Beginner's Guide to Sexual Escalation, Pt. 3: When She Resists

Struggling with resistance when escalating? Learn key principles to handle pushback gracefully: backing off builds the attraction & comfort to get things moving again.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

I’ve dedicated this post to helping newer guys understand what happens when they experience resistance. Of course, more experienced guys can still benefit from this information.

I will continue discussing resistance to escalation from a beginner-friendly perspective, focusing on the fundamentals. My approach is to provide a few key principles, theories, and rules to keep in mind, which should help most men land most girls. It’s important to note that some level of attraction, comfort, and good logistics should already be in place. This should be obvious.

In my last two posts, we’ve discussed how to prevent resistance by focusing on timing and covering whether to escalate slowly or quickly. Prevention is always a better choice.

However, resistance may still occur. I’ll tell you how to tackle it if it happens.

What I am about to share will not help you get an uninterested or uncomfortable girl into bed. The material below will be effective if there is at least a certain amount of compliance. You should have some interest and comfort built, plus a good logistical setting (back at your or her place alone, for instance). There are ways to dodge resistance without having any of these three factors in place: interest, comfort, and logistics, however that’s advanced, and we will not cover it here. Experienced seducers will agree that, if possible, it is always better to escalate if those three premises are in place first.

Let’s recap potential causes of resistance.