; not even explicitly stating what is so great about you. But just implying via your communication that you are comfortable living the life of someone who's long since achieved success, and that is what you're accustomed to.

Here's an example:

Her: ... and if I'm really lucky, someday I'd like to start my own dance school.

You: That's fantastic. Dance is a beautiful form of art.

Her: How about you?

You: Oh, me? Well I actually helped a friend set up her dance school, get it running and off the ground... that was a long time ago though.

Her: No, I mean, what do you do?

You: Ah. Well, I travel, admire art, and try to sample every reasonably good restaurant in whatever city I'm spending a fair chunk of time in. I'm a bit of a foodie... sometimes I have to hit the gym pretty hard after a big meal to not end up with a beer belly. Your body doesn't bounce back as fast when you're my age as it does when you're younger, you know.

Her: Oh. Well, what I meant was what do you do for work?

You: I have a small company that does software implementations. Nothing terribly huge, but it's enough for me to have my freedom.

Her: That's so cool; I really want to have my own business.

You: What's stopping you?

Her: Well I...

You can't play the mysterious/traveling unemployed adventurer card as an older man; once you're past 33 or 34 or so, I think you've pretty much got to be a business owner (best), retired (second best, or maybe tied for best), or reasonably high up in whatever you do for work.

You also must be very wary of being the older "adventure" traveler; a woman is excited to meet a young man traveling the world for the sake of adventure, but when she meets an older man who's traveling, he must have a purpose for being there.

Which brings us to a core difference between younger and older men: younger men are expected to be in search of a purpose; older men are expected to have one.

Everything about you, as an older man, must communicate purpose, certainty, and self-assuredness. You must know not just the what of the things you do, but the why.

You're not in Eastern Europe because you're a sex tourist. You're there because you're opening up a new branch of your bank from back home in Switzerland.

You're not in South America because you love Latinas. You're there because you're researching for the Great American Novel you're writing, and your main character is an immigrant from Brazil.

You're not in East Asia because you've heard Asian women adore Western men. You're there because a Korean company brought you in to spearhead their marketing advertisements and Britons have a reputation for well-run advertising campaigns.

This doesn't just extend to travel, either; it extends to everything. You can get away with anything you want as an older man - even those things most older men can't - if you have a good reason.

You're in a nightclub? Surely you must be chasing after young women - another dirty old man. Unless it's because you're there to entertain a business client who happens to love nightclubs... or it's your buddy's bachelor party (for his second wedding)... or you're old friends with the manager of the club and you wanted to pay him a visit. Or maybe you just spent a great deal of time in nightclubs as a youth and you still like to come by and have a drink now and again for old time's sake.

You're approaching women on the street during day game? Well, you were on your way to the office, and you just couldn't help it: she's beautiful; you had to meet her.

You quickly see how important it is as an older man to have a social life that's structured around your professional endeavors, or other core callings in life.

Having reasons for things is a "nice to have" as a younger man meeting younger women, but it's a must have for older men meeting them. One of the big differences between a dirty old man and a suave older gentleman is that the dirty old man is just chasing around after pretty young girls like he's 22 years old. The suave older gentleman is only there because his mission has taken him there - and while there, he's just happened to notice this beautiful girl.

 

Notes on Dating Younger Women as a Younger Man

Some of the younger readers on this site have asked about how to do better with younger women as a younger man, since many younger women seem to go for men at least a few years older than them.

Others have remarked that they don't even like younger women, and find them annoying or trite, preferring women older than themselves.

In fact, depending on how old you are, even as a man you'll frequently tend to prefer women older than yourself, at least until your early twenties or so:

“The tendency for women to prefer older partners, and for men to prefer younger partners, has frequently been explained in terms of socialization to American sex-role norms specifying that men must be older and more powerful than their female partners. However, recent cross-cultural data reveal this same pattern in all societies studied, a finding more in line with an evolutionary life-history model. The evolutionary model assumes that what is attractive to males is not youth, per se, but features related to fertility. This perspective leads to a hypothesis concerning the development of age preferences among adolescents: teenage males should violate the normative pattern shown in adult males and express interest in females older than themselves. 209 teenagers (103 males, 106 females) ranging in age from 12 to 19 were surveyed regarding the age limits they would find acceptable in a dating partner, as well as the age of a dating partner they would find ideally attractive. Although teenage males were willing to date girls slightly younger than themselves, they indicated a much wider range of acceptability above their own ages, and also reported that their ideally attractive partners would be several years older than themselves. Preferences of teenage females were similar in pattern to those of adult females, ranging, on average, from their own age to several years older. When combined with the consistent adult data obtained from numerous cultures, these data suggest the utility of viewing the development of sex differences in mate preference from the perspective of an evolutionary life-history model.”

That's from "Adolescents' Age Preferences for Dating Partners: Support for an Evolutionary Model of Life-History Strategies", a 2008 article in the journal Child Development.

Both younger men and younger women prefer older partners, according to the study.

Personally, I did better with women in their mid-20s and up until I was about 26 or 27... it wasn't until then that I started consistently sleeping with women in their late teens and early 20s. We simply didn't have much to talk about, and weren't really what one another was looking for.

If you're a younger guy interacting with younger girls, be aware that younger women can seem jarring and hard-to-get because they don't have the smoother, better-calibrated social responses that more experienced older women have... instead, younger women are rough around the edges. They will be:

• Seemingly rude sometimes when they're just trying to tease or flirt with you
• Looking aloof and disinterested because they're very focused on saving face
• Complaining and objecting, even about things they may want to do
• Trying to treat you like you're being weird even when you're not

This is partly why some guys do better with younger women as they get more experienced with women - when you don't know where the lines are because you're not socially experienced enough yet, it's hard to know if her reaction is correct or off/fake.

Once you know though, it's easy to give a girl the skeptical look until she drops the act and goes along with you.

Think of it like this: younger women are all talk and little walk (and often don't know what they want), while older women don't talk as much but are a lot firmer and more straightforward in what they want and communicate (or don't).

With younger women, keep the conversation to a minimum, keep things moving, and do not brag. Bragging is bad with older women; it communicates a guy is insecure and needs to build his status up. But it does something much worse with younger women: it makes you unrelatable.

Most of the things men brag about, younger women cannot relate to, because they haven't had those life experiences yet.

All you do with bragging around younger women is alienate them and blow yourself out.

 

Relationships with Younger Women

Here's one I don't have quite as much information on, but I'll relate some anecdotal data.

When I see older men take younger long-term girlfriends and brides, the cutoff age seems to be about 27 as the minimum. I noticed it when I was pretty young; all these rich older men would always be marrying 27-year-old women.

"What's wrong with a 20-year-old?" I used to think as a teen. "If I was some rich old guy, that's who *I* would marry! 27 is so old!"

I think the reason for this is, again, relatability; a woman who's a long-term relationship partner of yours is someone who's going to be very close with you, someone you're going to spend a lot of time with, someone who will influence you quite a bit, and someone you'll talk with more than almost anyone else.

And the fact of the matter is, if you're an exceptional older guy who's trying to do things with his life, a 20-year-old kid just isn't going to have a lot of perspective yet to be able to contribute a whole lot to your mission.

I'm positive this is why older men might like sleeping with much younger women, but will usually select as their more permanent mates women who aren't quite the youngest they could get.

It's because, as much fun as that 18-year-old with her tight body was... she just doesn't have much to say when you want to tell her about how things are going with your business, and that complicated merger you just pulled off, and whoa, look what your competitor is doing, isn't that crazy.

Unless you want to be her second father in the relationship (and I doubt you do), you'll almost certainly end up dating a woman in her mid- to late-20s or up when you're already somewhere in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or beyond.

 

It's an Older Man's Game, Too

One final piece of research to strip you of any last remaining reservations you might've had about dating younger women as an older man. This one's from Research on Aging, and it's entitled "The Nature and Functions of Dating in Later Life." Here's the abstract:

“Using the National Survey of Families and Households, logistic regression analyses were conducted to identify factors that are significant predictors of dating for persons aged 60 years and older. Stepwise regressions were also conducted to determine the effects of dating on the psychological well-being of older daters. The strongest predictor of the propensity to date in later life is gender, with men significantly more likely to engage in dating. A number of gender differences were noted as they relate to the likelihood of dating. In particular, age and social role involvement tend to influence older men's likelihood of dating, while health and mobility were significantly associated with dating among older women.”

Older men (60+, in this study) are significantly more likely than older women to be dating.

Of course, if older men were dating older women, those numbers would have to be equal... but they aren't.

They're dating younger women.

A good chunk of them, anyway.

Biggest influencers on older men's dating were age (realistically-speaking, a 60-year-old is probably more likely to be dating than an 80-year-old) and social role - another way of saying social status.

That is, if you want to know which older men are most likely to be dating, just look at whether they're ordinary men with mid-level social status... or exceptional men with exceptional status.

Younger women are there and available to you as an older man, if you want them, and if you're willing to work on yourself hard enough to become what they want.

So get out there and show those whippersnappers how it's done.

Chase Amante