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Game-Life Balance

Chase Amante

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How do you balance game (as in, the art of getting together with women) – and the pursuit of getting better and better at game – with the rest of your life?

On a recent article of mine, Sub-Zero comments to ask about what we might call 'game-life balance':

Hey Chase,

1. I was wondering with going out 3-4 times a week, how do we handle that if we work 9-5?

should we go to the club early and leave at like 1, instead of staying until close around 3ish during weekdays?

then you got to think, what if you take girls home? then who knows how long you'll be out and you'll have work in the morning.

how did you pull it off?

Chase AmanteAbout the Author: Chase Amante

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.



SZ's picture

Great Great article Chase, thanks!!

I'm surprised you didn't mention how much time you put into girlschase during your times with going out a lot :)

Quick questions:

1. "various dicey situations you get into when you're meeting women via cold approach" are you talking about cold approach in general? like day game? or did you just mean night game? what were the situations and how do you avoid them?

2. What about day game? how much did you and should we focus on that? Is it even possible to get as good with just day game compared to night?

3. Do you think doing more day game instead of night wild bring more balance? like say you do day game after work instead of going to the club? I'm thinking that it wouldn't work because of the volume, but I'd like to know your thoughts.

I also remember you saying that you should have done day game more than night starting out, so what would have been your schedule if you did day game instead?

4. How did seduction consume you so much that it got in the way of many things for you? how did it end up getting in the way of everything and how did it become such an obsession for you?
even to the point that you weren't doing that we'll at work and had to deal with so many things because of it?

5. I didn't find out recently how much work there was to put in with this. I always thought this was something you just do when you can and you get good enough at some point where you just get more lays. like something recreational, well that was a big misconception lol.

so I was wondering how you can breakdown how learning seduction and sleeping with many women to be a good obsession to have at all.

I remember a few things I've read from you here like how getting notches is good, but doesn't really help you in other things with life, and also how men pretty much have no choice but to get good in seduction now even if we just want one woman because it's not like how it was back in the days.

I agree with both points, but I guess what I'm asking for is a good reason for me to put my time into this and not feel bad or like I'm living a second childhood because I want a lot of lays.

I really do want a lot of lays, I love women and they are in my mind obsessively, it's just recently that I understand that you must go out obsessively as well.

also there are self improvement men who want men to forget about women all together and just focus on themselves. they say it in a mgtow way, and to avoid women because of the drama stuff they do. but living like that you'll never get good with girls. the way it sounds is like they are telling men to build their nest and let women come, which from reading this site isn't the best way to get better with women.

so what I'm asking is how can having an obsession with getting better with women and sleeping with a lot of them be a healthy obsession instead of it seeming like you're wasting time doing it instead of building your nest?

I can't stop thinking about it, now I want to get better and better, but I don't want to get to the point and then I'm like "is that it?"

hope I'm making sense, but the gist is how can an obsession with going out a lot and sleeping with a lot of women be justified in a good productive way.

Thanks for everything Chase!!

Makii's picture

When you talked of admirals and the navy, it almost sounded as though you used to work for the DOD. That's the sort of setting in the western movies and series where the scenarios you described tend to occur.

Anyway a few queries;
(1) How do you go about building your knowledge base because it seems to me like sometimes you tend to pay attention to even the most trivial things on the internet like the links to how a black guy almost infected 22 women in Europe, the Nazi investigator, the professor who was scammed, New Zealand's deception a bunch of other reddit links to various issues.

I know you're a busy guy. But how are you able to have such a huge knowledge base at such a young age? Do you approach it this way?
(a) Read 3 books per week
(b) Read 20 articles from the internet daily
(c) Watch 4 documentaries weekly

I'm really curious about your knowledge gathering process....

(2)I've been researching on gratitude and all the experiments out there indicate that it is great for regulating one's emotions as well as keeping a person Healthy. Only problem is I can't seem to keep at it consistently. Do you have any process for making gratitude second nature?


Lawliet's picture

Hey Chase,

Your balance article made me think of conspicuous consumption. When we balance well, we succeed and naturally will do well.

Well, our fundamentals, aka style, clothes, fancy hairstyle and care., they all spell "money"

Now I know you wrote an article on gold diggers and another one on "How an enamored girl looks like".

But attraction can be for many reasons. Money is an obvious example and they tell this from our fundamentals.

Two questions:

1. Fundamentals and giving women the impression you have money. This might be an issue since we are "lover" not provider. How do we address this? Fancy jacket, stylish haircut, nice boots, watch, tailored BP shirt etc.

2. So women can see you, and feel attracted for numerous reasons. Money is only one thing. We can't read their minds and signs of "enamored" can exist even if it's not for the reasons you think they are ("she wants your dick")

So instead of "exclusion" tests (test to see if she's NOT gold digger or X or Y), is there a confirmation test to see if she has fallen for you physically / emotionally?


Reactions alone might not tell this (ex. she feels like she's losing (your sex / your money / friend / opportunity / etc. etc.) and she chases, complies to everything you ask. The chasing part is emotional for all scenarios ("I'm losing something" I must get it), heck, she could be acting (ex. fake orgasm), but we can't tell if it's lusting after your dick or something else.... unless there's a test to see 

And a test for both pre-intimacy (you meet her and she catches you in a 3000$ Boss coat) and post-intimacy?


Thoughts on this?


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