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Tactics Tuesdays: How to Isolate a Girl Away from Her Friends

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By: Chase Amante

If you read the articles on here (and especially if you read Alek’s articles – he discusses this one regularly), you’ve no doubt come across the tactic of isolation.

The word isolation describes the act or state of being cut off or removed from others. That might sound like something nefarious, but its use here is far more practical:

Isolation is the art of getting a girl away from her friends, from people who know her, or from people in general, so that you and her can get to know one another more privately and ramp up the connection between you.

how to isolate a girl

This is obviously most applicable in social venues (bars and nightclubs, parties, barbecues, girls you meet on vacation, etc.), however you’ll sometimes find yourself needing to isolate in traditionally non-social places (for instance, say you meet a girl in a crowded airport terminal, or in a busy café).

Assuming you are isolating women who find you attractive (and you will have an outlandishly hard time isolating women who do not), they want this too, enjoy this, and before you do it often will be hoping that, somehow, they end up somewhere one-on-one with you without their friends, much as they adore them, sticking their noses in or craning their necks around to hear what you are saying better.

Today’s article is all about isolation: how to isolate a girl, different ways you can generate isolation scenarios, and what you can do in the case where for whatever reason you can’t pull her off somewhere more private just yet, but you’re nonetheless at the deadline to create some one-on-one time with her.

Self-Cultivation; or, the Art of Checking Off Boxes

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By: Chase Amante

Over on our discussion forum, member Sneaky_Charm asks for help getting “unstuck” and making progress again:

“I realize that I’m looking for an easy fix, and in a way, trying to justify my laziness. As if looking for some magic! But, at the same time, I’ve read enough books to understand that self-image is a very real thing.

Chase, I know you said in one article that you were in the same place for years, and then your life started to change. So what did you do? Did you do anything, or it just happened?”

He says he knows “the biggest problem is taking action.” Yet, he’s still not taking enough. How do you stop running underwater when you’re not taking sufficient action in the first place?

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Well, part of it’s just internal motivation. Sometimes until you really crater, you won’t feel sufficiently motivated to really step it up. Or sometimes you catch a lucky break (or perhaps you caused that break yourself by feeling around and exploring and testing stuff out) and you get a taste of what your true potential is or could be, and that’s all the motivation you need after that.

In my case, both sides played a role: I made rock bottom my home for a good long while and finally had enough of it, and then I managed to string together a bunch of lucky breaks over a period of time that gradually gave me tastes of what was waiting for me if I busted my tail. A beautiful girl unexpectedly gives me her phone number; I see a guy who’s light years better than me with girls, and watch him work, and understand. And I say to myself, “I can do this.”

But the art of self-cultivation can be boiled down to a simpler, and different, formula than just internal motivation + luck. We can also boil it down to this: draw some boxes, then start checking them off.

29 Things that Make a Woman Resist or Rebuff You

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By: Chase Amante

woman resist youIn my article “Why Leadership is so Key to Seducing Women”, a reader asks the about what the causes are of women resisting or rebuffing you:

“Howdy Chase, I would personally like to thank you for your writing. Truly inspiring and life-changing for me.

Your leadership advice has reminded me of your “Tell if her walls are up” article and its pertaining point of avoiding red flags that provoke women’s walls. However, I am clueless what triggers women’s walls. Would you mind elaborating on those landmines? Best regards!”

The article he’s referring to, about women’s walls, is this one:

Tell If a Girl Likes You: Are Her Walls Up Or Down?

So what does raise a woman’s walls in the first place?

Well, we can break them down into three (3) categories:

  1. Environmental triggers (stuff not related to you or her)
  2. Her default personality (i.e., it’s her problem)
  3. Things you are doing (i.e., it’s your problem)

Below, I’ll talk about each... plus the best ways for dealing with each.

Why You Ought to Reengage Women You’ve Met Earlier

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By: William Gupta

Tell me if this sounds like you. You see a girl at a bar, you approach her, it goes okay, but you don’t have enough social momentum to get her to come home with you.

After a while you bow out. You proceed to meander around the bar for a couple hours, avoiding her and her friends like a social disease. Finally, after you talk to every girl in the club you leave alone, wondering what went wrong. What you did wrong is you didn’t re-engage.

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The re-engage is a powerful weapon, because it changes your mindset. It changes your mind from needing everything to happen right then, to trusting that if it doesn’t happen now it will happen later.

It will allow you to go up to girls with zero expectations, and help you have a lot more fun. It will allow you to turn the whole club into your personal party. The re-engage can be used in a variety of ways. The wisdom of the re-engage works in many circumstances, from day game at a coffee shop to getting a friend with benefits back in your life.

The Young Man Seeking a Wife

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By: Chase Amante

Once upon a time, a young man prepared to leave home and venture into the city to find a wife. Before he left, his father, a simple farmer, gave him some advice: “Along the way, there are many who will want your ear. These will give you much advice on securing a wife, but the advice will not be for good for you, and it will not be good for your wife. The advice they give you will be based on fanciful ideas

An Intro to Logistics: Get Her Alone with You

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By: Alek Rolstad

Happy New Year!

I hope you are doing great. Today I will talk about a topic that is too often disregarded but that is KEY to seduction – perhaps one of the most important aspects.

This post is primarily an introduction to logistics. I will add a few links to other posts of mine (in addition to posts from other writers) that cover more in-depth stuff on various logistics related topics as we go along.

logistics

What is logistics?

Logistics is basically the scenario in which the seduction is taking place, e.g. your surroundings and the locations you will be working in. Knowing your surroundings and how to use them to their fullest will obviously be of great use.

Most of the time, when talking about logistics in terms of seduction, we often refer to it as a “seduction location” or “having a place to have sex”. And as this is what most people are focused on, so too will we focus on it in this post.

As such, this post is custom-tailored for anyone interested in getting laid, covering the fundamental aspects of logistics.

2015: The Year in Review, Looking Ahead

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By: Chase Amante

As with the previous two past years (2013, 2014), I’ve sought to review all our articles posted and list the top posts, in my opinion and from comments/shares.

This past year saw 241 new posts, down a bit from 2014, though we started off the year with an all-time high posting schedule of new articles daily for the first several months of the year.

This year saw:

  • Philip Etemesi’s 5 articles on getting girls in buses, at concerts, and in Africa
  • Drexel Scott’s 6 discussions of female nature and sexual selection
  • Ethan Fierre’s 6 essays on flirting, walking, and the romance novel
  • Joseph W. South’s 8 plunges deep into the female psyche
  • J.J. Jones’s 10 articles about deep diving, six-pack abs, and modern marriage
  • Colt Williams’s 11 tutorials on quick pickup and types of girls
  • Mateo Navarrete’s 11 introductions to openers, conversation, and escalation
  • Cody Lyans’s 17 explorations of focus, mental obstacles, and inner work
  • Hector Castillo’s 17 dissertations on dirtiness in bed and being a genuine man
  • Darius Belejevas’s 23 pieces on fashion, grooming, and social appearances
  • William Gupta’s 23 discussions of race, height, muscles, and intuition
  • Alek Rolstad with 37 articles on fast sex, sex talk, and dance floor game
  • And my (Chase Amante’s) 52 essays on pickup tech and relationship strategy

... plus four from George Russell, three from Jeff Stanton, a pair each from Francesco Toggianini and John Turner, and one each from Ben Harrison and Jerome Wu.

(the author links above link to each writer’s catalog of articles)

2015 review

I’ll also discuss plans for the business in 2016, what you can expect, and a little bit about my upcoming course.

5 Reasons to Approach Hotter Girls

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By: Francesco Toggianini

Having experienced the power of cold approach and the value of doing it in a rather systematic and calculated way (you will probably hear more about this in the next articles...), I am a bit surprised that I am actually writing this article myself.

approach hotter girls

I am a big believer in the efficiency of talking to every girl that I find even remotely interesting, because doing so puts me in a good mood. And, when I am in a good mood, talking to hotter girls becomes easier. Those who are not new to seduction advice know this principle very well. It is called state-shifting, and it basically consists in warming yourself up by talking to girls who might not necessarily turn you on, but that still give you that rush of adrenaline (due to the cold approach) that makes it very easy to do the next approach with the hotter girl.

While I still recommend the state-shifting approach for beginners (as a beginner you are still dealing with approach anxiety and a lack of reference experiences, so being too fussy can actually backfire), today I’m going to describe the benefits of being very selective regarding the quality of the girls you are going to talk to.

This article can be of value to beginners as well, but it is especially designed for intermediate/advanced guys who already have at least 500-1000 solid interactions on the street with women through cold approach.

Beginners are more likely in fact to have the problem of too-high standards than too-low ones; if you are a beginner, you should probably read this article first.

Awareness Radius: Get Noticed, Reward/Punish, and More

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By: Chase Amante

There’s a forceful concept we haven’t touched on a great deal on Girls Chase before, and that’s awareness radius.

We’ve discussed it a bit in the articles on the bored look and the skeptical look, and we’ve mentioned it as ‘extinction’ in the one on operant conditioning.

However, we’ve not called it by this name... awareness radius.

awareness radius

If you’re good, you’re using awareness radius strategically already, without knowing it. Once you’re consciously familiar with the concept, however, you can use it consciously as well as on autopilot, which makes you more socially formidable.

Even if you’re still learning, I’ll bet you’ll realize you’ve used this one from time to time, and what an impact it’s made. Now just think if you used it strategically.

Because, you see, awareness radius is a tool for communicating your own value, in your mind, relative to others; it’s a tool for rewarding good behavior and punishing bad; and it’s one you can use proactively to increase how much attention others are paying to you and what regard they hold you in.

5 Factors that Give a Man Sexual Confidence

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By: Alek Rolstad

Hey everyone.

Today I wanted to discuss a very important form of confidence that is rarely mentioned, yet is a KEY factor in your success with women. We are here talking about sexual confidence.

sexual confidence

I will first discuss what it is and how it will affect your success with women, then I will give some suggestions on how you can become sexually confident – i.e., tell you how to get there. So this post will be a mix of theory and practical elements.