Stillness

When I was in high school, I focused really hard on being very still and moving slowly. I thought it made me seem more dominant and powerful, so I put a lot of energy into mastering it.

Nowadays, paying more attention when I'm out and hanging with girls, I'm realizing this is a big thing, nonverbally. Women are very attuned to how still you are. Being still radiates power.

One of the ways I've come to understand this better is through taking a camera acting class. You can see it with someone who keeps moving -- legs, arms, body, head, whatever -- vs. someone who is still. Someone who keeps moving puts his energy out through his body. Someone who is still keeps that energy inside of him and just radiates it out of him.

This is one of the big things the entertainer guys are missing. They're moving around so much, spending so much energy, so busy being all over the place, that they never take the time to relax, direct their energy upon one person, really pull that person into their world, their vibe, their reality, and just be still.

Stillness, I think, is a big part of "charisma" or "magnetism" or whatever you call it. It makes someone seem imposing, confident, in-control, and unreactive. Other people are moving around all about him, and there he is, relaxed, unharried, and comfortable in his own space.

Chase