I had a chat the other day with a friend who'd caught his long-time girlfriend in a big lie.
She had promised him before she would not lie to him about the thing.
Well, she did lie.
And my friend wasn't sure how to deal with it.
He's an easygoing guy. And his natural inclination was to be understanding, and not make it a huge deal.
Even though it was, in essence, a pretty important deal.
On the other hand, he also realized if he let his girlfriend's lie slide, it'd be the wrong call... and he'd only be kicking the can down the road to deal with later (possibly in a worse way).
When we talked, he'd made his mind up to angrily confront her. He'd confront her, summon up some fiery anger, tell her caught her lying, and put the fear of God in her. That was the plan. She had to feel she'd done wrong.
He knew he had to enforce some kind of stricture here, or else his girlfriend would run wild.
And yet... he felt the plan was off.
He just didn't know what else to do.