This is my favorite video I’ve put out. It’s so beautifully empowering
and inspirational if you can make it through. The journey of seduction
and learning about women is, at its core, a journey of understanding
what you can and cannot get from women. When you learn that romantic
love, the everlasting kind that is perpetuated by not only our media
and culture, but by our intrinsic desire to find lasting pleasure and
lasting peace, is not real, your world will change.
Some might argue that romantic love is a new idea, and in some ways
this is correct; most cultures up until a few hundred years ago saw sex
and marriage as a transaction that kept resources flowing and
bloodlines intact, but the game we play in public is very different
from the game we play in our hearts and in our heads.
We have ALWAYS sought true love.
We are driven to find permanence, and the biggest trick we ever played
on ourselves was convincing ourselves that we could find it in a
Not only is this a lie, it will SEVERELY hinder your romantic
capabilities, both in casual and long-term relationships. You will be
perpetually disappointed that a seduction or a relationship did not
remain filled with bubbles and joy.
Watch the video and find out why true love is an illusion and why you
should let it go.
could you possible do an article discussing whether men are disposable
due to online services like Tinder & Co.? I mean when a man doesn’t
put out a good performance on date, a woman can just say “next!” and go
on Tinder for more endless matches. I currently feel that way and I
thought another perspective man bring some fresh air.”
It’s a pertinent question... although not as new of one as apps like
Tinder might suggest.
There are articles all over the Internet about disposable dating
an article that talks about disposable dating in New York and San
a blog post from a woman who talks about ‘recycling’ all the men
she’s dated back into the dating pool. Here’s
a more general one that discusses how to know if you’ve been in a
You could make an argument that some portion of Girls Chase
philosophy treats dating relationships like disposable goods. The
recommendation to replace rather than chase
romantic partners are substitutable goods, and you can ditch one and
get another one. The basis behind the advice in articles like “Can’t Stop Thinking About Her”
and “Just Friends: A Man’s Worst Nightmare”
is this too. I strongly recommend these articles and the perspectives
in them, of course; they are necessary tools for navigating the
romantic terrain in any developed, urbanized society. However, they
reflect upon the nature of
dating in a society like that as well as they teach how to navigate it.
Dating apps (like Tinder, Bumble, and Bagel Meets Coffee) ultimately
the latest iteration of this modern American approach to personal
But is our approach these days truly disposable? Is it so only with
men, or with women too? And if dating has become disposable, how much
dating and social media is the culprit?
Some women want you to feel like you could never have them (yet pine
after them regardless).
Some women want you to court them, seduce them,
and make love to them.
Some women just want you to think they’re
But the one thing all women have in common is they want you to
notice them, look at them, and pay them attention.
As a man, this is important for you to understand. All the women
around you fight for your attention. They do it in different ways. Some
tempt you; some shame you; some scold you; some befriend you; some
agree with you. All seek to have you notice them, listen to them, and
invest your time
and energy into
You must understand you can
control which women receive your attention... and what they must
give you in exchange for
But just because you can
control this, doesn’t mean you will.
Many women are far better at extracting attention from
men without giving things men value in return for it than
men are at getting what they want in return.
Everyone out there is trying to influence you. How susceptible
are you to that influence – and how susceptible are those around you?
I wanted to write a quick post (that turned out not to be so quick)
on resistance and susceptibility to
influence. This article is something of a cousin piece to my piece on grouping and herding in dating
from last week.
The subject of this article - resistance and susceptibility to
influence- goes for you and the people around you. Your friends, your
family, your workmates, your lovers, partners, and dates.
Everyone is susceptible to the influence of other people and forces.
The degree of susceptibility varies from person to person, and
situation to situation. Some people are more easily influenced than
others. Some situations make it easier to influence people than
others. Most people are only marginally aware (at best) of their
If you are susceptible to influence but do not realize it, other
people can step into your mind and make you think things and believe
things you might not really want to think or believe. This can lead you
to taking actions you might previously not have agreed with. Sometimes
this turns out to be beneficial; sometimes not really.
For an example of the beneficial sort, I had a friend in university
who influenced me to
apply for an internship with Nike and pick up a minor in supply chain.
Until this friend, I did not care about getting a job after school, was
doing the minimum necessary to get through school, and disdained the
idea of internships. Yet because of this friend, who'd had an
impressive co-op run building a new supply chain process at Tyco, I
grew excited about getting a
good job and doing better in school. I didn't get the internship, but
came in second in a pool of 200 candidates and got some very valuable
feedback from the interviewer which played a key role in me getting the
job I did get, a year later.
I got more a lot more focused on school and got straight As again the
next semester, for the first time in years. And I got my dream job on
the first try - I zeroed in on them and the job fair and blew their
socks off in my interview. Had that friend not influenced me, none of
that would've happened.
Years later, I was in a startup where one of my business partners
influenced me to open up the purse strings more than I thought was
wise, against my instincts and all the reading I'd done on
startups spending all their money too quick being one of the #1 reasons
they go under. He influenced me to do a number of other things more
in-tune with how he thought we should do things and less in tune with
how I thought we should. We ran out of money and I had to close the
business and lay everyone off. The partner who'd influenced me to spend
more managed to negotiate the rights to the business away from myself
and the other partner (despite having joined the startup much later,
and having taken far more capital out of it than he'd put into it),
then sold those
rights to another group of founders. The business is now a successful
venture-backed business doing everything I originally wanted to do, and
would've had it do... had we not run out of funds so quick.
I don't regret the experience (I enjoy Girls Chase much more as a
I received a lifetime of invaluable lessons in negotiation, predatory
partnerships, and sticking to your guns - plus a
healthy dose of business confidence after I found I'd been right
all along), but the outcome was a direct result of that business
partner influencing me to act in ways contrary to how I'd have acted on
Every human being is susceptible to
the influence of other human beings. There are no exceptions to
this. Locate the strongest, most resolute human being in the world, and
I guarantee you we can find a way to make him crack with enough time,
and the right people, in the right situation.
The question we want to look at today though is how susceptible vs. resistant are you and
those around you?
The way men practice (and teach) seduction can be split into
three (3) distinct camps: the trio of screening, natural, and control
When I first discovered the existence of the pickup community and
had my eyes opened to the objective truth that getting good with women
was a skill – a skill that can be learned, improved upon, and of
course, mastered – I was ecstatic, but I quickly became overwhelmed.
You see, it was quite easy to get overwhelmed, because like every
student of the game who discovers this community, I immediately came
face to face with the overwhelming quantity of dating advice, dogmas,
and methods that had been complied by so many seducers over the years.
And what made things particularly
confusing back then was that a lot
of the advice and manuals on how to get good with girls seemed to be at
odds with material from other sources. It wasn’t uncommon for me
hear a group of seducers swear by one way of doing things (“always use
the 3-second rule and strike up a conversation within three seconds of
laying eyes on a girl”), then I’d
find another group of seducers whose guidebooks sounded like they were
in direct opposition to the ideas of the previous group (“scout your
targets and position yourself well before you start a conversation”).
Luckily, as I spent more time in the community trying out different
forms of advice, improving my own skills with women, as well as having
enlightening conversations with several different seducers and
partaking in a number of seduction road trips where I’d journey out of
town to meet up with other seducers so I could observe and seduce women
side by side with them, I was able to learn a thing or two.
One of the things I learned – the topic of today’s article – was
that each and every one of the guides (or seduction manuals, if you
will) can be grouped into 3 classes. Meaning that when you hear one
seducer advise one thing, and another seducer advise something
completely different, it does not necessarily mean that one is right
and the other is wrong.
Instead, it most likely means that two groups of seducers who seem
to be in disagreement with each other are in fact following separate
seduction manuals – each of which are legit.
As you’ll find out later in this article, certain classes do have
conflicting ideas concerning the best way to seduce women. However,
this knowledge of the 3 classes really helps to clear up a lot of the
confusion that might arise when everyone seems to be contradicting each
other. It’s not a matter of which seducer is right or wrong, especially
if both seducers are having success with women; rather, it’s which
class each seducer is operating under.
What’s more is... once you are aware of these 3 rough categories,
you can weigh their pros and cons, the goals of seducers whose methods
fall under each category, and what your dating life could look like
should you decide to follow the path outlined by each class – allowing
you to move forward on your journey as a seducer with a lot more
Yet man is a herd animal. Cram him into a wall-to-wall,
shoulder-to-shoulder crowded concert or train station, then spook the
herd, and you kick off a stampede. People may die, crush others, or
trample, as throngs of panicked individuals, each catching the sense
of panic from the next, surge over and against each other for the
exits. In the aftermath of some deadly stampedes, investigators
can find no emergency and cannot even figure out what caused the panic.
Show a man a market craze that everyone is getting in on and watch
lose his mind. In China, peer-to-peer lending has exploded as the
economy has declined, even though defaults on these loans are sky high
and the prospect of getting a return is dim. A few months earlier in
the West, a Bitcoin craze thundered across the market. It was
unrelated to any improvement in the usability or acceptance of Bitcoin
as a currency – in fact, over the past several years, Bitcoin has only
grown worse as a currency.
100% of Bitcoin’s increased valuation
was due to market speculators buying up Bitcoin to cash in on the
Yet during Bitcoin fever, everyone was an optimist, telling friends,
family members, and coworkers to “buy, buy, buy!” Today, five months
after the crush began, the price of
Bitcoin has come very close to where it was before the stampede ever
in the process, thousands of people made fortunes, and thousands of
others lost them (I personally know a few folks on both sides). Every
bit of those gains and losses came at the expense or benefit of someone
else gambling the other way.
(side note: fun dub of a Russian music video a friend of mine who
was heavily invested in Bitcoin shared with me during the peak of the
These, of course, are extreme scenarios.
And much of the time, even for people aware of human herd mentality,
the concept gets peacefully tucked away into a kind of “only in
awareness. Only in extreme situations, we tell ourselves, do humans
behave in mindless, herd-like
ways. The rest of the time, we are those unique, separate, totally
consciously in-control individuals
we tell ourselves we truly are.
However, this isn’t how it works at all. Man, as a social animal, is
every bit as groupish as ants, horses, biofilms, and wildebeest. More
to the point for our purposes, if you want
to peel a woman out of her group, or get her to do what you
wish in public, an understanding of how grouping and herding works in
the people you’d like to influence is key.
Tectonic plates of social mores are rubbing together and creating
earthquakes. The ensuing chaos can be seen all around the world,
especially in the U.S.
On one side, we can break it down most simply by Liberalism vs.
Conservatism. These are the eternal spectrums of any society. Right
now, Liberalism is concerning itself with identity politics and
claiming to align itself with two ethical principles – tolerance and
compassion. These ethical principles naturally create support for
causes like climate change activism, racial and sexual equality, and
wide-open immigration policies. Whether this is wrong or right is not
the focus of this article. I’m simply pointing out what is happening.
Conservatism is currently concerned with nationalist politics and
aligning itself with two ethical principles – tradition and
independence. The focus on tradition creates a “the law is right, no
matter how you feel” framework, which then leads to a direct conflict
with policies like open immigration. Independence-focused politics
creates conflict with macro ideas like the EU, NAFTA, and the Paris
Climate Agreement. With the victory of Donald Trump, an aftershock is
now sweeping countries like Hungary and Poland (who were already quite
conservative) and pushing their conservatism farther to the right.
Society is now swinging to the right, toward more conservative
values. In fact, it has been for a long time. Liberalism has hit its
peak and may decline soon, as its surge from the 1960s has begun to
lose its momentum.
This is most evident in the arena of sexuality, which I believe
(through observation) to be the control point of the rest of society.
Everything seems to revolve around sex (at least that’s how I connect
And since society seems to be swinging to the right politically,
that means some big changes are going to affect our attitude toward
sexuality, which has both its pros and cons.
Not every transsexual wants you to know all the details. To not
get catfished, you need to know how to spot a transsexual – and steer
clear of traps.
I just saw the David Cronenberg movie M. Butterfly, about a dude who
seduces another dude who doesn’t know he’s a dude, and carries on an
affair with him for 20 years and even convinces him they had a child
together. All based on a true story (you can read about it on
Wikipedia). What a weird movie that was (I’ve always loved both main
actors, too – Jeremy Irons and John Lone. Terrific talents. Though this
sure was a strange flick). Anyway, got me thinking about this topic.
A while back, I was out with a group of people in a new city. Our
group consisted of five guys and four girls. Three of the girls were
friends, but one was a little separate from the rest of the group. And
this one... something about her triggered my “there’s something weird
She was dressed in a sexy teal dress, and went around flirting with
all the boys. She had an eye for me in particular. But to
me, she looked like the women I’d seen in a cougar club in Del Mar;
skin too-tight on the face (obvious sign of a face lift), lips full in
an unnatural way (Botox?), dressed too flashy for an average girl. “She
must be an older woman hunting for younger guys,” I thought.
At one point though, the guy I knew there leaned in and told me “She
used to be a guy.”
Light bulbs went off. Ah... that’s
what I was picking up on.
“Her last boyfriend didn’t find out until they’d been sleeping
together for a month,” he said.
“Interesting,” I said. “How’d he react to that?”
“He was pretty upset,” my friend said.
This article is about how to not end up like that duped
boyfriend, or some of the other men I’ve had transsexuals
tell me about from their romantic histories (one, showing me a picture
of a boyfriend, about said boyfriend: “He got used to it”). It’s about how to spot a transsexual – because
not every transsexual wants you to know the truth.
Intelligent men have issues getting
pussy. More specifically, by "intelligent men," I mean nerdy.
They use big words, spend lots of time reading, aren’t good with
people, and value their intelligence above everything else. That sort
How I used to be.
These men inevitably discover that it’s the moderately intelligent
or even straight-up stupid men who get the most poonani.
As a woman ages, her tastes in men change. What does an under-21
girl prefer that women 32+ do not? Read on and find out.
As a man, your taste in women may or may not have changed as you’ve
aged. I know a few guys whose tastes have changed over the years.
Though I know many more guys whose tastes haven’t. I can tell you the
only difference between the women I’m drawn to now and those I was
drawn to 10 years ago is the girls I’m drawn to now are usually cuter.
That is more simply a factor of having more choice with women now than
I had when I was young, overweight, and romantically unskilled.
Women’s tastes in men, on the other hand, go
through some major evolutions as they age. From between a girl’s
late teens to her mid-30s, she shifts her tastes often dramatically.
Talk to most single women in their 30s about younger women and
you’ll hear such women pan younger women’s standards in men. “Young
women have the worst taste in men,” they’ll tell you. “The guys they go
for are assholes with attitude. They have no taste.”
Male pundits normally regard this as a way for an older woman to
herself look more valuable in the dating market (i.e., she is more
‘refined’ than ignorant younger women) in order to make up for some of
the lost value of her faded youth. And this “younger women are silly
and foolish” frame does help older women do that. But there is a deeper
so many single women in their 30s feel this way about those younger
versions of themselves on the dating scene.
Before we talk about that though, we’ll talk about the different
sorts of men women at different ages are most drawn toward. As always, game
play a huge role here – the better yours are, the less you need to
worry about fitting a certain template, and the better you’ll do even
within that template.
Note that the age ranges we’ll discuss below are generalities. Some
women may be more or less ‘mature’ than their ages (we’ll talk about
that a bit below too). But in general, for the majority of women, you
should find these age ranges fairly accurate.