Gentlemen, welcome back.
Today in Part 4 we are going to take a look at:
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What can happen when marriage doesn’t meet your expectations,
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What (if anything) you can and should do about it when this
happens, and,
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A couple of things you should never do.
Because, as we found out in Part 2, let’s face it: no marriages
meet all of the expectations that are set for them.
The percentage of Americans who divorce has been above 40 percent
even since 1970s. There are a lot of reasons that that number is what
it is. Unarguably though, is the notion that the inability to reconcile
differences is what eventually makes things come to a head and is
why we divorce.
Is infidelity the reason you got
divorced? Roundabout, perhaps, yes.
But it was really more because a reconciliation couldn’t be reached.
How about a financial crisis? Can two people just become so poor
that some crazy law says they have to get a divorce? No, it’s because
they can’t agree on how to repair the problem (or they just don’t).
Your marriage is never going to be as fruitful and perfect as you
think it will be, and you’re going to deal with a whole slew of life
problems that affect one or the both of you. It’s not the problems
themselves that cause divorce to happen, it’s the people not being able
to deal with them that is the biggest issue.
So what exactly happens when you end up in an unfulfilling,
dead-as-nails marriage that suffers from one (or a multitude!) of the
more serious relationship-downers that we discovered in Part 3?
I found that when my marriage was getting to the point where it had
seen better days that the toughest thing I had to deal with by far
was the shift in the balance of power
that occurred when I actually
started to sense things beginning to go haywire in the first
place, and started scrambling to make things “right” again.