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As with the previous two past years (2013, 2014), I’ve sought to review all our articles posted and list the top posts, in my opinion and from comments/shares.
This past year saw 241 new posts, down a bit from 2014, though we started off the year with an all-time high posting schedule of new articles daily for the first several months of the year.
This year saw:
- Philip Etemesi’s 5 articles on getting girls in buses, at concerts, and in Africa
- Drexel Scott’s 6 discussions of female nature and sexual selection
- Ethan Fierre’s 6 essays on flirting, walking, and the romance novel
- Joseph W. South’s 8 plunges deep into the female psyche
- J.J. Jones’s 10 articles about deep diving, six-pack abs, and modern marriage
- Colt Williams’s 11 tutorials on quick pickup and types of girls
- Mateo Navarrete’s 11 introductions to openers, conversation, and escalation
- Cody Lyans’s 17 explorations of focus, mental obstacles, and inner work
- Hector Castillo’s 17 dissertations on dirtiness in bed and being a genuine man
- Darius Belejevas’s 23 pieces on fashion, grooming, and social appearances
- William Gupta’s 23 discussions of race, height, muscles, and intuition
- Alek Rolstad with 37 articles on fast sex, sex talk, and dance floor game
- And my (Chase Amante’s) 52 essays on pickup tech and relationship strategy
... plus four from George Russell, three from Jeff Stanton, a pair each from Francesco Toggianini and John Turner, and one each from Ben Harrison and Jerome Wu.
(the author links above link to each writer’s catalog of articles)
I’ll also discuss plans for the business in 2016, what you can expect, and a little bit about my upcoming course.
Comments
Happy new year
To all guys (and girls) who read this website.............
Wish you a happy new year and especially health and success for you and your families....
T
Happy new Year
The same applies for the guys who write this site :-)
Thank's a lot for your efforts.........
T
On the edge of bitterness
Happy New Year, Chase!
Sorry for the morbid title, but I'm truly happy to be part of the family in welcoming the year end 2015 article review!
It's celebrating a milestone and I'm glad to witness the very moment of it!
May better has yet to come for the newcoming year for GirlsChase's team and all your students!
Chase, I know I've asked a couple social related questions here and there, usually case specific.
But I realize I never talked about the general situation I'm facing and hope to get a light from you in this smokey tunnel.
Throughout middle school, I didn't social much, was much of a loner and didn't hangout with any groups because I don't like the urge of "You must follow what we do or we will isolate you" and hated to be defined as part of a cliques. I'm me and that's all!
As middle school past and I went to college, I was forced to start from 0.
No one knew about me. I was plunged into depression which took me painstaking efforts to get out of by "looking at the whole picture" and seeing how "no friends, but I'm still alive! Big deal!"
Doesn't mean I won't work on it though and change!
Despite of that, it was always a thorn in my side. And, I constantly blame that lack of social development period during my middle school and elementary school years as the reason why I lacked an ability to create/join social circles and be well accepted immediately.
Thankfully, I found your site mid 2015, and one of your most motivating articles was "Take action".
So I did exactly that. Halfway done my college, I threw away the bitterness; I worked on walk, worked on talking with others and relating, worked hard to be involved.
I joined as many clubs as possible and juggled attending their events as much as possible while maintaining school work. I also would strike conversations with classmates and grab their contacts.
I realize 2 years ago early in college, that asking people to invite to parties just doesn't work.
So I avoided that, just hung with people in class, at clubs, and really hope to be more social and popular. I'm not briming with energy either, but would follow your "Being energy of the party" by suggesting ideas of what to do with people and enthusiasm + witty comments every now and then to brighten the mood.
In clubs, I would try all sorts. Despite of having no prior experience, I would put myself and just do whatever the group does, whether that's watching movies, or comics, or talking about celebrities. I couldn't contribute much to the topic but I remained enthusiastic to listen more and ask questions about whatever topic-specific-to-the-club so I can relate later.
Despite of my efforts, I wasn't near where I want to be (quickly form connection, grab contact, and become good friends after a lunch or coffee as you shared in your "Time efficiency article").
But it didn't hit me hard until I saw how my only social circle (friends who grew up together with me) hangout this week (holiday week!), how one of my friends there kept getting texts from others, and invites to their parties. They would share how many parties and how they were invited to sleepovers. I took a moment, stared at my phone, nothing...not a text to party, or sleepover, or happy new year text (friends would reply back if I sent them one of these though).
This reminded me how I was calling a girl the other day to set up a date.
She's only been to college 1 year, and as we were sorting out the time, she said her friends invited her to party... 3 parties in a week...I'm almost done my college years, and I failed to form the social life I so wanted.
Here you have people in first year, freshmen, integrating into New social circles, and parties.
For a moment, I was on the verge of tears. I felt is there something wrong with me?
Then I snapped out of it, no...I can't let myself be bitter again.
I spent 15 years fighting depression; I won't let myself plunge into it again.
Must change the present for better future because if I let myself bitter, I'm accepting how it is.
And I can't allow myself be trapped, no way.
I'm trying my best, but it feels I'm missing a piece of puzzle.
I figured it might be value problem from your mastering friendship article.
I don't have much to offer apart from conversation value.
I don't happen to know what's the new events in town or fun stuff to do.
So I worked hard on my conversation skill. Approaching more, and just being social in general with people, being the energy (I'm still pretty quiet in comparison, some witty comments but nothing explosive or pep I notice some talkative friends pull off and say the random crazy shit ever! It just don't come for me. Dunno how they come up with those things ever) yet
How are these people able to do what I cannot?
And most importantly, how are first years girls making such quick progress that I didn't manage to do yet? One of my peeves is wasting time and it really feels like I'm not getting anywhere in comparison.
I put heaploads of time in juggling all the clubs, adhering to advice my friends would give me "Get involved", and yet, no invite, no parties, no "hey, let's hangout at my place this weekend"
Sorry for that long comment already on the first day of the year, Chase.
Any thoughts or personal experiences would help as banes of light for my adventure in this dark tunnel. Thank you, bro. I sincerely appreciate it.
Best regards,
Lawliet
Fundamentals?
I know I'm not the one who you asked for help, but I think i may be able to help.
Now, there can be a lot of reasons for things to not be working out for you, but I'm a big believer that fundamentals are what's causing troubles for most guys in most situations.
I recommend that you take a look at the fundamentals category pages, you can find the categories page in the bottom of the site's homepage.
Your current problem could be basic stuff like neediness or simply bringing the energy down.
You mentioned that you lack forms of social value, it turns out that value isn't so hard to get once you know what to look for. I recommend checking social value articles on the fundamentals category.
One example of value is sexiness, for that type of value check out how to be a sexy man article.
Wish you good luck,
AlluringSpy
Social Aptitude
Lawliet-
Sure, I went through that as well. Same deal – oh man, everybody else has all these people blowing up their phones, and mine can go a month without making a sound. There were times in college I considered just cancelling my cell phone plan and saving myself the extra 40 bucks a month or whatever it was it cost. But then it felt like that’d be admitting defeat.
You’ve got to realize, when you’re starting from zero trying to play catch up with folks who’ve been socializing for years, it’s not something you’re going to step outside and it’ll just click.
You’re going to need to spend a while learning some really basic social rules that other folks know before other people enjoy your company enough they start extending you invites all that often. That means lots of time watching other people, especially people who are doing whatever you’d like to be doing socially, and doing your best to mimic them until you get their processes down.
Anyway, I’ll note this one down for a post, probably one I’ll do soon, because we get a fair few guys stumbling by here who are coming from socially isolated backgrounds and figuring out how to get caught up is hard.
Meantime – get reference points. Talk to people as much as possible. Learn about them. Try to be cool. Don’t worry about what’s happening now, just focus on learning. Learn now; results later. When you’re the guy in karate class who’s only been training 3 months and everyone else has been training 6 years, don’t get angry you aren’t beating those other guys up yet. Worry about that later. For now, learn from them, and train harder.
Chase
Video program - Can I help?
Bonjour Chase and the community! Happy NEW YEAR :D
Firstly, I am sorry to hear that You might not be a consistent writer anymore because I really love Your articles and I believe others do too.. + There is something more to it when You see CHASE AMANTE as the author ;) but I understand You probably have other areas and fields in life You want to devote time into.
Secondly, I am VERY excited about the new video program You are announcing and would love to be able to help. So if You are going to have a beta phase (like there was for the forum in 2012), I would be happy to be a part of it so as to give the team a feedback and help it be as best as possible. :)
I am really a hardcore fan of Yours, the site's mentality and content and have been a follower since the time of You and Ricardus back in 2010 and have probably read 98% of all the Insights on here (even those very first, sporadic ones from 2008) ;).
Having implemented this things has changed my life for the better in amazing, unexpected ways so I believe asking if I can help back is the least I can do.
And lastly, THANK YOU AND ALL THE WRITERS but especially YOU for making this happen and allowing us to grow by writing and making this beautiful material available! I am grateful for this to have been part of my life.
I am 007 on the forums, so PM me shall You decide to offer me some sort of part in the process. :)
Thanks again and have a lovely 2016,
007
Upcoming Course
007-
2010 eh, that’s a long time! I think we were still getting about as much traffic per month then as we get in a day now. Long time ago…
Yes, I am (tentatively) planning to do a semi-public beta, probably for about 150 to 200 people, in which we’d make the course available, likely at a discounted rate, then close it off for a while so we can take feedback and make adjustments. I have you on our buyers list (looks like you own Colt’s Tinder course), and we’ll email buyers/subscribers and let them have first pick. (we have a fairly substantial buyer/subscriber list at this point, actually, so good chance we do not even offer the beta publicly – but you’re on our buyer’s list so you’ll definitely hear about it)
So, I will be in touch!
And, books for the first four modules complete, seven more books to go…
Chase
My Two Cents...
Chase,
I'm sure you have done plenty of your own research and analyzing, but from a readers point of view the reason that your articles are the most popular is your ethos.
When you hire a writer you already trust them and their pick up skills, or else you would not be paying them. Readers, however, do not yet have that trust with other authors.
If you look at your most popular articles of all time, most contain some kind of anecdote. Hearing about both the times you failed and succeeded helped encourage me, as an awkward high school freshman, to start talking to girls. I felt that, even though we had never met, we had a bond.
When you started having new writers on board, although they each had somewhat of an introduction, I didn't feel like I knew them. How was I to know that their advice was any different from any other bad dating/romance website?
The exception to this rule is when a writer is writing about something that you are perhaps not a pro in. I shouldn't be asking myself "why didn't Chase write this?" For example fashion articles by career stylists make sense (and the writer has an ethos boost due to his career). Colt's Tinder series was also a personal favorite because it was something that Colt had credibility in. Tinder wasn't something you had put the effort into mastering so it made sense that Colt was writing it. Note that he did have an anecdote about his initial failures using Tinder, however.
If I'm reading an article about how to meet girls at a bookstore or in China, I want to know that whoever wrote the article has not only been successful in those regions, but understands how to turn an unsuccessful reader into a master of pick up at such a location.
The reason many high school kids come to me for advice is that they've seen my success. The nerdy kid who has never kissed a girl could say the exact same thing, but due to his lack of credibility, his advice would not be heeded.
Overall, I think your readers trust you, but trust is earned and new authors have to earn that trust, which I think can be done by telling personal stories out of their lives. Obviously this is not needed in every article, but it would help warm readers up to new authors, especially if they were introduced one at a time.
Upwards and Onwards,
-BBJW
Backstory, Proof, Trust
BBJW-
Great points, yeah. That might be something to have new authors focus on, actually – across the first 5 or 10 or however many articles, gradually fill in backstory and help the reader relate.
You’re right, that’s a big part of what makes readers want to hear from a guy… their ability to feel like they know this guy’s story and want to know what he’s saying because he’s someone they trust.
Anyway, that’s definitely not been nearly stressed enough. I’ve just updated our writers’ operation manual to include this – thanks, BBJW!
Chase
On Writing
Everything plummeted because of the terrible writing skills of the people you brought on. Not to say that the information wasn't good because it was still great but the presentation made reading some articles a task.
I would suggest you have everyone (You and Alek seem to be the best writers) read William Zinsser's On Writing Well.
Since you've come back I've noticed a tremendous leap forward in quality that frankly was missing - which was also the reason I stopped checking this website for new content every week.
Cheers everyone!
Zinsser
Jolly Jim-
Thanks for the blunt assessment!
I’ve not read William Zinsser, but have heard the title and name before. Looks like a guide to writing nonfiction? I’ll make it part of our new authors’ welcome package in that case.
Much appreciated!
Chase
Dealing With Serious Aggression?
Hi Chase, I've read a few things here and there on your site about handling agression from other men, tried it and it hasn't been working for me. I curently live in Ukraine (used to live in Canada), and the guys here are very physicaly aggressive. When I ask their name or ask them to repeat themselves after they have issued their threat (most of the time it's some drunk guy looking for a fight to impress "Masha" or "Irina"), they usually respond with more aggression (they'll get in a fighting stance, start pushing, talking shit). I'm a fighter (kickboxing, sambo) and have decent results in competition, so I manage to end the fights pretty quickly. But each time a fight happens I run out of the club like a road runner before "Andrei" and his friends figure out who just put "Kostya's" lights out. Any tips on how to handle really aggressive competition?
Not the one asked, but maybe
Not the one asked, but maybe the angle helps.
Maybe slightly reduce your "Outsider" image. Being polarizing as in peakocking etc is a turn on for girls because they know you expose yourself to social pressure and agression this way. Its like walking through a Ghetto with a golden Necklace. You will impress girls, but you may get shot.
First step may be to have high value lokal friends with you, when you go out. When that doesnt help, try to blend in more with your style and ultimately your behaviour.
You might also reconsider the venues you go to. The richer the people, the less they want to risk their health in a fight. On the other hand the less they have to lose, the more they will go "all in".
Thanks
I'll try blending in some, but that can be hard with my accent. I'll try some higher end venues. Thanks for the advice Fun.
Defusing Fights
John-
I’d second Fun’s comment. If you’re going to the more rough and tumble venues, you’ll generally want to go with local friends, and generally want to try to blend in more.
Something I’ve noticed in my travels is I’m most likely to have men try to fight me when I’m new in town and I’m dressed a little too extravagantly for the place. Once I’ve gotten a dress style going that’s still cool but not too crazy for the place this seems to die down.
Also that fights are much more likely on/around the dance floor, probably because that’s where guys are the most sexually frustrated – that girl was grinding her hips right up into his junk, and suddenly she disappeared. Now he wants to pummel someone before his blue balls set completely in. Or you look like the guy who took her from him so he’s going to fight you, thinking you’re the bad guy. I don’t like spending time on the dance floor anyway usually, so just keep it moving here and pull girls away from there quickly if I meet them near that part of the venue.
Another one you can try if you want to defuse – smile real friendly and tell the guy, “Come on, this is silly, let’s get a drink, I’ll buy you a beer,” and motion for him to join you at the bar. Just order a couple of cheap beers and pay for them, and try to get into a conversation with the guy. You can very quickly have this angry would-be belligerent now your new best friend, and if anyone else tries to pick a fight that night, he and his boys will be there to back you up, all for the price of a cheap bottle of beer.
Chase
Sales / Article for Darius
Hey Chase,
Happy New Year. You mentioned that people subscribe to the site as long as you're involved in writing articles. I honestly do read your articles almost exclusively, except for the occasional article written by another writer if it's about a topic I'm very interested in. I really think it's because your perspective, great explanations, and understanding of the game as a whole sets you apart. The other writers are advanced in pickup, but many times their articles are just lacking in depth. Their prose are fine, but it's clear their articles don't have the insight your articles do. Maybe you can have them write so their articles read more like yours, not just in prose but in content.
By the way, I haven't seen any articles on decorating an apartment/bachelor pad. I'd be interested in this and I think Darius Belejevas might be able to cover this. He has a very good eye and has the aesthetics down. How about it, Darius? ;) Perhaps an article about different ways to decorate your apartment based on your game (sophisticated/minimalism vs pop art vs traditional, etc)?
Anyway, glad to see you're actively doing what needs to get done to make this site as great as it can be. I think you'll have another excellent year, because you're a great problem solver and one of the very few people in life who I would actually would want as a mentor. Keep up the great work, Chase.
Cheers,
Evan
Writing, Bachelor Pad
Evan-
Cheers, yeah. I think that “depth” may be a mixture of what some of the above commenters remarked on… backstory, proof, plus possibly also simply getting more variation of tone and writing style so that different pieces have different feels to them, which keeps the writing fresher and more enjoyable. I’ll try having our newer writers (or any of our older ones who are down to do it) check out the resources and recommendations we have here.
On bachelor pad, Peter Fontes had one a while back, in fact:
Turn Your Bachelor Pad into a Seduction Spot
Or did you have more of a complete top-to-bottom decoration guide in mind?
Anyway, in case that’s it, I’ll note it down in the queue!
Chase
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