Pickup Tech

Direct openers are great for some guys, but they can get old. Once that happens, or if you’re just not into them, go indirect. It can really pay off with practice.

When I first started learning pickup, almost nobody was doing direct day game. Not as we know it, anyway.

Now it’s all the rage, with day game videos amassing hundreds of thousands of views on YouTube and new day game coaches breeding like rabbits.

I think it’s great. The more men who learn how to find their balls, the better. I just want to point out that you’re stunting your growth if you limit yourself to this one style.

Want to have sex with college girls? A good place to start is by getting into a conversation with one. This method works even if you’re older or don’t attend her school.

On college campuses around the world, young and hot women abound.

Because of this concentration of sexual opportunity, many young guys see going to college or picking a university for their studies as a great chance to improve their sex lives. For older men interested in dating younger women, visiting the nearest campus also seems like a natural option.

But the question of how to cold approach girls on campus is critical.

If you are a student on campus, then approaching hot coeds with direct openers can help you find interested girls quickly. But these types of openers can lead to a "player" reputation, and this polarizing style of approach on campus is high risk for day gamers who aren’t students.

Situational openers are usually safer on campus. If you have not learned how to size up new environments quickly, it can be difficult to start engaging conversations with this kind of approach because we need to open with something relevant and witty while oozing charisma.

But what if there was another way to approach? What if there was another type of opener that will enable you to connect with women smoothly while making them curious about you at the same time?

It would make for a solid campus day game method, wouldn’t it?

You can guilt trip women in fun, light ways (without putting a lot of pressure on them or being manipulative) to keep your courtships moving forward. The secret is the 'fun' part…

Don't worry, we're not going to talk about the Scumbag Steve, Dark Side version of this.

This article's about something Light. It's the playful version of guilt tripping.

Guilt trips are a persuasion tool you can use to get a woman out of her head and thinking about things from your perspective. They add another piece of the puzzle to an equation where a woman may only have been thinking about her own immediate wants.

You can use this kind of fun 'guilt trip' to accomplish various useful items:

• Get a woman to stick around longer with you in-person
• Get her to rethink her decision to cancel plans / flake
• Get her to comply with a request or agree to a venue change

And more. We'll talk about how below.

Do it in a playful way, and you have a nice little pattern interrupt that shakes a woman out of the pattern she was in, and often loosens up the vibe a good bit to boot.

A great way to initiate touch in a club is to make her anticipate and desire it before it happens. You can do this with your vibe, eye contact, body language, and more.

In my previous two articles, I discussed the right kind of touch and awareness you need when in a club. Today I’ll tell you how to combine these two ideas into moves so you can get physical with ease.

Here are those articles:

• How to Transition to Touch in the Middle of a Seduction
• Club Game: Get Noticed and Make the Right Impression with Girls

I’ve explained that women have an awareness radius of five meters or so and line of sight to areas like other sections of the club, walkways, bars, and entrances. Their awareness radius lets them track you (if they feel their tracking you will be interpreted positively by you and others). If you want to convey intent via subcommunication and body language cues, you need to give to her the impression that you favor the idea of her tracking you.

Combining this with the goal of touch becomes “creating an experience by evoking the sensation of touch through anticipation rather than contact.”

Interesting idea. But how is it accomplished?

When she's just about to reject you… or she isn't, but the conversation's grown stale… or you just need a boost… break out the 'interest bait', and suck her back in.

Wanna know something you're sure to find useful with girls?

By asking an intriguing question, or making an intriguing yet unfinished statement, you can draw someone in.

You can use this 'interest bait' to prop up slumping conversations. It's also great as a boost to otherwise okay interactions that could benefit from stronger energy.

Questions and statements like these serve as a powerful tactic for transitions from one conversation topic to another, too.

Such a tactic can even let you stop in her tracks a woman who's about to walk away (as I discussed in a few examples in my article last week on women who are closed off or impossible).

This is a simple tactic to use.

It also isn't anything new. I've used plenty of such questions and statements in my examples in articles throughout the years, as have the other authors here. Alek Rolstad makes good use of interest bait in his excellent 9-part series on hooking girls in, which any serious student of seduction owes a read.

Additionally, simply by using interest bait you set yourself up as a sort of authority (which is in itself attractive).

That's because, usually, the only people who talk this way are people in authority positions. So long as it comes across congruent, interest bait is powerful to use.

Yet few men use it. You ought to be among them.

Which pickup style should you specialize in, day game or night game? Or both? Each has its own skill set and takes considerable effort to learn. Here’s what to consider.

We all know cold approach is the best way to meet women.

But when you’re new to seduction, it can be difficult to decide. Day game or night game? Where should you focus your efforts? And where should you apply the advice you read here on Girls Chase?

While there are distinct strengths you will develop while making progress on each path, as well as specific weaknesses that students of each often struggle with, most seducers who get really good at socializing become adept at just half of the full cold approach experience.

So it’s quite natural even for experienced players to feel curious about the other side of seduction.

Now, just like the age-old debate on whether night game or day game is better, the answer to whether or not you should train yourself in the full cold approach experience will vary from person to person.

There are indisputable benefits to cross gaming, and if you’ve read my primer on this subject, you already have a clear picture of where I stand and why I arrived at this decision. It’s not required reading for today’s discussion, so if you haven’t read the primer, worry not.

Clubs are pits of sexual chaos, but nothing goes unnoticed. To position yourself as a guy who is destined to get laid, you’ve got to manage how you’re perceived.

So you are amid all the lights and the hammering bass, girls are in revealing outfits, and lots of alcohol is flowing. You want to get physical, but what do you do to make it happen?

In theory, everything is just right for mingling and getting things started, but in reality, most guys are hovering around the edges, and girls are self-isolating in their groups defending against the crass approaches that will inevitably be flung their way.

As a perceptive guy, you feel stuck in the middle, between the guys hovering around the edges and the girls who are assuming all incoming guys are missiles they ought to deflect.

You don’t want to be seen and rejected as one of “those guys,” but even worse, you don't want to just stand back and do nothing!

So how do you get physical in a club? By being observant and becoming skilled at reading and communicating body language.

Let's dive in.