Have you ever wanted to see what it looks like for a student to get coached live, in-field, to do better with girls he approaches on the street?
Well believe it or not I had a super gracious student of mine who allowed me to record and share one of our coaching sessions where he went live into the field to make approaches and take me with him.
Have you gotten stuck in the rut of treating dating like a roll of the dice? 🎲
Are you relying too much on “shooting your shot” with girls 🎯, hoping it will just work out… only to find yourself frustrated when once again the chips don’t fall your way?
Do you find yourself retreating onto dating apps, swiping over and over on girls’ profiles 📱, being disappointed with the number and quality of the matches you get?
Then it might be time to get serious about dating – and treat it not like a gamble, but like a skill.
Online dating: it feels super easy, doesn't it?
I mean, you just hop on that app and start swiping.
Beautiful women come flooding into view!
And yet, no matter how much swiping you do, you don't get anywhere NEAR the results you know you ought to.
I mean, with as good your pics look... and as clever as your messages are... shouldn't you be getting something BETTER than this?
Even once you figure it out and do start lining up matches, you run into some other issues.
If you know me, you know I've been known as the 'King of College'.
In fact, I've even got a book with that title!
And after blazing my way through the beds of many dozens of sexy co-eds... plus doing all kinds of social circle seducin' in the years since...
Well, let's just say I've arrived at a clear perspective on both the good and the not so hot about getting with women from your social circle.
There are some positives to it, for sure.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it's bad or it doesn't work.
Just that it's overrated.
A lot of guys make out nightlife to be this mystical pinnacle of seduction.
It's been sort of built up in movies and it has this whole dreamy, seductive mood about it.
But take it from a guy who's picked up plenty in nightlife and worked in the nightlife industry for years... it's not the best.
The FINAL "Meet Girls Everywhere" trailer is out now.
Give it a watch right here...
Next week, we kick things up a notch with the release of a series of videos I've put together in advance of the release. Sign up below -- you won't want to miss these...
Hey guys, Hector Castillo here.
Got something special for you coming up, just in time for summer.
Give the teaser trailer a watch, and get yourself ready to start meeting girls... everywhere...
If you push beyond the temptations of hate toward women, you will find a new land of beauty before you. You will see the beauty in all women, even the evil ones.
Contents
I. The Eye Looks Back onto Itself
II. Evil Born of Universal Reactions
III. Evil Born of Reactions to Men
Long ago, I wrote two articles. One was about how women will cuckold and dominate you if you let them. Another was about how women are, by nature, amoral.
They were darker-side articles that inspired some controversy. I had been roaming the abyss of human behavior to search for truths that, while hard to swallow, were true.
Long I struggled with these moral questions of whether or not the evils perpetrated by others are always malicious. It’s easy to simply say “I don’t care” when faced with the dark side of women. This is the motto of most tough guys, and there are many tough guys on the internet.
I thought this to be my perspective as well, for a long time. Then, reflecting on my emotions, I realized that I’d lied to myself for a long time.
Have you considered dating a woman with kids? As the child of a single mother, my advice is to find someone else and avoid the many pitfalls intrinsic to stepfatherhood.
Contents
I. Why People Celebrate Stepfatherhood
II. Why Date a Woman Who Has Kids?
In my opinion, you should not date a woman with kids.
You can shag her, sure. Beyond that, I would not continue to date her.
The only exception is that you also have a kid you’re bringing into the new union, and you're both down to help raise children who aren't yours. In that way, the power imbalance is addressed, and you’re both helping the offspring of other parents.
If that recommendation upsets you, I’m guessing one of two things:
You’ve been programmed to think stepfatherhood virtuous.
Or, you lust for a woman who has a kid. Maybe you’re already dating her.
The only people who will say you should be a stepdad are those with an agenda. And I say this as a guy who was raised by many different surrogate fathers during his childhood.
My birth father was mostly nonexistent from the age of 2 to 12. I only would see him during summers after that. We have a good relationship now, but it’s taken nearly 15 years to get to that point, with drama in between that I would wish on no one.
I say this because it makes me immune to the most hateful responses someone might have about my stance on this topic, which I happen to know better than almost anyone. The only criticism that might strike me as genuine is, “You’re ungrateful for the love those men had for you!”
The answer to that is: no, I’m not.
I’m very grateful for the parenting attempts made by my many quasi-stepfathers (none ended up marrying my mother, except one briefly for a few months). They all had different influences on me. Some good, some bad, some mediocre, but I appreciate the effort they made if they did make one.
There are a few who had a significant impact on me, and I will thank them until the day I die.
One of them was an Italian chef. He was the first person my mother dated who truly acted like a father. My mother told me he is the one responsible for teaching her how to let my cry as a baby and not rush to soothe me. “Let him cry, and he will stop,” he told her. He even sat on her to keep her from rushing to me. He is still my mother’s close friend even to this day.
Another important man was a boyfriend who would later come out as gay. He had some degree of heterosexuality given he had a relationship with my mother, so it would be accurate to classify him as bisexual. My mother had suspected he was more gay than not, though, and after they broke up, he decided to follow that life. He was very, very good to her and me, and he loved us both very much. Even now, he is still a close friend of my mother and visited me on my birthday in Europe a few years back.
The most beautiful follow up to this story is that, after all these years, he still has a picture of my mother and me on his desk. When he’s asked about this picture, he says that if he had desired the life of a straight man more than his current life, then we would have been his life. My mother would have been his wife, and I would be his son. I think this is extraordinarily beautiful.
The third important surrogate father was as close to a stable father figure as I would ever have. Although he had a son and daughter of his own, we were more closely linked in personality than his own kids. You might say I was the son he always wanted. Karma brought us together for a reason because our similarity was insanely strong. However, he had serious personal faults that prevented him from truly being a man worthy of my mother’s respect. He lacked the skills to allow the relationship to flourish. I will say without regret that he was an amazing influence in my life and taught me much about what it means to be good, to care, to love, and to be a man. I love him deeply and wish him all the best in this life and the next. He is a good man with a good heart.
However, I will say this unequivocally: I would never recommend any of them to take on the role they did and attempt to become a stepfather. Even more so, I say this about the rest of the men my mother dated. Of them, none of any importance come to mind.
All those men, no matter how good their intentions, were going after pussy (except the gay one, of course; he might be an exception and probably loved me the most, as his heart wasn’t tainted by lust). For the rest of those men, I was a secondary concern. Even if they grew to love me later, I was not a priority.
Don’t get me wrong.
I don’t doubt some genuinely cared about me or loved me or wanted the best for me. Some clearly did, as I pointed out. It doesn’t change the fact that they still wanted to screw my mom. I know this because I know men. I teach them for a living, and I know their hearts and minds better than they do.
But I get ahead of myself.
Let’s look at why society lauds the stepfather and deconstruct its motivations so you can discover if you want to be praised for this act (and how this praise subtly motivates you to be a stepfather, even if you’re not aware of it).
If you want a loyal, passionate girlfriend, find yourself an alpha female. Or if you want to snag a hottie from a group, you best know how to appease her alpha friend.
An alpha female is a woman in charge of her female group or a group of men AND women. She doesn’t need to be a socialite who is always playing mother hen. Alpha females are not necessarily bitches or mean, controlling women.
You can be in control of yourself and those around you without being "controlling."
We know this about alpha males. They aren’t always the caricature meathead or tyrannical character we imagine when you hear “alpha male.” The best alpha male is very kind, loving, and compassionate. However, alpha males will step up and take charge when they need or want to. In relationships, they are leaders; and in their social circles, they are often leaders as well.
Contents
I. Alpha Females: Personality Signs
Alpha females are also leaders, usually of their female groups. Some alpha females can also lead men in their social circles, even if it’s from the back. This happens because most women are more refined than most men with their social skills, charisma, and sexuality. Most men are guys, not men. They have penises and play the part of a man, but when it matters, they are eunuchs. They will go full simp and submit to her rule.
Like an alpha male, an alpha female can be the alpha in one scenario and not the alpha in another (e.g., with a different group), as you would need to be an omnipotent god to be the alpha in all scenarios.
If women are alphas, they have certain characteristics. You can tell in which contexts and groups they are considered alphas. There are alpha characteristics and alpha signals to look for in groups. I will cover both.
Why should you care if she is an alpha female? Don’t we want women who will submit to us?
Yes, we want women to submit, but we may not always want submissive women. There is a distinction.
As long as they are absent of toxic traits and aren’t so aggressive or ambitious that they are essentially men, alpha females make the best girlfriends. And they are usually the most interesting women out there.
