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12 Ways to Make Sex with a New Partner Good

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Sick of one-night stands? When you have sex with a new partner, you can make it mediocre and never see her again, or make it so good she’ll want to come back for more.

Having sex with a new partner is supposed to be epic, fun, and a gateway to more amazing sex. But often the affair ends after only one session.

Personally, I am not a fan of one-night stands. Approaching, mesmerizing, and picking up very attractive women is no small effort. It sucks to put in all that work for one brief sex session. So why waste it? Sex with a new partner should be good enough for a repeat performance, if that’s what you want.

I’ve had quite a few girls shag me then ghost. Why? Maybe they just wanted an easy bang. Perhaps they had husbands or boyfriends and needed an adventure. Women love sex too, and it’s not difficult for them to find it. So if you’re spending months or years learning how to attract women, you should also learn how to shag them with enough skill to keep them around.

When you’re having sex with a new partner, you want to give her an epic time so she’ll come back for more. A man who is great in bed is hard to come by. If you can be that guy, she’ll still be thinking about you at night, long after your first session, and you’ll start getting those “What are you up to tonight?” texts more frequently.

 

Sex with a New Partner Tip #1: Enthusiasm

If you’re ever screwing a girl and she asks “What’s wrong?” it’s likely because you’re not enthusiastic enough.

One of the most arousing feelings for both men and women is the feeling of being desired.

Have you ever had sex with a girl you weren’t that attracted to? I have. Sometimes you do it because, hey, why not? But compare that to when you bang a girl so hot you have to fight your arousal – so that you don’t finish too quickly.

In my experience, I’ve always given a far better sexual performance to women who turn me on. I just work harder to make sure I rock her mind and body hard, because who knows if I’ll ever have another unicorn? What if World War III breaks out, or I lose an arm bowling or something?

When you’re having sex with a new partner, do it with the enthusiasm of a thirsty man finding water in the desert. Don’t act desperate, but make her feel desired.

 

Tip #2: Variety

I’m about to talk about physical sex and emotional sex. Understand that when I teach variety, I do not only mean a variety of positions. That’s newbie land and ideally not how to have sex with a new partner.

Sex is a lot like approach theory. You want to stand out, be unpredictable and different. You want to create a range of emotions, and have her chasing you for more.

I think most men learn how to have sex watching porn:

  1. Hammer missionary for one minute (in silence)

  2. Hammer doggy style for one minute (at constant speed)

  3. Come on her face (moan in pleasure at release)

Later, you wonder why she doesn’t want a repeat performance. For sex with a new partner, you want to impress her enough to come back.

So use variety, which I’ll explain in the next few points.

For now, consider this metaphor: would you like a song that only repeats the first verse over and over? No, you want a chorus, a breakdown, a solo, and finally a crescendo. Not just one long note.

 

Tip #3: Foreplay

Foreplay is a critical step to great sex. This can be lying in bed, stroking, cuddling, kissing, and caressing, or whispering all the nasty things you’re going to do to her when you’re finally alone, away from the party.

Sex with a new partner doesn’t always require traditional foreplay. I’ve taken girls in alleys, stairwells, bathrooms, etc. without the commonly thought of foreplay ingredients like going down on each other and all that. You might even think there wasn’t any foreplay involved. But there was; it was actually the “sexual tension” that served to fire up the oven in those cases.

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Sometimes sexual tension can get so wild that neither of you can be bothered with foreplay.

That said, most guys want to skip the foreplay and rush to their release, and the actual act of penetration becomes anti-climatic for the woman. It’s the buildup to the event that really turns women on.

The longer you’re highly aroused, the quicker you’ll probably come. If you’ve been with a sexy girl who makes you hard for hours, when you finally have sex, it’s hard to not instantly pop.

A woman’s orgasm is a similar but much trickier beast. The buildup works in the same way, except she’s multi-orgasmic. So once she pops, it’s not game over. But getting her to the first orgasm can be a challenge. So with foreplay and sex with a new partner, it pays off to take your time.

A general rule for great first sex – and all sex – is to make the foreplay last longer than the actual act of penetration. You may want to rush through to get the notch, but in the long game, patience pays off.

 

Tip #4: Cerebral

The old cliché is true: a woman’s greatest erogenous zone is her mind.

Mix up your foreplay and sex with a little verbal seduction. Use language to increase the emotional intensity of the encounter.

Example:

You, sucking on her boobs: “Your breasts are so big and soft, and I love how they taste. Mmmm, you’re so naughty, aren’t you? You’re a bad girl. I like that. You’re so sexy.”

That's how you verbalize your enthusiasm, create a bit of tension, and validate her sexiness.

Remember to make love to her mind as well as her body.

 

Tip #5: Dirty Talk

Some women enjoy dirty talk. You can call her your “little whore” or “dirty slut” or “bitch,” but not every girl will be down for this. There’s no easy way to find out other than directly asking, “Do you like when I talk like that to you?” Otherwise, you can try and listen for her moans of pleasure, or she’ll scream out, “Yes, I am daddy’s little whore!”

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If she doesn’t like it, you probably won’t hear from her again. So it’s risky. But if it’s the first time having sex with a new partner and you pull off dirty talk, it can be incredibly hot.

Variety. Use variety here. Switch from dirty to “caring” or “validation.”

“I feel so good when I’m with you. Your skin is so beautiful. I love the sound of your voice.”

And then add, “Especially when I see that ass... and I pound it... like this!”

With more experience, you can hypnotically train her to come on demand, or roleplay various scenarios, like you’re a robber who’s broken into the house to rape her, or you’re her favorite anime villain. You’d be surprised what a girl’s fantasy might be. Check out this book for ideas: My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday.

Roleplaying may not be the best idea to explore when having sex with a new partner. I’ve done it, but it takes a certain sort of imagination to pull it off.

 

Tip #6: Environment

She’s a new girl, and you want to make a good impression. You don’t need an immaculate bachelor pad, but it should be clean and organized. If you bring her home and there’s dirty laundry, dishes, and rubbish piled in every corner, it could kill the mood.

General cleaning tips: make your bed before you go out. Do your dishes. Empty the garbage cans. Scrub the sinks and toilets. Do an all-around cleanup.

If your place is disgusting, you might still get the lay – but perhaps not another one.

 

Tip #7: Emotion

A variety of emotions will make sex with a new partner more fun. In general, with a new girl, you want the emotions to be positive: fun, joy, pleasure. But even anger, sadness, and frustration can be utilized for great sex. Think of breakup sex for example.

The way to oscillate emotions in sex is through variety. Work in a variety of sex talk, comfort and validation, physical pain, and pleasure – which all create emotion. Mix it up.

 

Tip #8: Taboo

Shouldn’t, couldn’t, wouldn’t. I like to use this language during the seduction.

  • Kissing: “I shouldn’t be doing this.”

  • Touching: “We couldn’t – not yet.”

  • Flirting: “You wouldn’t take advantage of me, would you?”

Sex with a new partner can be extra fun when it feels forbidden. This is the primary plot technique for every vampire or billionaire romance story ever. The main theme being “We shouldn’t/can’t be doing this.”

Maybe she has a boyfriend, she’s married, or she’s your secretary. If there’s something taboo about your encounter, you can play that up, or just tacitly understand that the two of you shouldn’t be doing this.

 

Tip #9: Rough

I’ve yet to meet a girl who doesn’t enjoy having her hair pulled while she’s getting rammed from behind.

Most women love a little rough play in their sex – spanking, biting, hair pulling, cock gagging, and so on.

Every girl is different in the level of pain they like during sex. Usually, if you smack a girl on the ass, she’ll verbalize her enthusiasm with a “Yes! Harder!” If she doesn’t like it, she’ll let you know, too.

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But most of the time, it's "Yes! Harder!"

 

Tip #10: Gentle

After a bit of ass slapping and hair pulling, a little tender kiss on the lips, or a light caress along the thighs evens things out.

You don’t want to be overly gentle or excessively rough. Too much softness and the sex becomes boring. Too rough and it becomes an assault.

With yin there’s yang – so with rough comes gentle. Variety.

 

Tip #11: Dominance

Dominance doesn’t mean being a control freak. Sometimes you can let the girl be in charge, too. She could hop on top and take control. But in general, when you have sex with a new girl, you want to lead her. Move her from position to position, dictate the rhythm and pace and the level of pain, pleasure, and variety.

More sexually confident women will take charge. But I’ve found most women are perfectly happy having their man run about 90% of the show in bed.

If you want her to do something, ask her, or even tell her. “Sit on your knees.” “Open your mouth,” and so on.

All women respond to dominant men outside of bed, and especially inside it.

 

Tip #12: Loving

After telling her she’s daddy’s naughty little whore, you should let her know she’s also a sweet, precious, beautiful, sexy girl. Give her a little love.

Remember, variety.

If you only talk dirty to her, you become some sort of asshole with a dominance fetish. If you’re nothing but loving, you come off as a creepy potential stalker.

Again, use variety to keep her guessing who you really are.

 

Sex with a New Partner: Get Her Coming Back for More

The next time you have sex with a new partner, I hope she’ll be so pleased with your ravishing, she’ll come back for more. There are far more in-depth guides to great sex on this site. I suggest you study up with those and find a girl to practice on. Then tell her, “You’re my lucky little slut I get to practice sex on.”

Okay, maybe don’t say that.

But if you do, let me know how it goes in the comments. ;)

Tony

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