To become a successful day-gamer, you need a good work ethic. Abiding by these three rules will focus your efforts and put you on the path to glory.
In part three of this series, I covered verbal game, experiential learning, conquering fear, the two-minute rule, and exposure therapy. See the pattern here? These are mostly inner game issues, rather than outer game techniques.
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When you fix the inner game, the outer game fixes itself.
Think of a world champion fighter like Mike Tyson. He grew up on the streets of Brooklyn, dealing drugs and breaking into houses. As a young man, he was bullied by thugs. He learned how to use his fists out of fear and necessity long before he mastered any kind of technique. By the time he met his trainer and went on to win the Olympics at 19 years old, he’d already been in dozens, maybe hundreds of fights. And of course, he didn’t win them all.
“I come out. I have supreme confidence, but I’m scared to death,” Tyson said. “I’m afraid. I’m afraid of everything. I’m afraid of losing, I’m afraid of being humiliated. But I’m just totally confident. The closer I get to the ring, the more confident I get. Once I’m in the ring, I’m a god. No-one could beat me.”
Think of these words when you want to approach a girl. It’s not so bad once you’re in the ring.
What Do Women Want?
Ask yourself this question: what sort of man do the girls you desire want? Do you know any sexy unicorns that long for a needy, jealous, quiet, insecure, shy man? Is that a man? Learning game is the process of going from boy to man. It’s a rite of passage, on par with Spartan children being tossed into the forest naked. It’s a Native American’s first war raid.
The feminine, educated, beautiful women you desire want men, not boys. You can say the exact same thing to a woman and she won’t be attracted – because you’re still a boy. You could be forty years old and still a boy. Learning how to speak your mind and approach a woman calmly and confidently is manly. The very act of approaching is attractive. Assume that you’re an attractive man, not a nervous boy. Fake it, imagine it, brainwash yourself.
Say this out loud: “I am an attractive man now and forever.” Say that every morning and every night before bed. And then pray to Crom, or whatever god you speak with.
Now for a true tale of romance and adventure.
I saw her pushing her bike towards me down the sidewalk. All that wavy, blonde hair sparkling in the sunlight. That pale skin, anime eyes, and big, inner tube lips. I took a deep breath. What most guys call approach anxiety, I call ambition. I stepped in front of her.
“That’s a nice bike. I bet you feel pretty cool on that.”
“Why?” she laughed.
“Because it’s so cool and fast.”
“Yeah, it is pretty fast. I don’t know if I feel cool though. Do you?”
“Feel cool? Yeah, always. All the time.”
“Oh, yeah? Really?” she laughed some more. Laughing is good.
I took a step forward and placed my finger on her freckled arm. “You’re so white. You shouldn’t be out here. You’ll turn pink, like a lobster.”
She looked down at her arm. “Oh, I totally am already.”
“You’re not from Vancouver, are you?” I asked.
“No, I’m from Calgary. How did you know?”
“Because. I know things.”
“Okay.”
“I’m Tony.”
“Sarah.”
She was here for a lifestyle change and living with her brother. She worked as a waitress but wanted to be an actress, because she loved to make-believe. After a few minutes, it was time to close.
“I’m not going to text you,” I told her.
“No?”
“No. You’re going to text me. At exactly 6 pm tonight, with a three-word poem. And it’d better not suck, because if it does, I’m not replying.”
She cocked her head and looked at me accusingly. It was something new I was trying, giving my number out instead of taking hers. I wanted her to invest in me. I wanted her to chase.
“Sure, why not?” she replied, and took my number.
But would she text me?
The Three Rules of Day Game
I have only three basic rules for learning newbie-stage day game. I’ve honed it down over the last decade. They are the two-minute rule, touch, and ABC (Always Be Closing).
#1: The Two-Minute Rule
Every interaction must last at least two minutes. If you end the conversation before two minutes is up, you must go back and keep talking. This is how you learn verbal seduction – by talking. Time is the greatest guru.
#2: Touch
Every approach needs some form of physical touch. A handshake, at the very least. A good rule of thumb is to stand close enough to touch her. If you reach out your arm and can’t touch her, move in closer.
There was a university study on touch and dating. The researchers approached hundreds of women and asked for their phone numbers. The first test group used touch, the second didn’t. The touch group had drastically higher text-back rates. There. Science.
Touch can escalate to playing with the rings on her fingers, investigating a tattoo, admiring her earrings, or just a plain old hug. I could write an entire article on touch.
So many guys think it’s wrong or creepy to touch women in the daytime. If done calmly and confidently, without apology or doubt, then the odds you’ll see her again go way up.
#3: Always Be Closing
All seduction is sales, and you’re the product. Always be closing.
Rejection is also positive. Rejection doesn’t maim, wound, or destroy you. “No, thanks.” Your legs are still there. Your heart and lungs work. You still have a job. But suddenly it feels like a burden has been lifted and you’re free to ascend the mountain, to claim back your manhood.
Last week, a student approached a lovely lady, then returned. It was less than a minute. “What happened?” I asked.
“Nothing really. Wasn’t sure what to say next.”
“She didn’t tell you to leave?”
“No.”
“I don’t know.”
“Go back.”
“Back?” he said, looking over his shoulder at her. “Really?”
“Yes. For another minute, at least. And close.”
“I don’t think the vibe is there, Tony.”
“Then get rejected. ABC. Play to fail.”
He went back and said, “What’s your number?” She told him she had a boyfriend.
He walked back, chin up, grinning.
“See, you’re still alive,” I said. “Now, let’s try again.”
“Put that coffee down. Coffee’s for closers only.” – (Blake, Glengarry Glen Ross)
The Physical Approach
In the daytime, women are shopping, going to work, the gym, meeting friends. Some are tourists, strolling languidly and staring into shop windows, while others are clutching their purses and rushing. Some are walking straight towards you, some are parallel and across the street. Some are inside women’s clothing stores, others are at intersections.
“Tony, how do I approach a woman [doing/going] [thing/place/whatever]?”
“First, you move your left leg, then you move your right. Then you open your mouth, form vowels, and force air through your lungs.”
All approaches are just problems to be solved. The more often you try, the better your odds. But for opening, you do need a little strategy.
From the front, wave at her, make a high-five, or stand still and say, “Hey, come here for a minute.” You could use an opinion opener, go direct, or just make an insightful observation.
Some coaches teach you to jump in front of women and yell, “Stop!” Seems fine. But I’d rather go under the radar. I like to walk with the girl. It builds rapport. And if I want to stop, I just stop, and so does she – if I’ve charmed her.
From the back or side, walk parallel and slightly past her, look back over your shoulder and say, “Hi.” Don’t ever approach from the back and tap her shoulder. You’ll just frighten her.
Experienced guys can make anything work, but newbies should start with the basics:
Eyes First
Humans are visual beings. Make sure she sees you before she hears you or feels your touch. You can force eye contact with a verbal greeting, a wave, or by making eye contact yourself. But she must see you.
You Might Have to Run
Girls are busy. Everyone is going somewhere. If you see that hot girl and she’s walking fast, jog, run, sprint if you must. Just slow down and compose yourself before opening.
Walk with Her
Moving together builds rapport. Humans are naturally nomadic. I like to lead her, even if it’s where she’s already going. “Oh, you’re going that way. I am too. Let’s walk together.”
The smoothest way to stop her is to stop walking. Say, “Stop for a minute,” if you must. There’s something about saying, “One minute.” Everyone has a minute.
And often, a minute turns into all day. Try for an instant date. Phone numbers are fine, but you need a lot of them.
The magic line: “What are you doing now?”
If she says “Not much” or “Shopping,” then suggest something awesome, like the best latte in town, the most amazing park, or a tourist site. Vancouver (where I live) has beaches downtown and plenty of bars lining the water. It’s a lot more fun than coffee.
A walk can lead just about anywhere.
Logistics
Does she have a boyfriend? Is she leaving for Dubai in the morning? Does she live in a different city? You want to find out early on so you don’t waste your day. Time’s short, you’re dying with every breath. Your dream girl might be just around the corner.
My go-to line is “Do you live with roommates or alone?”
If she doesn’t just say “Yeah, I live with my boyfriend, Danny. He’s the best, I totally love him,” then I’ll follow up with “Are you single?”
It might seem a bit forward, but I don’t want to waste her time or mine. If there’s enough attraction there, she’ll say she’s available. If not, I’ll chat for a bit, get her contact details, and move on.
There’s always another girl, another opportunity to connect. Day game is both a skill and a numbers game. That’s just how it is.
Conclusion
Sarah texted me that night at 6pm, just like I’d instructed.
“Popcorn flavored ice-cream.”
“That’s actually four words. Epic fail,” I replied.
“Whatever…”
Since she seemed rather compliant, I gave her my address and told her to come and visit me at my apartment. No coffee dates or dinner. I just had a feeling this dominant approach would work. I’d made a solid first impression, and she seemed into me.
“Sure, why not?” she replied.
The next day, she arrived at my apartment wearing a tight, blue skirt. “Do you always just invite girls over on the first date?”
“Sometimes.”
“Does it work?”
“It did this time.”
I poured her some wine and we talked. I teased her, did some push-pull, elicited her values, and before long, we were making out. I stood up and guided her to my bed. Soon, we were both as naked as newborns.
“We’re not sleeping together tonight,” she told me.
“Ewww, sex is gross.”
She laughed.
Then she slipped down towards my engorged manhood and, while gazing up at me with those big, green eyes, gave me one of the best blowjobs of my entire life. Afterwards, she licked all her fingers and smiled at me.
“Nice,” I said.
There’s no way I could cover everything involved in mastering day game in four articles.
I have a short book called I Hope It’s Sunny Out: A Guide to Meeting Women in the Daytime, full of tips and strategies for approach anxiety, what to say, and inner and outer game techniques. You can grab it off Amazon in your country. In future articles, I’ll go more in-depth into all the nuances of seduction, day game, and more.
I want to personally thank Chase for bringing me onto the team here at Girls Chase. I look forward to sharing my experiences with you all in the future.
Tony
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