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7 Ways to Make Sure She Shows Up for Her Date with You

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raising girls' show-up rates on datesGirls don’t show up to dates they don’t feel motivated enough to show up for. Use these 7 ways to raise women’s desire to show up for their dates with you.

You meet a girl, have a nice conversation, and ask her out.

She says “yes!” Fantastic!

But just because you’ve got her contact and an appointment to meet doesn’t mean she’ll show up. What can you do to make sure she shows up for her date with you?

In this guide, I’ll lay out five (5) recommended steps for ensuring girls show up to their dates with you – plus two more optional steps you can take.

Follow the guide, and your “date show-up rate” will go higher than that of anyone else you know.

Tactics Tuesdays: Calibrating the Opener to Your State

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calibrating opener to stateDifferent openers get (very) different receptions from girls depending on YOUR internal state. Calibrate the opener you choose to your state & open better.

There’s an important factor in the way that you open conversations with new women that few men seem to consider:

Namely, the way your state affects the delivery – and thus reception – of your opener.

Imagine two otherwise identical men:

MAN A: approaches a beautiful girl in a red dress, and somewhat timidly tells her, “Hi… I just have to say you look really beautiful.” It’s clear from his behavior that he is waiting and hoping for a good reception from her. She is going to feel like he is kissing up to her, paying her a compliment in the hopes of her throwing a bone to him.

MAN B: approaches a beautiful girl in a yellow dress, and confidently/authoritatively tells her, “Hey. That dress looks amazing on you. Good choice.” It’s clear from his vibe that he is simply commenting on something he likes, and doesn’t really care how she will react. She is going to feel like he is passing manly judgment on her, and is going to feel a need to reciprocate or find another way to gracefully share power with him because he just positioned himself as the approver over her.

While these two men might look the same, and the women they approach look similar, and their openers have very similar words, the change in the delivery of the opener creates a completely different frame at the open.

It is very hard to consciously switch from a timid, approach anxious state (like Man A’s) to a confident, authoritative state (like Man B’s). Few men are capable of doing it on command. I can do it; but I’ve also spent years meditating and consciously state changing, and have enough reference points dealing with women authoritatively that I know exactly what it feels like and how to make myself switch to that from a different state.

For practical purposes, I am going to assume that (like most guys) this is not something you can simply do.

So what CAN you do?

Simple: rather than try to force openers that are not going to work in your current state, you are going to choose openers based upon the state you’re in right now.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Emotionally Expressive Approaches

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emotionally expressive approachesApproach girls flat or polite, and you’ll get flat, polite receptions. Want girls who are excited and eager to meet you? Then BE that way when you approach!

I was responding to a thread on the forum where forum member Arnav asked about how to keep cold approach conversations going beyond the first 30 seconds. He brought up difficulty dealing with girls he approached who only seemed neutral or polite.

Here’s a description of a similar phenomenon written by another forum member, RDRChaseMember:

So from my usual experiences with cold approach, they're usually I pay a compliment to her and try to open, and they walk away or don't stop to talk to me, fine. The other experience I get from it (though pretty rare) is that they do engage in a conversation with me enthusiastically, we're making long conversation, and I go for a number. Yet, when I follow up with them, I don't hear anything back from them.

It's almost as if I should expect general disinterest most of the time.

In one of my responses to Arnav (who wants to know how to keep cold approach conversation going beyond 30 seconds), I shared a secret to getting girls that veteran seducers all sooner or later figure out: that women reflect your mood right back at you, thanks to the power of emotional contagion. In other words, if you want a girl to respond a certain way to your approach, be that way on the approach.

Here’s what I told Arnav:

This is one of the magic tricks a good seducer has that regular guys don't: he can approach a girl and using nothing but his own expressiveness and her mirror neurons he can elicit what appears to be a high degree of interest from her right away. When I used to take guys out in-field and do demonstration approaches the guys would always comment after, "Wow, that girl was REALLY into you!" Sometimes she is, but sometimes she is just mirroring my approach, because that is what women do if you seem like a reasonably cool guy and you are being EXPRESSIVE. But get her to mirror you long enough and even the girls who weren't all that interested can start to wonder to themselves if maybe they are.

Today I’m going to let you in a little more on this secret of emotionally expressive approaches, that way you don’t have to wait until you’re 3 or 4 years deep in seduction before you puzzle this one out on your own (3-4 years in is right around when this one truly clicks for the average self-taught playboy).

Monkeybranching: Why Do Women Always Want Backup Options?

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why women monkeybranchWomen often won’t leave one man until they have another one to monkeybranch off to. Why’s it so important to women to have male backup options?

It’s more or less the ultimate ‘man role’ to be ready to walk away and leave it all behind: to wander off across the horizon, completely self-reliant, needing nothing at all besides your feet to carry you and your head and hands to do what’s needed wherever you end up.

We all intuitively respect a man far more who’s ever-ready to march off on his own, if the situation calls for it, than we do the man who begs, pleads, cries, and scrambles, trying to hang onto a crumbling situation. Men respect powerful, independent men; women are attracted to them. I don’t just tell men they must be ready to replace their women, not chase them for their own peace of mind; having this frame of mind makes you significantly more attractive to others, too.

But women are different from men.

Women don’t care about man-things like ‘respect’. Not for themselves.

Women don’t need to be seen as ‘self-reliant’; in fact, coming across too self-reliant harms women’s attractiveness to most men.

And if there’s one thing women do that a lot of men struggle to understand, it is this constant cultivation of male backup options – and their propensity to ‘monkeybranch’ – that is, to not let go of one branch (man) until the next branch (man) is already in-hand.

Often men will think they’re getting somewhere with a girl, or that she really likes them – only to realize at some point that they were in her friend zone, merely a ‘back pocket man’. A guy who’s there for her just in case of emergency.

Other times guys will be seeing a girl they like, only to realize she’s cultivating all these backup options on the side from them.

But why? Why can’t women just be happy with the guy they’ve got?

Is the grass really THAT green on the other side?

"Getting Girls Is Too Much Work!" That's 'Cause You're Getting Them Wrong

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'getting girls is way too much work!' -- that means you're doing it wrongWhen getting girls feels like a lot of work, you’re getting the ‘getting’ wrong. The secret is how much work you get HER to put in – not how much YOU do.

I keep hearing this same phrase and variations thereof chanted over and over by men across the Internet:

  • “Getting girls is too much work!”

  • “Women aren’t worth the effort!”

  • “No woman is worth doing this!”

I see guys miming it all over social media anytime anyone talks about getting girls.

I see it parroted randomly on forums and article comment sections online.

It’s repeated so freely and easily, and repeated so verbatim, that it’s clear it’s a gut-level response, bleached deep into men’s psyches, that they’ve absorbed from the red pill Internet and internalized.

But if getting girls is a lot of work, I just have this to say to you, amigo:

The way you’re using to get them is the WRONG way!

How to Act Around a Girl Who Rejected You

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how to act around rejecting girlsIt’s awkward running into girls who rejected you. Should you ignore them or try to be nice? And is it possible to re-attract them & ask them out again?

Getting rejected by a girl sucks.

It’s awkward and sometimes painful.

But do you know what’s about 10x more awkward than the rejection itself?

Running into the girl who rejected you and not knowing how to act.

What should you do when you see her again?

Should you…

  • Try to explain you didn’t actually mean to ask her out?

  • Apologize for something awkward you did the first time around?

  • Flirt with her as if nothing has changed?

  • Give her the cold shoulder and ignore her completely?

What’s the correct play?

I’m going to spell out for you the socially savviest play you can make when encountering a girl who rejected you – the play that most guarantees you come out on top, looking cool, suave, and in-control, and making her question whether ‘rejecting’ you was really the right call.

After that, we’ll talk about making moves on girls who rejected you again, too… if, that is, you want to.

10 Signs She's a Nymphomaniac Who Loves to F*ck

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signs she's a nymphomaniac6% of women are nymphomaniacs. But how can you tell if she is one? By looking for these 10 signs she’s a nympho who loves to get down with guy after guy.

Time for a fun guide.

If we define as “nymphomaniac” any girl who has (or will have in the future) 50 or more lifetime lovers, 6% of women qualify as nymphomaniacs. Heck, 2.5% of women will experience 100+ lovers over the course of their lifetimes – ultra-nymphos!

These women are out there – and some of the women you’ll encounter, some of the time, will be them. The question we’ll answer today is, “How do you know who’s who?”

“Wait, Chase,” I hear you ask, “why would I want to know if a girl’s a nymphomaniac?”

Two reasons:

  1. To spot girls who are going to be a totally great time in bed

  2. To avoid girls who are highly likely to cheat on you if you attempt monogamy with them

If either of those reasons (or both of them) has any appeal to you, then read on.

(if not, then I guess skip this article, and let it stay a mystery for you!)

As you read, keep in mind: just one or two of these signs, and she may or may not be a nympho. But the more of these signs you see, the more your brain should start blaring “nympho alert!”

Tactics Tuesdays: LMR Objection Probes

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sniffing out LMR in advanceIs it possible to forecast what last minute resistance girls will give you BEFORE you pull them? It is… and once you know, you can bust that LMR before even reaching the bedroom.

Over on X, Girls Chase reader and X follower Silvius Panther asks the following:

I responded to him that

You should be testing/probing for everything you want to do, usually indirectly, during the conversation with her.

She’ll show resistance around areas she’s not comfortable with. Your job is to figure out why and attempt to address that before it’s late in the game and you get hit with all the unaddressed objections at once.

In keeping with this theme, today I’d like to give you tools for how you can easily probe for each of the five (5) most common objections you’ll encounter as last minute resistance from women in the bedroom.

That way, you’ll know what you’re up against before the pivotal moment – and can even defuse this resistance before it occurs.

What Makes a Man 'Strong' to a Woman?

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what makes a man strong to womenWhat makes a man strong in a woman’s eyes? Is it him going above and beyond for her – or is it something more primal and elemental than that?

Strength is one of the most pivotal qualities of a man.

A man’s strength makes him attractive to women. A lack of it repels them.

A man’s strength reassures women. A lack of strength alarms them.

A man’s strength causes women to follow him. A lack of it makes them abandon him.

Clearly, it’s vital as men that we maintain strength if we want things to go well for us with women (instead of the opposite). But what IS strength and how do women measure a man’s?

Tactics Tuesdays: Breaking Women's Tests with "Only"

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busting her tests with onlyWhen women test you about “other girls”, there’s one simple but powerful teasing response you can use: “only the girls who… [FILL IN THE BLANK]!”

Wouldn’t it be great to have a super SIMPLE one-size-fits-all teasing formula you could use to defuse a large number of the most common tests women toss your way?

  • “You must say/do this with every girl.”

  • “Does that line actually work for you?”

  • “Do you always go this fast?”

  • “I’ll bet you buy drinks for other girls.”

  • “Do girls actually go for that?”

In today’s Tactics Tuesdays, I will give you just such a formula.

We’re coming up on the rerelease of my one-of-a-kind “tease girls” course, the Lush Teases Method™. Last time I released it during the US presidential election (bad timing on my part), so while a bunch of guys picked it up my guess is many also missed it. So this will be your chance to grab Lush Teases™ if you didn’t grab it before.

As we build up to the rerelease, I want to try to get a little more content up on teasing girls.

So, here we are – a simple but powerful little tease-based tactic you can use to instantly defuse a certain class of questioning/tests from girls.

It’s teasing answers that begin with the word “Only.”