Beginner's Guide to Sexual Escalation, Pt. 1: When to Escalate to Sex

It may not always seem clear when the time to make a move is while relying purely on instinct. Use these frameworks to know when to escalate to sex with a girl & get your timing right.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

This post is dedicated to newer guys, to help them understand what’s going on. More experienced readers may also find value in this post.

I would like to discuss how to escalate to sex, often referred to as “end-game escalation,” from a beginner-friendly perspective. Below, I’ll outline some fundamental principles, theories, and guidelines that can help most men land girls, considering all factors. It’s important to establish a level of attraction, comfort, and decent logistics to proceed. This is a crucial first step.

Today, we will cover the theory of escalation.

Most men have an intuitive sense of how to escalate to sex. They begin with a light touch and gradually increase it. Unfortunately, they are often uncalibrated as they do this, which ultimately sparks the girl’s resistance. As a result, many men skip the basics of how to escalate properly. Instead, they interpret her resistance as a natural part of the process and look for “resistance busters” to overcome her objections to sex.

If this sounds like you, read and memorize the next sentence: The best way to deal with resistance is to prevent it from happening in the first place. Shortly, we will discuss the theory of escalation, concentrating on when to escalate to sex. Next week, we will address how quickly to escalate to sex. By keeping this in mind, you will be able to escalate smoothly and will likely dodge much resistance. Remember, resistance may still arise, and in a couple of weeks, I will share tips and tricks for managing those situations effectively.

Why am I focusing so much on resistance and objections to moves? The goal of escalation is to advance seduction and avoid resistance. If it occurs, you should learn to deal with it in a smooth way that also respects her boundaries (and consent). Many guys mess up the escalation process because they fear resistance. I will also discuss this below and offer a perspective that helps remove these fears.

What causes resistance? It is typically the result of poor escalation skills, although this is not always the case. Experienced guys who know how to escalate effectively rarely encounter resistance. Top-tier guys face it only about once a year. To satisfy your curiosity, I will provide a long list of potential causes for resistance below. However, I won’t go into detail about how to address each type, as that would be exhaustive, and more suited for upper-intermediates to advanced guys. Instead, I’ll focus on basic, general rules for appropriate escalation so that you can minimize resistance. I will also explain why this approach is preferable.