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What's the Best Way to Pick Up Girls? Get the Ones Looking for You

best way to pick up girlsWhat's the best way to pick up girls? You might be surprised by what can influence a woman's receptiveness... even something like being on birth control or not.

A fascinating study, "Relationship satisfaction and outcome in women who meet their partner while using oral contraception," was several days ago published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B. Researchers from the UK decided to look at the differences in women who began dating men while on birth control, and those who started dating men when they weren't on birth control.

What they found was this:

Women who used OC scored lower on measures of sexual satisfaction and partner attraction, experienced increasing sexual dissatisfaction during the relationship, and were more likely to be the one to initiate an eventual separation if it occurred. However, the same women were more satisfied with their partner's paternal provision, and thus had longer relationships and were less likely to separate.

In other words, using birth control (or oral contraception -- "OC") leads to women ending up with men they're less attracted to, are sexually dissatisfied with, increasingly become more sexually dissatisfied with as the relationship progresses, and the women more often are the ones to call the relationship off eventually. On the plus side, the men women on birth control end up with usually make better husbands and fathers, and their relationships lasted an average of two years longer.

The flip side of this is that women off birth control choose to mate and date with sexy men -- men they find more attractive, who give them better sex, and who they're less likely to initiate a breakup with -- but the breakups still happened, on average two years earlier than the men women met while on contraception. And it's more often the men doing the breaking up -- likely because these are more attractive men with more options with women who don't like staying tied down too long.

The reason for these huge differences in dating preferences -- why women on the pill are ending up with nice guys they're unsatisfied with but who make good dads, and why women off the pill end up with sexy guys they're excited by but who break up with them -- comes down to what the pill does chemically to women's brains -- and that works out to be some interesting stuff. Read on if you dare...

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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Sean D's picture

Anybody who is interested in this kind of stuff should read the book Sperm Wars. Absolutely 100% recommended, insane stuff that is backed by scientific proof.

Mr.Benjamin's picture


I've read every post of yours starting from current to the
beginning...and it's interesting to see how you evolved.

You are man of integrity...and by far...

and I'm not exaggerating when I tell you this...

you've single-handedly changed my game...

It's simple. Straight-forward. To the point...none of that
other complicated stuff I've learned from others...

You make it FUN going out implementing your teachings.

...and you've helped me understand women on a level I've
never thought of nor would have figured out on my own
UNLESS I've repeated a lot of the mistakes you made in
the beginning...thankfully MUCH (not all) I've successfully

For example...

the article on "Least Effort" was priceless...I used to take
women out on bowling dates, PAY for them (even if they
offered to pay), and supplicate without even knowing it.

...instead of keeping it to inviting them over to my place
or going out for a cup of coffee.

Seriously...I've made a blueprint around your teachings
and it WORKS!...

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Daryn's picture

Geez, that is depressing/scary. Not just for Nice Guys but even for the Alpha types as well - basically given equal choice a woman will seek out an Alpha for sex when ovulating in an attempt to get pregnant by his seed. They are trying to trap the Alpha and get pregnant. Chilling and definitely makes you almost want to double down on the condoms haha

So women try to have the "bad boys" kid then sucker some "nice guy" sap into caring for it? Bad boys remember the birth control and you nice guys remember your prenups. I must admit, combined with Sperm Wars I have come to have a hard time seriously caring or trusting any woman in my life. Playing with them is one thing but science is really seeming to point to women as being pure, conniving evil.

You ever stop to think that maybe misogyny is natural and a way to keep families coherent so that women don't run around destroying kids lives and squirting out a bunch of fatherless whelps? Sometimes science is really creepy. Still, creepy as it is, you can't deny facts. Good job linking this to a teaching, by the way. Can't believe we have to teach men to be men these days - also can't help but notice that started when the misogyny ended too.

Boudro's picture

The guy above makes an interesting (albeit bitter and angry) point. In the book Sex at Dawn they explain why sexuality has evolved the way it has, and it's true, women have evolved to commit to one safe, provider type man while getting impregnated by dominant, macho types, and they don't have to be the same guy. It's called the mixed mating strategy.

But the other side of the coin is: Men have evolved to commit to one motherly type woman while spreading their seed far and wide having sex with as many other women as possible.

So who's worse? The golddigging whore women or the lying cheating men?

Or does society just have unrealistic expectations of what men and women should be attracted to?

We're only human...

Niji's picture

You seem to be considerig the most natural and correct state of human (and a living organsism/gestalt) being as 'oure conniving evil.' It's as if your definitions of good and evil (or more correctly 'good and bad' if we are going biblical terminology here; evil is a false definition word excluded from those books) are really perverted, this seems to point to having life experiences that have made you bitter, and having a deluded idea of what reality is warping your perception of the way things are. This might be the result of those 'nice guy' movies and stories (which actually involve doing very much these overtly 'evil' thigs the girl and he bad biy were doing, in order to 'win the girl' which is instantly the problem).

I would recommend reassessing reality, as it actually is and throwing out these ideas of 'evil' and 'good' that seem corrupted and filled with a lack of understanding of nature or even basic reality.

Idealism is pretty dangerous, just look at what your ideas and viewpoints is causing you to feel: that an entire category of humans (all females) is innately 'evil.' Despite the fact that they were made or evolved to be exactly that way, with apparently heavy intention. This means your view of what is 'evil' is directly in conflict and polarize with what nature or reality has deemed 'good and right' or 'the way of things' meaning that you are WRONG and in conflict with yourself over this as well.

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