Fractionation lets you up desire, curiosity, and compliance. It’s
also
a fun way to handle objections. And odds are, you use it already.
I wrote a very long essay on the subject of fractionation
last summer. In that essay, I used a real-life event (a “lay report”)
and used it to cover fractionation – one of the MOST key concepts in
seduction.
After re-reading that post, even though I still consider it one of
my favorite pieces of writing so far on GC, I felt the need for a
simplified version. First of all, the previous post is a bit too long;
secondly, it puts a bit too much emphasis on the use of fractionation
in one particular situation – the one from the story covered in that
post.
Truth is, fractionation is so
versatile. I am sure you are probably
already using seduction techniques (either consciously or
unconsciously) that are based on fractionation. Most good seducers out
there use fractionation, and it is, in my opinion, one of the most
powerful concepts out there. In this post we will cover what it
is, in a simple, straight-to-the-point way – so that you actually get it.
You shouldn’t join a girl’s shopping
expedition for a date. So why’s it okay to invite her along while YOU
shop? The difference is the dynamic.
In my article on The “Help Run Some Errands” Date,
Lawliet questions whether having a girl come help you on dates doesn’t
set too much of a boyfriend frame.
In my article on how to take girls off their
“scripts” (i.e., having them abandon whatever they’re doing
or trying to do, and have them come be with you on your terms instead),
a reader commented on a point of confusion:
“Moreover,
you’ve even written an entire article on “disqualifying yourself as a
boyfriend”. But in this [article on taking girls off their scripts],
you suggest that its best to make clear what you actually want (even if
that is to be her boyfriend).”
I understand his confusion. I should stress before we
proceed that a big part of my approach with girls is to be inscrutable:
I throw off conflicting signals so a girl can’t nail me down. Just when
she thinks I’m a hookup-only guy, I ooze a little romance and her brain
starts
going crazy. “I thought this guy
just wanted to hook up,” she thinks, “and yet he’s so romantic! Maybe it could
be something more? What’s going on?! I can’t figure him out!”
James Bond uses it a lot in his films. Christian Grey uses it. Every
Byronic hero does, more or
less. She thinks she knows
what this guy is
about... And then she doesn’t know what this guy is about. He’s so
confusing. What is he about?
At some point, you have to let her figure out what it is you want
though, and that’s the kind of ‘clarity’ I meant in the scripts
article. She has to be reasonably certain that, “Okay, I think this guy
wants to hook up with me,” or, “I think he wants to really date me.”
The reason you want her to figure this out is because you want her to
start imagining it. If before she was only in single-and-carefree mode,
and you want her to be your girlfriend, she needs to think about becoming your girlfriend first.
This article is going to be about that. Or at least, some of that.
Therefore, this one won’t be ideal for beginners... Since we’ll be
talking about running, essentially, two kinds of game at the same time:
One part sexy, bad boy hook up guy
But also one part mysterious, inscrutable, romantic guy
You do not tell her you want her as more than
a fling, or even imply it with words. You want her to read between the lines with you.
You usually won’t tell her you want to hook up with her, either (unless
you’re Hector. Or Romanian).
This clarity is all implied... Which means it’s never completely clear.
And the reason you never make it completely clear?
You want her to choose you, and feel the choice is her choice.
Pacing and leading is
a potent neurolinguistic programming (NLP) technique used to first
match someone’s state, then lead her. It’s extremely useful in dating
and seduction.
Ok, so I decided to get into more practical stuff. During the summer
I tend to go out so much more, which motivates me to write about more
practical stuff.
Before I jump into it, a caveat: this
post will be most useful for advanced
players.
Sure, as a beginner, there will be a few things in this post
that you will enjoy. That being said, this is not what a novice should
focus on at first – there are fundamentals that are more key
to focus
on.
However, if you are an intermediate or even an advanced player, you
should absolutely pay attention.
Today’s topic is pacing and leading,
a very powerful technique that
will allow you to drag people into your reality with little to no
resistance. Pacing and leading is a neuro-linguistic programming
(NLP)
technique that will help increase your chances of dragging people
comfortably into your reality. Most people are not comfortable being
led into a different world, and hence put up their defense mechanism.
Pacing and leading allows you to hook them in, lower their guards, and
smoothly drag them into you world.
This sounds probably super fancy to you who are new to the concept –
and one can make very complicated posts related to this subject. I tend
to see many books (many bad books) covering NLP and related subjects
that are filled with mental masturbation and over-complications. I will
therefore make an understandable, straight-to-the-point post – and you
will see... it is not rocket science after all.
So here is how we will do it in this post. I will:
It’s frustrating if
your results from day game aren’t what they used to be. To solve the
riddle of what’s happened, first you need to know what’s changed.
Hello everyone, it’s been a while. Have you ever felt frustrated
because you were not getting any results at all from day game?
Or even
worse (paradoxically), because you were so successful in recent
weeks/months but are now not getting the same results, you feel like
you’re crashing?
Well, I guess that happens to everyone, and it’s an annoying feeling
for sure, but don’t panic. Let’s dive in a little bit and see what we
can do.
I will divide this article into two parts:
What to do if you’ve never been able to make day game work for
you
What to do if your day game results peak, then start to fall off
or decline
I’ll will cover Part 1 with just a few lines, since there
is enough material for beginners on this website already to keep you
busy reading for a few weeks. But I will dive deeper into Part 2, which
reflects what I’ve been through in the past months and is directed more
specifically to intermediate/advanced day game practitioners.
Mustaches are back in
styles. But what mustache style looks best? In this article, we review
8 of the sexiest mustache styles men rock.
Mustaches used to be the epitome of a tasteless image.
Men with mustaches were considered cheap, vulgar, and sometimes
lewd. But with the renaissance of interest in facial hair, mustaches
are once again coming to be seen a mark of the refined,
sophisticated, and polished man.
But be careful, because simply
allowing a tuft of hair to grow
somewhere on the upper lip will not do the trick. A good looking
mustache that will be a hit with women requires dedication and
commitment to grooming, styling, and
maintenance. You will also want to
do your homework on which style of mustache goes well with your facial
type and your overall demeanor.
In this article, we will look at some biological and evolutionary
reasons that women might find the mustache to be desirable, why the
mustache is once again flourishing in modern day society, and the eight
(8) mustache styles that can best help you score.
Gold diggers can be a
problem, especially if you’re richer than the girls you’re meeting.
However, there are two (2) ways to reliably screen them out.
In my discussion of the belief some guys hold that “women
are evil”, a reader named SBM asks:
“The
question is though, how do you screen for gold-diggers? How can you
find out whether or not a girl you’re taking out on a date is in fact a
gold-digger?”
It’s a good question!
I, for one, love girls who are sexy, fashionable, and confident.
These are tempting qualities for me in any girl. However, one of the
drawbacks of qualities like this is that they’re often – perhaps even most often – found in gold diggers.
And while I’m not wealthy enough to attract top-flight gold diggers
looking for a payout all of the time, I dress well enough that I get
approached by them sometimes in the U.S. (particularly in Las Vegas,
that seedy den of predatory gold digging paradise). And I run into them
in Eastern Europe and Asia.
Some guys like gold diggers, or are comfortable with the exchange
gold diggers want. If you’re such a guy, who thinks it’s perfectly
reasonable for a girl to trade her looks for your resources and
financial security, this article won’t be of much interest to you. Or
maybe it will be, as a kind of reverse technique. Just do the opposite
of it and you’ll attract the gold diggers and repel the girls who don’t
believe in this trade.
However, if you’re like me, and you dislike the foundation gold
digging rests upon, then read on, and let’s talk how to screen these
girls out.
You’ve hit a plateau
and just can’t get results with girls. When this happens, it’s down to
at least 1 of the 7 common dating mistakes.
In my article on overcoming loser mentality, a reader named
Sub-Zero comments:
“I
didn’t mean to confuse you with my comments about not approaching and
everything, but I do approach and have practiced stuff from your site.
what I mean about not approaching is mostly day time and night
street game.
I just haven’t gone up to girls during the day time and approached
them or tried to pick them up.
I do mostly grind on girls at the club, and I talk to them as
well, but the grinding part is mostly my approach, I sometimes go into
convo and get numbers.
I have used techniques from this site, and have gotten lays from
it.
it’s just hard for me to put myself out there to potentially get
rejected and wasting my time. I always have felt like think that since
I was young.
that is how I feel, but I know I can’t feel like that.
I have been here for years and I should be better than where I am
at, I have gotten numbers, deep dived, but i haven’t gotten many dates
even though I’ve been here for years.
maybe you see something I don’t.
I didn’t realize I have been on my head so much until you pointed
it out.
I do approach, but I don’t really count them because it’s not like
day game approach, I feel like that is really cold approaching.”
Sub-Zero’s commented multiple times in the past that what he wants
is to have lots of success with women, and in particular he wants to
have lots of success with women 10 years his junior.
These things are, of course, achievable.
The problem is that how he goes about achieving these objectives
(and how many guys do) is flawed. He makes a number of very key dating mistakes.
I’ve seen time and again guys frustrated with their results making
one or more of these same dating mistakes. The mistakes all center
around the same error: the guy gets too caught up on doing certain
little things, and misses the big picture.
So, to shake you out of any of these mistakes you
may be making, today I want to shine a light on the seven (7) biggest
dating mistakes men make... And what you need to do to overcome them.
We’ve had a few folks ask for this for a while, so what we’ve
finally decided to do is take collections of Girls Chase articles on
related subjects and bind them into books available in ePub and
paperback format via Amazon.
Ever feel bad because
random girls don’t like you? This is the “I have to get every girl
insecurity” – and it can lose you dates and lays.
Not so long ago, I was out with a girlfriend. I’d just left a café I
was working at to meet her, waiting outside. When I got
there, I greeted her, and then she pointed me to a girl next to her I
hadn’t met before. “This is my friend,” she said.
I glanced at the friend, and she glanced at me, and I saw a
half-second automatic expression of displeasure flash across
her face, before she forced a smile and said hi. I said hello. And I
laughed to myself.
The friend wasn’t particularly attractive (she wasn’t ugly; just
ordinary). The reaction could’ve been because she didn’t like my look /
something about me, or
it could’ve been because I accidentally (instinctively) checked her out quickly upon
turning toward her (and she didn’t like my look / something about me).
I can’t really help it, it’s just an automatic
thing, and it excites girls who like me but turns off the ones who
don’t.
Either way, once I excused myself to use the toilet, but before I
returned, I thought about this interaction, and realized that while
this did not bother me now, four or five
years ago I’d have taken it personal and felt hurt. And I thought back
and realized I’ve seen plenty of this (girl flashes me a look of
distaste; I find it amusing), and it hasn’t bothered me in a good long
while.
A girl was rejecting me –
right? That’s a negative judgment.
