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Tactics Tuesdays: How to Approach Girls Who are Eating Alone

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How to approach a girl eating alone – you must disarm her concerns of awkwardness first. Then you turn the tables.

This one’s a bit niche. But hey, I just covered a very broad topic (in great detail!) yesterday in my how to get a girlfriend article. So I think I can tackle a specific one here.

On our discussion boards, forum member CuriosityKillsTheCat asks:

I’ve approached girls eating many times. It was difficult. Most of the time she had to stop and talked with me. Also I hadn’t find a way to move her to another place. Phone numbers were 100% flake.

Do you guys approach girls eating? My school’s cafeteria has many girls sitting alone eating there. I might miss out big opportunities.

(here’s his forum thread on this)

It seems like a simple one to solve: she’s by herself, just go talk to her. Right?

Except it’s a little more complicated than that. Try it out, and you’ll find it’s often a bit awkward and a little intrusive to approach a girl who’s seated alone, eating her meal. You can make her feel trapped, and if there are ample places to sit, you look like you’re chasing her if you go all the way over to her. There are plenty of snares here for you to fall into.

Is there a way to consistently approach girls alone in large cafeterias (or elsewhere), and have it go well?

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his Mastery Package.


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christiano vegas's picture

Happy new year to all of you. 2017 is going to be great, very good feeling about it.
At the moment I'm very experimental and try a lot of stuff, mainly from this site.
One of the best places are coffee shops. I usually do it direct. But because it's a small town and there are not that many coffee shops. So maybe there are some different ways to approach? Just a bit more under the radar.
Thanks and keep the articles coming.

Andreas's picture

great stuff, very well written. good technique tips!

Dominik's picture

Hey Chase,

firtst of all thank you for that great arcticle.
Due to hte fact that I eat a lot at fast food restaurants it will certainly help me.
But there is another situation I encounter often.
Its when I order or buy something and I really like the girl, who is working at the restaurant or store.
But I dont know how to approach such a girl.
I mean, she has work to do so I dont want to disturb her and oftentimes there are many clients.
How do you handle such situations?
Would be great if you could make an article about this.
I see that Im missing a lot of opporunities.

Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

Thanks for another approach article.
In your main how to approach anywhere article, you mentioned about not making eye contact, then moving close to them, then casually pre-open and then etc.

What say they caught your eye, as they give you the look or AI or what have you...
By then, you and her know each other's presence.
If I then walked up close to her, according to the steps in the main article, it feels creepy.

But does that mean we have to stick to the confident approach and walk straight up?
However, in your main approach article, you noted how risky this is as the guy is expected to carry that same confident vibe throughout from his beeline directness.

What would you do in this situation?

Re: Different "style of game"
I remember you mentioned about certain styles work with certain types and age of girls.
Such as playful asshole style for "18-24"

Do you have a list?
Maybe some on girls' lifestyle types or even race.
And finally how to build these styles ready to go in our arsenal when necessary?

I've been having trouble with playful asshole style. Not much of a talkative type and run out material haha

p.s. your email notification system is back online now :) It started not work a year ago. Glad it's fixed!


WT's picture

Hey Chase,

I appreciate your answer to my comment on learning about girls in the female sexuality article

I've already started working on getting out of the I'm special mentality, switching to thinking that "I'm just a guy/She's just a girl, we're all just guys/girls/people..." but I think some more experience should help me out there.

You also mentioned how some girls told you about a story of how a guy got them in some way you'd never expect, can you share some w/ me? that piqued my curiousity & I don't have much experience but I'm interested haha.

Speaking of that topic too, in that article you mentioned the thing of how some of the beautiful girls had some ugly lovers in the past, and I've noticed this trend sort of before.

Often I'll see normal attractive girls w/ guys who I'd think would fit them on a first impression scale but then there are these (relatively often in my experience) times when I see some girls who are prettier than those girls before & they're with these guys who have poor fundamentals, looks or things I can see on first sight.

One time I saw this beautiful 5'6" blonde girl w/ a great body, Sports Illustrated college cheerleader of the week & she was holding hands w/ this guy who was overweight, had poor grooming & poor posture, pretty much an overall poor 1st-impression kind-of-guy (tho I didn't know him other than what I saw of him). I also kind of knew of this girl from a distance in school and the previous guy she was with wasn't much in these departments either. Seriously how do these things happen lol?

That example was the most extreme I've seen but i've seen similar occurences, how do these things happen? What do these girls think in making their choice & how they feel? Overall, i'm baffled.

Also I was reading your how to get a girlfriend in 2 weeks article (good article man) & I was wondering why you didn't mention bonding-deep diving for the date part? I got the impression in learning from Girls Chase that connecting was a staple with girls?

Maybe it's the girls I see but getting to know them deeper on dates has worked out well for me but also my experience isn't much, so maybe a small sample size so far.

Thanks Chase - WT

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