Whose dating life is harder, men’s or women’s? The answer is nuanced… because there are different groups within both sexes.
1. Men & Women Want Different Things
2. Do Men Have It Harder Than Women?
3. Men are the Best and the Worst
4. What You Go for in Cities Differs
Several weeks back, I wrote “Urbanization, Romantic Anonymity, and the Birth of Game.” This piece of writing was about how ‘game’ (conversational and logistical aptitude aimed at meeting, bedding, and dating women) is an organic outgrowth of complex, fast-paced urban societies.
The reason we fingered for the emergence of game was that urban societies present new opportunities for men (i.e., the ability to have sexual intercourse with lots of women), yet also new challenges (i.e., women are much more experienced with men, have many more options, and cut a lot less slack).
One of the things I mentioned in this article was that while men have it harder in urban environments, fear not – women have it harder too. Yet several commenters wanted to clarify: women may have it harder, but men have it far harder still.
Well, do men have it harder?
The answer is yes. And no.
I’m going to both agree and disagree with this “men have it harder”
sentiment today. Don’t worry, if you’re currently feeling like it is
far harder for you than it is for many women, I won’t be telling you
you’re wrong. But I am going
to show you why it is this way for you... but not for every guy in the
city. Some guys have it the opposite way (i.e., it’s easier for them
than it is for women).
We’re going to focus on three (3) elements of urban dating that make things harder or easier for various groups of men, as these men’s dating success compares with women’s. Those three elements are:
- That men and women want different
- That men occupy the extremes
- And that what men go for in cities vs. what they go for elsewhere are different
In the end, I expect you will have a far more nuanced view of dating and mating in large urban environments, the plusses and minuses therein, and who you have to be to become one of the men who has it easier than girls do, instead of being stuck being one of the men who has it harder than girls do.
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