The 5 Hoe Phases Women Experience

By now most guys have realized that girls going through a hoe phase don’t stay in that phase forever. “Once a hoe, always a hoe” – maybe, but she won’t always be as active shacking up with men as she is during a phase. That little old lady with a 120-man body count isn’t still slurping on as many dongs as she was forty years ago. Age has slowed her down.

The “done with the cock carousel and ready to settle down” meme is funny, but also often correct. What prompts a woman to climb onto the cock carousel and start that hoe phase in the first place though – and why does she climb back off?

Below, we’ll open up the hood on the five (5) major sparks that prompt a woman to begin hoeing it up. Next stop: Hoetown!

 

#1: Recovery Hoe Phase

Many women enter a hoe phase as a kind of recovery period.

This is common after a particularly bad or messy breakup. She was with a guy she thought was The One… she thought she’d end up married to her Mr. Right… but it didn’t work out, he broke her heart, and now, newly single, she’s jumping from cock to cock like she’s in a pole-vaulting competition.

Rebound sex has psychological benefits, as a matter of fact. As one study reports

Analyses indicated that people in new relationships were more confident in their desirability and had more resolution over their ex-partner. Among those in new relationships, the speed with which they began their relationship was associated with greater psychological and relational health. Overall, these findings suggest that rebound relationships may be more beneficial than typically believed.

All that rebounding actually helps her recover faster. But why do some girls rebound so much, with so many guys? Any man who’s used GFTOW (“Go Fuck Ten Other Women”) to get over an ex knows: it’s a lot easier to get laid than it is to find a replacement.

When you’ve broken up with someone who left a mark, many of those replacement partners aren’t going to reach that mark. So you take more on to try to drown out the memory of that nearly-perfect partner you loved then lost.

In time (hopefully), the pain dulls and you’ll generally meet someone else just as awesome or even more so. But that first one or two hookups post-breakup are often pretty disappointing… which only prompts you to seek out MORE.

Aside from ‘messy breakup recovery’, you will also see women enter hoe phases following genuine sexual abuse/trauma. In college I had a roommate dating a girl who lost her virginity at 17 when her male ‘best friend’ took advantage of her while she was passed out drunk and immobile. She knew what he was doing and weakly tried to protest; he ignored her and penetrated her anyway. The incident scarred her; she went on an absolute tear hoeing it up afterwards. She was a very nice girl, very sweet, but had been a complete hoe between the time of that incident and when my buddy started dating her years later. In my experience this is a common reaction to rape/sexual assault. It’s sad.

Regardless the cause, you will know a girl’s in a recovery hoe phase if:

• She vents to you about her abusive, neglectful, or insensitive ex, and clearly is not over him yet, or

• She talks about some kind of sexual assault she experienced, and it clearly still weighs on her, and

• She behaves in clearly loose, sexual, slutty ways (and goes to bed easily with you and other men)

Like the messy breakup girl, the girl who was sexually assaulted comes to view hoeing it up as a way to “take her power back.” There can also be an element of revenge in this hoe phase: the woman hoeing it up views her sexual escapades with other men as a kind of spiritual middle finger at the guy who hurt her – whether that guy was a genuine attacker or merely someone she loved then lost. Of course, sometimes this gets a woman into a pretty weird place.

It's worth noting that while many girls who go through messy breakups exit the hoe phase after a few months or a year at most, some women who get very depressed (or who may have been dating a man very far out of their leagues, whom they know is better than any guy they are likely to have a shot with again) can remain in the recovery hoe phase for a long, long time.

Once she feels she’s taken enough power back though, or fully gotten over the man or trauma, this hoe phase comes to an end.

 

#2: Sexual Awakening Hoe Phase

At some point, many women undergo a process we dub a ‘sexual awakening’. During this process, a woman’s mindset shifts from viewing sex as something mysterious, icky, and awkward into something exciting, self-affirming, and pleasurable.

Most awakenings happen “gradually, then suddenly.” A woman becomes more curious about sex, then tries to reel it back, then grows still more curious about sex, then tries to reel it back again… until one day the floodgates open and she abandons herself to this newfound interest.

Generally the full awakening occurs when a woman learns to orgasm from sex. That said, it can happen earlier. I have met girls who were already well into their sexual awakenings without having learned anything other than clitoral orgasms yet.

Either way, once she’s awakened her sexuality, then like anyone who’s discovered some new, engrossing hobby, she decides it’s time to hoe it up.

She becomes fascinated with sex, learns lots more about it, and even begins developing her own sexual tricks and tactics.

You will know she’s in this phase if:

• She gushes to you about sex, how fun it is, and how much she’s uncovering

• She treats sex like a thrilling new discovery she’s only recently delved into

• She rattles off tales of her lovers and sexual encounters with seemingly no awareness that you might have any reaction to that other than equal interest and wonder to her own

Girls in the sexual awakening hoe phase can be a lot of fun; their ‘eager pupil’ energy is infectious. These girls want to explore and they want to learn – and you are their teacher.

Once she’s sampled enough of sex and realized most random men she hooks up with are actually pretty bad at it, the sheen starts to come off and she eases out of this phase.

 

#3: Kid in a Candy Store Hoe Phase

 The “kid in a candy store” hoe phase is a hoe phase unlockable to any girl who enters a new environment filled with an abundance of men she finds sexually attractive combined with a large degree of anonymity (so no repercussions for her hooking up). For example:

• A girl who arrives freshman year in a university filled with ‘mature’ guys (sophomores, juniors, seniors). She doesn’t know anyone yet and is free to partake of these ‘mature 19-21 y/o guys’ with no harm to her non-existent reputation.

• A girl who arrives at a vacation destination frequented by singles. Or, even if there aren’t many singles, if she signs up for a surf class, ski class, snorkeling class, etc., and the tour guide is a sexy guy. Typically girls who catch the ‘travel bug’ will travel around to lots of destinations to indulge in ‘sexy vacation guy’ escapades even if they keep it tame back home.

• A girl who joins a dating app and discovers she can ‘date up’ in looks and wealth as matches with good-looking, seemingly wealthy guys flood her profile. Plenty of girls who are midrange in looks and lower sign up to dating apps, get bombarded with opportunities to sleep with good-looking ‘zero standards’ men, and enter a complete hoe phase for a time.

The kid in a candy store hoe phase is a bit unique among hoe phases in that her hoe behavior tends to be restricted to only the ‘candy store’ where she feels free to hoe around.

For instance, a girl may hoe it up at her university, then return home on a break from school and be the consummate good girl. She may be hoeing it up as she travels around on her vacations, but back home she dates conservatively. She may hoe it up on dating apps, but in her social circle she dates only slowly and cautiously.

Note that not every girl who goes to college, takes a vacation, or joins a dating app becomes a hoe. But for certain personality types, these venues make for the perfect hoeliday.

The kid in a candy store hoe phase ends either when anonymity collapses (as happens to freshman girls toward the end of their freshman years; they start building social circles, develop reputations, and need to tone the hoeing down) or the sheen wears off and they realize the guys they’re hoeing up with don’t see them as relationship or marriage material (as happens to most girls on dating apps – that’s when you start hearing all the complaints about how “guys on dating apps are all just players”).

That said, it is also possible for the kid in a candy store hoe phase to last almost indefinitely – particularly among the perpetual jet-set crowd.

 

#4: Drug Addiction Hoe Phase

It’s pretty common for women who become addicted to certain narcotics to enter a deep hoe phase. People who knew such a girl prior to addiction often comment that “she was never like this before.”

As Wikipedia notes, there are associations between drug abuse and prostitution as well (going both ways).

There appear to be multiple reasons that feed into the drug addiction hoe phase, including:

• Once a woman reaches the point where she’s freely taking a substance to get high, she’s more or less left reputation concerns behind her

• Taking addictive drugs rewires the brain to prioritize dopamine / good feelings even more. Sex may not be as good as the drug is, but it’s another high she can combine with her drug of choice, or use to self-medicate to some extent in the come down or between hits

• Drug addicted women often take to trading sex for drugs (i.e., become prostitutes). Deadbeat A, Deadbeat B, and Deadbeat C are all willing to trade her some drugs for sex, and if she’s low on money this can seem like a pretty reasonable trade to make

Basically, the more drug addicted she is, and the harder the substances she’s addicted to are, the deeper in the ‘drug addict hoe phase’ she’s likely to be.

This phase doesn’t really end until she kicks the addiction.

Even then, sometimes women replace drug addiction with sex addiction – so it may continue on for a while even after the drug addiction ends.

 

#5: Nymphomania

Some chicks are just nymphomaniacs, biologically wired with sky-high sex drives.

This isn’t really so much a phase as it is a way of life.

She hoes it up because her sex drive’s off the charts and her penchant for sensation seeking’s sky high. She’s just a girl who LOVES sex, pleasure, and men!

Some guys mistake nymphos for girls in their hoe phases. If it’s a phase, it’s a lifelong one. She may slow down with age, but she’ll never lose her lust for lovers.

 

Date Her in Her Hoe Phase? Date Her After It?

You know what they say, my man; can’t turn a ho into a housewife.

I’ve known men who tried to nail down girls into a relationship while the girl was in the midst of her hoe phase. It’s always a losing battle. Better to just ride the wave. Keep her as a friend with benefits, enjoy her for what she is, and relax as she jumps from guy to guy. If you prefer not to share, then make your peace with giving her up – then throw her back into that pond and go find another girl just like her who isn’t hoeing it up.

What about after the hoe phase?

Most girls leave it eventually.

Whether you want to date a reformed hoe or not, that’s up to you, amigo. Some guys are cool with a girl who’s hoed it up in the past, while others aren’t. If you’re not, find a girl who wasn’t a hoe (here’s how I recommend you check for that).

If prior hoeing doesn’t bother you… well, I’d just suggest you make sure she’s truly gotten it out of her system if you’re looking at her for anything resembling ‘monogamy’. (How do you make sure she’s gotten it out of her system? Couldn’t tell you; I’ve never been big on ‘former hoes’ myself. But ask around, friend; someone’s bound to know a way)

The one thing I will say is “once a hoe, always a hoe” is closer to the truth than not. She may not be hoeing it up actively, but the ability to hoe it up is always something there in the back of her head that she can go back to if the situation calls for it. If that does not bother you, though, then hoe it up, brother!

Cheers,
Chase