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Girls Who Want You, vs. Girls Who Are Bored-but-Available

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There are, in essence, two main classes of women you can hook up with.

The first class is the women who just want you. These women find you attractive (some, even irresistible), compelling, magnetic. There's something about you they like -- or there might be many things about you they like. They're fascinated by you the moment you walk up, or they've grown attached to you over time as they've gotten to know you. They like you, and they actively want to date you, spend time with you, connect with you, be in physical contact with you.

The second class is women who aren't particularly desirous of you, but they are available to you. Many of these women are just bored. Some of them may be available because they're out to rebel, and you fit the "If I hook up with this guy, I'll really be rebelling against Mom/society/my overbearing boyfriend" idea they have in their heads. Some may be available to you for revenge. For some it might be because they want to have an experience. In each of these cases, these women don't want you or like you so much as they want some guy... and you happen to be the best guy available who makes it easy for such a girl to satisfy her mission.

We've talked about this before on Girls Chase. But I really want to dive deep in this article on the girls in the second class.

Because a lot of guys don't even recognize how many women are out there like this at any given time. The fact is though, if you're good with girls, a lot of the women you get will likely come from this class.

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



Neal's picture

Here's something from an e-mail newsletter (copy/paste), I love stories like these, anyone have any others?

I am lucky enough to have a female friend who is married (and hot as hell). She recently told me an amazing story:

While at college in her 20s, she dated a dude for about a month. During one dinner he asked her to spend the night with him. She told him she wasn't looking for an intimate relationship.

(She purposefully lied. Says she just couldn't say yes on the first time.)

The thing is...

Dude never asked again!

They remained friends. Lunch and study dates occasionally.

Her last night at college, they went out, and she got all dressed up, hoping to get laid. Being the "gentleman" he was, he took her to dinner.

She tells me she was thinking, "Sex me! Don't feed me!"

They parted ways with a simple kiss.

Now obviously if dude had persisted, he would have succeeded.

But I personally have also ignored my share of girls after getting blown off the first time.

Here's the kicker...

I suggested to her that she must regret not getting a chance to bed this dude. She said if she had to do it again, she would do things exactly the same. To this day, she thinks dude is a loser for not asking again!

She assures me that girls do this all the time – say no when what they really mean is, "Yes, but I need to play hard-to-get before we can have sex." She says she isn't really sure why they do this either.

Also it seems hot girls will not initiate sex – even when they are craving it.

SZ's picture

Hey Chase,

1. I asked on the boards, why do members want all of their posts deleted and why can't they delete them?

Are the posts and members that easy to trace? can members be found out that easy from their account on the forum?

or can they only be found out if they use a personally email?

I've seen a couple guys seem to be very pressed on getting all their information deleted off the board. A person can't really be found on there through a job search of Google search or something ? I'm assuming the board is anonymous right? wonder what the big deal is.

and why don't you want the posts history deleted? just curious?

2. could you tell me why a younger woman would want a older man that is a lifeguard, bartender, or any job that gets your notch count up?

I thought that a man had to be retired, well off, or have his own business to get younger women?

why wouldn't they look down on him for having that instead of the other three?

am I missing something?

3. did the girl I planned a call with not work out because I planned the call instead of calling and what if you text a girl what she's doing and then if she says she's not doing anything, then call?

Do you think with the one girl that went ghost did that because I asked her when she was free to talk on the phone? I mean I was planning on having a long conversation so I wanted to make sure she was free.

do you think texting and asking a girl what she's doing, and if she says she's not doing anything, you give her a call then? how's that sound?

I just don't feel right calling out the blue, especially with these online girls since they never met me in person.

should I just call or should I text what is she up to, then call? maybe both?


Rain's picture

Hi Chase,

If these bored but available women don't like you from the get go, but then can fall in love after a few rounds of sex, are they more likely to cheat?

I mean, if a guy went with a fat chick but prefers skinny chicks, and the far chick gave good sex, was available after the guy had a bad week, but he still prefers skinny chicks, even after being with her for a while wouldn't he move on to a skinny chick in future given the opportunity so he would eirher end up cheating or leaving as an possible male equivalent of this situation?

SZ's picture

Hey Chase,

1. I know you said meeting women offline is better quality, but you run into the same issue with nightlife girls; how do you know you're not picking up a girl who does online dating or is a girl who goes out to clubs? and apps are more normal than they were before, so how do you know if your quality day game girl hasn't been using apps a lot in the past or is using them currently and might not tell you? the same for night game girls.

2. Recording girls on video and audio during sexual acts to protect ourselves against false accusations. isn't that against the law to do that if the girl doesn't know? do you think it's important to do this with every single girl we sleep with? think we could get a paper for them to sign to? could you go through the process of how to make this work every time? like how do we set up cameras and recorders? how do we even feel normal having to actually go through all of this for sex? it seems like to much to deal with and it would be better to just opt out of dating. do you recommend men do this with all women now because of all this drama? if so could you explain the whole process of setting everything up? should we ask her if she consents every time we put our dicks somewhere on or in her during the recording?

3. a. so with dealing with chicks from online apps and clubs, is it best to not sleep with them at your place? would a hotel actually be the best option? I remember you saying that it's best if girls don't know much about you at all. so I'm guessing a hotel would be good?

out of your place, her place, hotel, what order from best to worse is best for sleeping with online chicks and chicks from clubs? 

the thing with her house, you don't know who's around or in the house, with your house you don't know if she'll tell someone where you live, or try to come over there random times, and she knows where you live.

I'm guessing hotel, but how do you pull it off and make it consistent? 

b. also how do you know if a chick is cool to know where you live and come over your place  after a first date? 

c. how do you know it's cool to go over her place and not be set up after a first date?

let me know all your thoughts on that please.

4. is there a way now that's possible to sleep with 100 chicks naturally without using apps? is there a way to do it the old fashion way with going out all the time? it seems it'll take twice as long. is it even possible to sleep with 100+ women off day game alone within a few years? it's harder to meet women off day game alone, so I'm wondering if it's possible to even rack up lays that way.

5. should I regret not sleeping around as much as I should have in high school? with all the crazy hit going on now with dating, it was so much easier back then. you didn't have to worry about career, dates, money, going out every weekend to the club or bars, they just come over and it's easy. I regret not going harder because in my mind those were the best times to get laid, now it's nothing but struggle and paranoia. I think about how easy things were back then and wish I fucked a lot more girls back then.

6. can you give me some advice on how to still sleep with many women and not constantly worry about all the bad shit? especially from dating women online? it seems this is one of the fastest ways to hook up with women and I've heard many use it to get more of them, but after hearing you say how crazy they are it makes me paranoid, but this is something I can focus on as well as real life, so I don't want to close it off, but I am beyond paranoid and worried about these crazy chicks. any advice?

7. should black men mostly sleep with black women more than latina and white chicks off apps and in real life in general? should black men just stay a way from them and focus on black women because it seems white mostly accuse white men of false accusations, I'm assuming latinas as well. so do you think it's a better chance black women don't do this or wouldn't do this? which makes it easier to sleep with many of them without being so paranoid?

8. if online chicks think you want to hookup even if you say you want a relationship, does that mean it's best to sleep with them on the first night? because basically she's very open to hooking up with you? so you should treat all your interactions as if she wants sex with you more than anything else? so basically these girls are mostly down to have sex a lot sooner than other girls, thus making the process easier?


SZ's picture

Hey Chase,

Don't know if you saw my last comment or if it was too long to read, but here is a shorter version of it and I also wanted to reply to your last comment.


1. why did I never become a natural? I slept with women since my early teens, girls even flaked on me then, the only thing I didn't do was sleep with girls I wasn't attracted to. even back then I had girls playing games with me and flaking, I also had a lot of girls like me as well. I started very young and always had a girl around that gave me some type of pleasure as a young teen, so the only reason why I didn't become a natural was because I didn't want to sleep with girls I didn't want? 

2. When you said I've been at this for 6/7 years with no improvement. That's true to an extent, I haven't improved with sleeping with tons of women, but I did improve with my game, deep dive, conversation, etc.

before I had no idea what to say to girls before this site, I had no idea on how to ask for a number.

I feel I got a lot of it down, but I'm missing something with game.

now about the 6/7 year thing. I found this site around that time, but I didn't start commenting until around after I went out for two years of going out to clubs every weekend. when I started commenting is when I was beginning to slow down and gave up pick up.

so at that time when I was writing more questions than ever, like 3 years ago, I was in a relationship that I had well maintained, but I still wanted to sleep with more women, but didn't want to deal with all the annoying rejections and games again.

so after 3-4 years here we are and I'm ready back to improve.

I say that to say this, I'm not a dude who is beyond terrible with women, I know how to keep them around, but I can't get past flakes atm, once I sleep with them it's all good.

I'm in a dry spell right now only because I don't want to to sleep with old girls that want me right now because I don't want to get lazy again like I did for those 3 years.

so I'd say yes the flake thing has been going on for 6-7 years, but I still had different women to sleep with during those times for years and I didn't have any dry spells.

everything has improved for me with women during that time, especially my mental game. 

only thing is getting girls to come out to go on dates with me, that's all I struggle with.

so the majority of my non improment with getting more notches and partners was because I just gave up taking action, but still wanted what I wanted mentally.

I even went out solo and I never do that before, I feel very confident now doing that, that was a big improvement for me.

3. So I still want to get to 100, I'd like a refresher to get there the old fashion way. I still plan to use the notch cheat sheet, but I still want to learn game and get past my flakes.

​​​​so assuming I have a 9-5, go to the gym, and use a little spare time to work on a business or skill.

how much work should I put in a week to reach my goal of 100 women in the not too distant future?

if I remember correctly, you said at one time to talk to 20 women a night for 3-4 days at the club or bar? correct me if I'm wrong.

and what would be the number of girls to approach during day game? and how many days?

my goal is to have these number of approaches I should be making and days I should go out to get closer to my 100 woman goal.

so what would the basic template be if I want to reach that goal within a few years?

I plan to jot this down so I can remember the numbers of what I'm supposed to do.

I think this might be what I need to help my sticking point; talking to a whole bunch more women than before.

​​​​​4. I read in one of your comments to a reader about cool people look cool about not giving a fuck, I wanted to learn how can I really do that in my life and actually make it true?

I worry about a lot if you couldn't tell, I'm paranoid about everything and worry about everything.

I just do what I want to do and not give a fuck. I've tried it in the past, but it doesn't last and I go back to worrying. 

​​​​​​any tips on this trait I would greatly appreciate.

5. how can I change my current mindset with women? I feel that I'm being extra thirsty and feel like such a rookie that gets no girls.

when I read my messages it's like reading a lame dude, all these guys do is brag about their success and I'm here still talking about the same problems 

​​​​I have been sleeping with women for a long time, I shouldn't be acting like this, I want to be more chill.

so how can I still go hard with my partner count goals, but not give off a thirsty I need 100 women energy ?

like I want if bad, but I don't want to have that energy make me too thirsty that it makes me look thirsty.

I want to be chill, I want to be like the guy I am that has been sleeping with women and having them fall in love with me as a young teen.

I want to just not care about women and not give a fuck, but I still want to go hard with getting women while being chill and I cooler version of myself because I feel my thirsty mindset isn't helping me.

in my mind I want to fake it like I slept with 100 women already even though I haven't, I want to be able to have that calmness about me, as if I already did sleep with many women.

hope this make sense.


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