Even Sweet Nice Conservative Girls Are Dirty Sexual Deviants

It couldn’t possibly be… nice girls are just nice, right? They couldn’t POSSIBLY be dirtier than men are!

We had a comment from a reader on my article about girls acting loose and slutty saying he thinks men are actually the dirtier, more sexual sex (after I stated the opposite).

There’s a big misconception here a lot of men have because they see “the male desire to have sex faster, with less information, with more partners, held to generally lower standards” and conflate that with ‘dirty sexual urges’.

But male sexuality is DIFFERENT from female sexuality, in some very KEY ways – and this is one of them.

When I say women are dirtier, naughtier, and more sexually deviant than men are, I am not talking about number of partners desired or lack of standards. Sure, if we talk about that, men in general are going to win out: dudes want to get it on with more partners on average than chicks do (though many exceptions abound for both sexes).

No, I am talking about something else.

 

Male Sexual Desires vs. Female Sexual Desires

In responding to the commenter who thought I had it all mixed up, I said this:

Well, let me ask you this… Do you get really turned on by the ideas of:

• Fucking a woman in public while other people watch you?
• Fucking a woman in the most degrading ways you can imagine?
• Slapping the shit out of a woman’s ass and tits as you fuck her?
• Pulling a woman’s hair back while you rail her from behind?
• Choking a woman while you’re fucking her?
• Telling a woman she’s a dirty, filthy slut while you’re fucking her?
• Telling a woman she’s your property and belongs to you as you fuck her?
• Telling a woman about other pussies you’ve fucked and how hers is even better as you fuck her?
• Fucking a woman while both of you are filthy from a day of messy outdoor activities?

Unless you’re a real freak there might be 2 or 3 of those max that really get you going.

EVERY.SINGLE.GIRL.YOU.WILL.EVER.MEET is turned on to high heaven by that ENTIRE list.

At least in the moment while fucking.

Also most likely while thinking about these masturbating, or while reading a romance novel about it, or fantasizing a man she’s attracted to doing it.

Yeah, guys will dip down in their standards more just to get a nut. But most guys just care about getting that nut.

This is the really big difference between male and female sexuality, in terms of the ‘experience desired’:

• Men want to GET THAT NUT. We want to eject our seed into the girl. Lots of girls. As many girls as possible for some of us! For the more monogamously-minded, it might just be one special girl. However, even with that girl, the monogamous man mostly just wants to get that nut. He wants to get his dick in her and nut inside her. After that he can roll off, satisfied. That’s why the average duration of penetrative sex is about six minutes. Guys get in, get their nut, and they’re done. Satisfaction achieved.

• Women want to HAVE AN EXPERIENCE. They want something new, exciting, stimulating, unexpected, dominating, degrading, surprising, fulfilling. They want to feel taken over by the man they lust for; to feel used and abused; filled and left wanting more and then totally and utterly consumed and sated. This desire for an experience leads them to want a veritable cornucopia of sexual encounters that for most men seem unnecessary, a lot of extra work, etc. – because after all, guys just want that nut.

This is very important to understand to ‘get’ the nature of female sexuality.

 

Yes, Girls Are Pickier; But that’s Unimportant!

Men are confused about the pickier nature of women and tend to conflate that with them being prudes. After all, if a guy is very picky about the WOMEN he sleeps with, we consider him rigid, anal-retentive, and so on. Picky men are in general prudish men.

Women are not picky about their men due to prudishness. Yes, there are extra slutty girls who will sleep with anyone – obviously these girls with their low standards are not prudes. But even girls who are prudish in their partner selection will get into very naughty, dirty, degrading sex, and will fantasize about it.

When girls are inexperienced, they may be uptight about sex and resist engaging in sex acts they consider ‘dirty’. I’ll never forget the conservative 23 y/o schoolteacher I slept with who’d only had one guy before me, and when we went to bed and I tried to put her on her hands and knees so I could take her from behind she cried out “Nooooo!” and firmly refused. The only thing she was willing to accept was missionary. Even the next morning, after we’d already gone several rounds, she would not let me take her from behind.

A sexually inexperienced man might look at a girl like that and say, “Well, she is just a really good girl who is just too conservative for a scoundrel like Chase.”

I can 100% guarantee you though that had I continued seeing that girl, she would’ve been doing all sorts of things within a few months, and she would have pushed for most of them herself.

That is because as women get comfortable sexually – as they come to TRUST that the man they are with is someone they can enjoy all sorts of sexual experiences with without being judged – they let go of the mental defenses they have in place, and the true sexuality of the woman comes out.

 

‘Prudish’ Inexperienced Girls

Among sex researchers, these mental blocks of sexually inexperienced women are known as ‘immature defenses’. They’re called ‘immature’ because as a woman becomes more sexually and emotionally mature, more psychologically integrated, and more self-aware, she progressively lets go of these defenses – she doesn’t need them anymore.

In other words: a woman, at the start, when inexperienced, has defenses in her head that get in the way of her enjoying sex. If she starts to enjoy sex too much, she becomes afraid of this sensation and begins to shut her enjoyment down. She does so by becoming logical, fearing that she is doing something wrong, distancing herself from her emotions, and so on. This blocks her from achieving vaginal and cervical orgasms, and really from getting anywhere close to the full enjoyment out of sex.

In particular, women who still have immature defenses have more:

• Somatization, where they turn their psychological distress into bodily distress.

• Dissociation, where they emotionally detach from their bodies/experiences.

• Displacement, where they feel their sexual excitement is getting ‘too dangerous’ so give themselves a different objective to strive for (rather than pleasure/arousal) instead.

• Autistic fantasy, where they indulge in excessive daydreaming as a way to deal with emotional conflict/stress.

• Devaluation, where they devalue something or someone that seems threatening to protect their self-esteem from it.

• Isolation of affect, where they emotionally separate a threatening feeling from the rest of their thoughts and feelings, to make it easier to forget / not think about.

As women learn to trust the man they are with and to trust themselves, they increasingly let go of these defenses and permit themselves to go fully into the sexual experience they are having. Sex becomes more and more thrilling and satisfying; they fear less and less that they will ‘lose themselves’ by allowing themselves to feel what they start to feel in good sex; and they become sexually awakened.

 

Men Want that Nut; Girls Want an Experience

A prudish man and a prudish woman both look pretty similar. Prudish members of both sexes:

• Think sex is icky… sort of a gross biological process one should really only do with someone one really trusts.

• Associate sex with love: it is this extremely intimate act that really only is worth doing if there are deep emotions there.

• View with moral disgust anyone who has sex too easily, indulges in lots of sex, or even gets a lot of enjoyment out of sex.

Prudish members of both sexes have a lot of immature defenses around sex. Prudish men may have trouble getting or maintaining erections, or they may cum too quick, becoming overstimulated by sex and unable to relax into it. Prudish women may have difficulty becoming aroused, their vaginas clench and make it difficult for the man to penetrate, they can experience vaginal pain during sex, and it’s hard or impossible for them orgasm any way other than clitorally.

However, as the sexes ease into their sexual awakenings, they diverge in some key ways:

• Both sexes become less picky about their sex partners. However, men become MUCH less picky. Women, while they will accept more partners, still retain a high degree of pickiness (usually. There are some girls who are exceptions).

• Both sexes long for and enjoy more diverse sexual experiences. However, women become MUCH more desirous of a much greater variety and depth of sexual experiences. Men might enjoy blow jobs or anal more, they might like slapping a girl’s butt a bit, but in the end they mostly still want to just have a girl they can ejaculate on or in. Women want an entire EXPERIENCE though – one that goes far beyond what men generally fantasize about.

Have you ever read a romance novel?

I have tried, multiple times. I just cannot make it all the way through. It is torture.

I tried reading Fifty Shades of Grey when that came out, for instance. The seduction part was fascinating! It was a really well-written seduction, and I suggest every guy read that portion of the book to get a sense for the elements of mystery, fate, etc., that weave into women’s seductive fantasies. There are discussions of how rich the guy is, how handsome, etc., but those aren’t the interesting parts (if you have those or don’t, that’s not something you can control for in the moment; either a girl will be attracted to you based on your present attributes or not; you still need to seduce her regardless!) – the interesting parts are the seduction.

Yet once the book finally gets to the sex, oh MAN does it bore.

They are having sex… then more sex… then more sex… THEN MORE SEX.

They are just doing all this stuff… the guy is teasing the girl so much, leading her around, crafting these teasing sexual experiences.

As a guy, I was just thinking the entire time, “All right, enough already. When is this guy gonna nut in this girl and get on with it? This book is giving me blue balls!”

I am a guy who has no problem doing marathon shag sessions with girls. I have even been known to use foreplay! But the thing with that is: most of the time when I am doing sexual stuff with girls, I am shagging them. My dick is in her 45 minutes or an hour or two hours. And then, at the end of it, after enjoying sex inside a woman, I nut.

This book, the guy is just doing all sorts of stuff to this girl other than stick his penis in her: he is tying her up, ‘torturing’ her, degrading her in various ways, etc. A little of that is fine but it’s so excessive I got very bored. I tried to struggle through it for a while but ultimately I had to close the book.

But women LOVE this stuff! They absolutely love it. That book and its sequels sold 150 million copies worldwide over the course of six years. At least as far as book search traffic goes, it even briefly eclipsed the Bible (which FYI sells 100 million copies every year worldwide).

The very different reactions of men and women to this book resolve down to our ‘big sexual difference’: guys want a nut, girls want an experience.

 

Why Girls Get So Filthy, Sexually Speaking

I’m pretty vanilla as far as sexual desires go.

Yeah, I have shagged girls outside: on public beaches with people walking by in the dark, in the woods with residences not far off, atop waterfalls on public nature trails, behind dumpsters in the middle of crowded cities in broad daylight with people walking by just on the other side of the dumpster. I’ve had girls suck me off in public and private (they know to always swallow; spitting out my seed is sacrilege) and given it to girls up the ass (and made them cum their brains out doing that). I have tied girls up, slapped their butts, tits, pussies, and faces, bitten them, twisted their tits, pulled their hair, etc. It’s fun when I do it… BUT: I’m equally happy just shagging a girl in her pussy and getting a nut. I do this other stuff though because girls ask for it, or because I know a girl will like it.

And they DO! They cum so hard… they talk about it so much after. If it’s a girl I’m seeing regularly or a girlfriend, I will hear about it for months or even years: “Remember that time we…?” “I miss when we… can we do that again?” Even if it was just a one-night stand, you can see that extra twinkle in her eyes from giving her some experience she’s never had before. Many of those girls will thank you outright.

To me, it’s me doing a service for the girl. I COULD just get a nut. I’d be satisfied with that. But I know it’ll brighten her day, week, month, or even life if I give her more. She gets to experience that a guy desires her enough and cares about her enough to blow her mind in some way she’s only ever fantasized about before. She’ll have something she can always look back on with fondness no matter where life takes her from here.

Even still… for the guy, it’s not just extra pleasure, it’s extra work! You’re banging her in public, thinking, “Man, I hope we don’t get arrested,” meanwhile for the girl’s side of things, she’s totally into it and moaning uncomfortably loud, creating a new memory she’ll relish for who knows how long.

Why do girls get so into this stuff? Stuff that most guys (myself included) would probably be fine doing without, if we knew girls did not care?

Why do women NEED and DESIRE these experience so much?

Why the heck are girls so FILTHY?!

 

Why Girls Are Dirty Girls

I’m probably triggering the inexperienced, prudish portion of our readership here.

If so, I am sorry. I know this is uncomfortable for you. Just think of this as an uncomfortable truth that will, as you accept it, come to become a useful and ennobling truth.

All girls have this tendency toward ‘dirty/deviant sexuality’. They want to be manhandled and ‘degraded’ and used in all sorts of ways by a man they are very attracted to.

That means YOU, in whatever kind of sexual relationship you are having.

I am not writing “girls want this from me because I am just so sexy.”

I am writing “girls want this from whatever guy they are sleeping with. Including you.”

If they are sleeping with you, then you are a guy they find sexy enough to sleep with, AND THEY WANT YOU TO DO THIS STUFF TO THEM. They will be excited, turned on, and made to feel deep ‘in-love emotions’ if you do.

Remember: the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach; the way to a woman’s heart is through her pussy. If you can satisfy her pussy, by (in part) also satisfying these urges she has, you will be a man she imprints on deeply, devotes to deeply, and remembers forever.

I have not seen any actual science on why women are this way. So I will tell you my observations:

• Women want to feel desired and cherished. After ‘experiential’ sex like this, they feel incredibly close to their man, become extra soft and tender, snuggle up to him even more. The level of vulnerability suggests that they feel very safe after sex like this, which also means very appreciated and desired by the man.

• Women want to feel their man is STRONG. This is true for ALL women. I date women with advanced degrees and good careers who are used to rolling over men in their professional, social, and romantic lives, but these girls submit to me hard (and love it). It doesn’t matter what kind of girl she is; she wants to submit, but only for a man who can make her do so. When she submits to you hard in dirty sex, she is submitting especially hard, and for her that is especially intoxicating. She views her man as particularly strong after sex like this, for what he has done to her (something she cannot imagine letting most/any other men do!).

• Women need stimulation to deepen the immersion. This is another aspect of female sexuality most men don’t get. I’ve talked with women about this quite a bit: “What’s happening for you when I bite you?” “Why do you like it when we shag outdoors?” “What’s exciting about dirty talk?” Etc. For me, this stuff is a bit distracting; instead of just focusing on my dick in the pussy I need to worry about slapping her, biting her, making sure it’s neither too hard nor too soft, making sure I’m not doing it too much nor failing to do it enough. If we’re outdoors I need to keep an eye on whoever else is around, and so on. What women have told me is that these things heighten the pleasure because they heighten the immersion: the woman’s thoughts are pulled away from whatever else might be running through her head and troubling her, because it is not just “his dick is in my pussy” but “his teeth are biting me”, “his hand is slapping me”, “he is telling me these filthy things”, etc. For women to achieve orgasm, neurologically, they first need to enter a trance-like state, and all this extra dirty stuff and all these novel experiences serve almost like a kind of meditation or hypnosis, jerking them out of their worries and concerns and forcing them to focus fully upon the exciting, immersive experience of dirty sex.

So if we sum all that up, dirty sex entrances women, forcing everything else out of their mind aside from the experience, which lets them focus on the sex with you COMPLETELY. It opens them up into a very vulnerable position, which causes them to view you as especially STRONG (since, they believe, they would not allow most men to ‘do that’ with them). And it makes them feel that you must really, really desire them, to do these dirty, filthy things with them, that most men won’t, since most men just want to get their nut and roll off. So you must really be attracted to this girl to want her THAT bad.

Recall that women have these defenses against giving themselves too fully into sexual pleasure. As they gain in maturity, they progressively lose those defenses – but it is not like those defenses go to zero. A woman still needs to maintain her social reputation; she still needs to not act loose and slutty with every single man she meets. She needs to vet men and make sure those men meet her standards before she opens herself up to them.

Even most sexually experienced women still need a man who is capable of helping them to ‘let go’ sexually. All this dirty, filthy, deviant stuff that women fantasize about – and very much enjoy when you do it with/to them – is designed to suck her into the experience, shut out everything other than the all-consuming sex, and let her feel desired by a powerful man.

 

Conclusion

This desire of women to be taken over by a man, wanted, used, degraded, and consumed by the sex, is what we’re talking about when we say that women are dirtier, filthier, more sexual, and more deviant than men are.

Yes, men in general want more sex with more partners. I suppose if by ‘dirty’ you mean “this person’s privates have touched a greater number of people’s privates”, then in that case dudes are dirtier (or they’d like to be. Straight men and women end up having the same number of lifetime sex partners on average).

But it’s women who want to do all sort of dirty, nasty things. Most guys will have a couple of fetishes. You might be into BDSM, or public sex, or anal. Unless you are a genuine freak, though, I doubt you’re into BDSM, public sex, AND anal. Girls are though – they’re into all of it!

Well, they are once they let their defenses go. When guys let their defenses go, they still won’t be into most of this stuff… it’s just generally going to be a bit boring or extra work for most dudes. Most dudes just want to get that nut.

Girls want the nut… eventually. If you never cum in a girl she is going to think something is wrong. She’ll start begging you to cum, even. Try it sometime. If I’m all sexed-out, for instance, and I’ve got a horny girl, I will get hard and bang her but maybe after a certain amount of time she’s had a bunch of orgasms yet I’m still far from cumming, so I will just say to myself, “Maybe I’ll just save this nut and use it for a little sexual transmutation instead.” The girl will be disappointed, even though she’s already climaxed a whole bunch. She may insist on making you cum, and work to seduce you into continuing the sex while you’re climbing off her / proceeding to dress, etc.

HOWEVER… before girls get that nut from you, they want an experience.

They want to feel used, degraded, stimulated, desired.

They want to feel that you want them SO MUCH that you are going to manhandle them in all kinds of naughty, sexual ways.

To a woman, this is true desire. It’s a guy who doesn’t want to just get his rocks off… he wants to experience her, use her, indulge in her, in all sorts of exciting and titillating ways.

So, to all my readers out there, here is my suggestion:

Don’t be afraid to get a little dirty with girls. As you overcome your own immature defenses, and help women overcome theirs, what you will discover is a deeper sexual connection with the women you sleep with, that leads to greater devotion, greater satisfaction, and a sense of greater intimacy than you’d ever thought was possible – and all from treating that good, sweet, and wonderful girl in your bed as the grimiest of slutty slatterns.

Just don’t forget that this is in the bedroom; her private side, one she is showing only to you, a special thing just for you (and perhaps her lovers before you, if she was awakened when you got her). Outside the bedroom, she is still her ‘social self’, with her sweet reputation, the same ‘good girl’ (or whatever image she maintains) face to present to the world.

Even the dirtiest of girls in the bedroom doesn’t want her dirty laundry on display, after all.

What can we say? Humans are peculiar and multifaceted beings!

Yours,
Chase Amante

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