Seduction

This is the tenth and final post in my series on dance floor seduction. This post will of course cover how to seal the deal. We will cover the end game phase; the phase where you make things happen.

In case you are just tuning in, here are the previous nine installments:

1. Dance game foundations
2. Warming up on the dance floor
3. Dance floor target selection
4. Opening on the dance floor
5. Building attraction on the dance floor
6. Physical escalation on the dance floor
7. Handling her friends
8. What causes resistance
9. More on handling resistance
   

We will not cover, however, how to escalate to sex when you are back at your place, as we already have way too many posts covering this exact topic. Secondly, we also have a lot more stuff to discuss that is relevant to dance floor seduction, which I'd rather focus on.

This post is broken into many parts. The reason for this is that we will cover many different topics. The things we will discuss, although all key to endgame, are too short to have their own posts. And lastly, this guide is getting long and it is time to sum it up.

So let's get started.

Whether you’re talking to a girl inside a club or inside your apartment, you are going to need to be an effective communicator.

Conversation is not only something you do to bond with girls, but it’s a tool to get her back to your place. Not saying the right thing at the beginning could result in her never giving you a chance. A boring conversation could have her walking away from you mid-sentence. If you can’t get her to feel comfortable at your place, you could fail right at the finish line.

So here is my hello to good morning conversation guide:

One of the most common questions that I hear from guys is:

“How do I make her want me?”

But there’s always more to this question. They go on...

“You know, like want me so bad that she just can’t wait to get back to my place and rip my clothes off and will even make plays to move the interaction forward herself! I see this happen with other guys from time to time, so I know it’s possible... How do you do that?”

Although what you are doing is important, it’s usually the things that you either don’t do or just do incorrectly that end up being the miscreant that stalls things.

Later I’ll explain to you in detail how to not only turn a woman on, but more critically, how to do it smoothly so that you don’t make mistakes and disappoint her somewhere along the way.

But first, let me tell you why this is even more important than you think it is.

We are about to sum up this long guide on dance floor seduction. However, before we get into how to seal the deal, I believe it is key to discuss the potential pitfalls you might meet on the way and how you can deal with them.

In case you are just tuning in, the previous installments in this guide to dance floor game are here:

1. Dance game foundations

2. Warming up on the dance floor

3. Dance floor target selection

4. Opening on the dance floor

5. Building attraction on the dance floor

6. Physical escalation on the dance floor

7. Handling her friends

Some of you might have gone out and tried the numerous techniques that we have covered so far. Those of you who have might have faced some resistance when escalating physically on a woman. I'll cover how to avoid and how to handle such situations in this post. There are numerous posts on this website on how you can handle resistance, including one written by me. This post can work as a recap, but I will also share some additional stuff.

Let us get right into it by first briefly explaining what resistance is and what causes it. After that, we will cover different ways to avoid facing resistance. Then next week we will be covering how to deal with it when you first face it.

Obviously, a lot of the concepts shared in this post can be applied to any seduction related situations and not only on the dance floor – for example when she is back at your place, or if you are meeting a girl in a bar or having an instant date as a result of a successful day game cold approach.

It’s an unfortunate fact, but true nonetheless: an overwhelming majority of sexual partners lack substantial knowledge as to what actually turns the other one on.

For one reason or another, most people nowadays are either:

1. too ashamed,
2. too deluded,
3. too identified with being a spectator,
4. too obsessed with their self-image, or
5. simply too inexperienced

... to be particularly good in bed (the last issue is by far the easiest to remedy).

Yet if you want to be able to take on the role of the “lover” in a girl’s life, amazing sex and the opportunity to be around a man with such an exciting, stimulating presence is what you’re implicitly (and sometimes explicitly) offering the girl you’re seducing.

So in this post, I’d like to share with you some basic ways the lover looks at sex, as well as a handful of techniques that you can immediately start to use to take your sex life to the next level.

However, before we get into the tactical goodies, let’s start out with some clarification as to what good sex is... and is not.

This is the first article in a two-part series about the importance of Target Selection. This first article talks about Target Selection as it relates to sleeping with new women; the second, Target Selection when it comes to relationship potential, as well as which type of relationship a girl is a fit for with you (FB, FWB, MLTR, LTR, OLTR).

As you'll discover in the next article, not all women are built equal and some are simply poor candidates for certain roles in your life.

Today we will discuss why it's important to choose targets wisely when hunting for new sex partners. The reason for this is simple: it is a giant waste of time to pursue women who are not interested or available. It will never "work", and even if you end up sleeping with such a woman, it will come at great expense to you and will not work out the way you want it to.

First, let's define the terms "interested", "available", and "interested and available".

I messed up…

In a social circle where the stakes were high I failed to be discreet. No, I didn’t go blab about what happened, but instead, due to too much alcohol consumed, I failed to isolate and we were noticed.

But an interesting thing happened:

Despite a couple of women from that circle seeing us and this being the gossip of the year, my indiscretion didn’t reach the ears of parties that could’ve blown the whole situation out of proportion and make my life truly difficult.

Those smart ladies decided to make a better call than I did and keep my little secret. Would you like to guess why?

Well,

Keeping the social circle healthy in general was definitely one of them, but one crucial piece of the puzzle was that they, consciously or not, decided that they didn’t want me to be kicked out of it.

You see, until that moment, despite openly being a sexual man and with my image and actions clearly communicating that I prefer a promiscuous lifestyle, I still acted within my code of standards that I talked about in my last article and in general wasn’t a social risk.

On the contrary, a sexual, attractive man who is smart about the way he does his thing can actually be a very valuable asset in a social circle.

In other words, my reputation saved my ass in that situation.

With this article I’d like to help you understand the benefits of having the right reputation within a social circle and afterwards we’ll cover how to develop your reputation as a sexual man so it works for you, instead of against you.