Several times over the years, both on this site and in our newsletter, I’ve discussed compliments: both how to compliment, as well as when to do it, what compliments work best, and even a few nonverbal tricks to make your compliments more convincing.
Despite that, I notice most guys still don’t compliment much, and I suspect this is largely due to a few common fears around complimenting:
- “What if my compliment draws attention to my own undesirable traits?”
- “What if it sounds like I’m just trying to ingratiate myself?”
- “What if I inflate her ego too much?”
I’m not going to tell you those fears are preposterous, because those things do happen.
However, I will tell you those fears are most likely overblown.
And I’m also going to tell you that if you even have these fears at all, you have little to worry about when it comes to paying compliments.
Let’s tackle some of these concerns though, and address what’s behind them.