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Fundamentals

The basic building blocks of being attractive and getting results with women that every aspiring ladies' man should get down cold.

Mistakes that Make Women Screen Men Out as Sex Partners

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A woman’s decision to sleep with you is largely based on whether you give her a reason to screen you out. The solution? Stop making mistakes that get you screened out.

Men and women differ significantly in their mating strategies with how each screens the opposite sex. Men are direction oriented and look for women with the sexual qualities that they want in a woman. They have a knack for going after certain looks, features, or personality traits in a woman. Men screen for women who fit the bill.

A woman, on the other hand, operates quite differently and from the opposite angle. She looks for attractive men and evaluates if she should keep moving forward with a guy based on his behavior and presentation. Then she evaluates whether or not she wants that. So she’ll give him a chance until she is forced to screen him out. It’s usually a result of a mistake a guy makes that conflicts with her social frame, sexual desires, failure to interest her, or her biology.

The reason for this is because men primarily seek sex and women primarily seek relationships. Yet women live in a land of sexual abundance where they’ll always have men looking to have sex with them if they’re remotely attractive, but women find it tough to lock men into relationships because they can’t find one who is good enough and down for a relationship! This difference in nature is perplexing to a lot of men. I see this happen all the time. A guy sees progress with a woman and gets super excited about her and how far they’ve come along until she suddenly disappears, and the guy is left clueless wondering what happened.

Because of radically different mating agendas, men screen for women to add to their lives, but an attractive woman lives in sexual abundance and has many different men chasing after her, so she is forced to screen men out. Men’s sexual agenda is to mate with as many of the best girls as possible, whereas a woman’s goal is to find the best one and win him over for herself.

In the mating game, men screen women in, and women screen men out. And when guys make mistakes in the seduction, or they miss good opportunities, she no longer sees him as a contender for the best man, and he loses his shot.

6 Key Areas to Improve Your Success with Women

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Lots of factors can thwart your chances with women. These particular ones have a way of infecting you with long-term dry dick syndrome. And they’re not hard to fix.

Like a pebble that causes an avalanche, the tiniest change in mindset or strategy can create such profoundly powerful results.

You may be struggling with your game, getting stuck in stage-two seduction, or just wondering why things aren’t clicking. Over my years of teaching, I’ve noticed that men have common, universal sticking points, or blind spots, that once isolated, can drastically improve success with women.

In today’s article, I’m going to share six areas where you can improve today.

Overthinking and Seduction Don't Mix

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Attraction requires a flow of action and reaction. It gets disrupted when you overthink. To gain a successful seducer’s mindset, practice acting on a whim.

As men, we are thinkers. When faced with a problem or difficult scenario, we want to take a seat and mull over the possibilities. As a seducer, you want to interrupt that process and adopt another kind of thinking.

There are a few things overthinking men do “wrong” in the eyes of women:

  1. Acting on opportunities too late or delaying sexual behavior to seem chivalrous

  2. Promising things in the future that have no evidence in the present

  3. Desiring the ideal of sex like it can't go wrong and losing sight of reality where it can

We tend to slow down when things get complex, but women start to worry and think faster as things get complicated. To girls, we seem ill-equipped to handle complexity. Girls have no way of measuring the potential success rate when we sit down to think; they assume we are “sitting this one out.” So by that standard, it is not chivalrous to delay sexual behavior; it is often seen as a man “quitting very easily.”

Also, we like to promise the future to women. However, women are intensely connected to their feelings in the "right now," and the future does not affect them emotionally like the present does. A woman will never give up an emotion NOW for an unmeasurable gain later. Neither will she respect a promise without strong evidence, no matter your conviction.

Lastly, if you desire sex, and do not consider all the ways it can blow up and be annoying, girls will just become lazy and entitled about sex. They’ll think of you as far too slow-witted to have a mind of your own about what is desirable. And if they think you don't know what is desirable, they won't strive to be desired by you.

These three concepts are why you need to stop sitting down to think or slowing down to seem thoughtful. Girls do not think like you, they think faster and faster, intensely relying on feelings NOW, and they adhere to a code of absolute desire or apathy.

To think like a seducer, you must become uninhibited in every action you take, adhering to a philosophy they adore. You must flow from task to task, and make the complex seem simple and beautiful. You cannot slow down or get flustered, and you cannot overthink.

Seducing is much like playing a musical instrument. You cannot worry about what others will think of you if you start scrunching your face as you search for the perfect sound. You can't stop halfway through the song to think through the next part. At that exact moment in time, it is sink or swim, and you must act in the way that produces maximum effect. Anything less, and you will not capture people's imagination or stir up their feelings.


Attractive Traits Are Useless If They're Not Perceived

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You can be the coolest guy in the room, but no one will care unless you’re perceived as such. How do you convey attractive traits, and which traits should you focus on?

Today’s post is one that I have wanted to write about for a long time, not because I find it ground-breaking, but because it covers crucial elements of understanding pickup and seduction.

Many of you have already figured out the concepts I’ll mention. That’s cool. It’s always good to get confirmation from someone else.

Others will find the points I make intuitive, and that’s cool, too, because my post may help you put into words (or perhaps “new words” or “different words”) something you have already thought about.

And some will read this without having any past ideas or opinions on the matter. If that’s you, great! You will learn something new.

This post is a key pillar to help you understand the big picture of how pickup and seduction works. Ideally, this post will help you tie some things together to give you a better understanding.

I believe this post is suited for everyone, beginners and pros alike. No matter your style, or whether you like to meet girls online, in clubs, or on the street, this one is for you.

Let’s get on with it.

How to Attract Women (the Same Way Women Attract Men)

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A few hours ago as I walked down a city street, a woman stepped out in front of me.

Her face and body were ordinary. But she triggered an involuntary response in me. My heart rate quickened. I felt excitement. I wanted to talk to this girl, and meet her.

I didn't talk to her. She finished crossing the sidewalk and entered the car waiting for her, with someone I guessed was a boyfriend.

And, truth be told, she wasn't really my type. Like I said, pretty average face and body.

Had I met her somewhere else though, I'd have likely talked to her and, if she bit, pursued her. Her walk was quick, confident, sexy. Her hair was a clear bottle blonde, and she'd clearly used a curler to add some wave. Her nose was too big, but her eyelashes were long and luxurious, and her lips were bright red, so I didn't stay focused on her nose long.

Her breasts were pert; though I've been with girls with breasts like hers where you take the girl's clothes off and discover those breasts are 90% bra. Her stomach was flat and her legs looked strong, so that was real, though there wasn't much to her butt. Even still, in her form-fitting yoga clothes, she looked good.

I passed through the perfume wake she trailed behind her as I continued my way down the street, and when I inhaled her sent my pulse quickened a second time.

And I thought to myself "That girl is far more ordinary, in her face and body, than plenty of more beautiful women I've seen already today. Yet, she excited me in a way none of those girls did."

What worked for her will work for you as well.

Because the secret of how to attract women is the same for men as what women use to have that effect on men.

And just like women like that can attract you and me with certain irresistible attraction signals (even if we know how they're doing it), you and I can do the same to women, too.

Relentless Pragmatism Pt. 4: Influence Game and Optimization

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Now that we’ve covered Volume and Zen Game, let’s discuss how learning Influence techniques and optimization can turn you into a seduction savant.

Welcome back, students of the game.

In this series, we’ve been looking at the journey of learning pickup from the ground up. We’ve looked at:

  • Steps you can take to become more attractive

  • Different ways to screen for receptive girls you want to meet

  • Naturally attractive personas you can adopt to transform your results with women

As we've explored the schools of seduction, one recurring topic is the pragmatic implications of dating advice from each game class. We’ve also looked closely at polarization and maximization and the effects each have on your style and how women react to you.

Whether you’re searching for the perfect girlfriend, looking to build an impressive and varied roster of casual lovers, or reinventing yourself as Don Juan to carpe diem your way into scads of beautiful women, this series shows how relentless pragmatism can help you climb the ladder toward an improved sex life and amazing results with women.

Today, we’ll look at the Influence game class and start examining more advanced, cutting-edge applications of this mindset. I’ll break these down into simple, straightforward ideas that anyone can understand and use. These skills will help you ascend beyond plateaus and sticking points, all the way up to a penthouse of dating success, packed with sexy girls of your choosing. Experienced readers and ambitious students of the game may find today’s insights especially advantageous for gaining awareness of the criteria used by the best seducers to define progress and dating success.

We’ll also discuss specific tips (with a little help from Pete and Matthew) on how to optimize your girl-getting process according to specific parameters of mastery. Regardless of your current level of experience when it comes to picking up girls, by the end of this article, you will notice a deeper sense of familiarity with the process of making progress.

You might be content staying in one of the other two game classes, or you don’t feel quite ready to subscribe to the Influence game class just yet. The discussion topics today will be broad and multifaceted. You can easily cherry-pick a couple of useful techniques, innovative ideas, or insights into female psychology to bring more positive experiences as you meet and seduce women.

It’s essential for seducers who are subscribed to the Volume or Zen game class to learn and internalize the concepts of these classes. To succeed as a controller, you’ll need solid fundamentals and a decent amount of experience with cold approach. Rushing through game classes often leads to much bigger learning curves with other schools of seduction. But you might be a seducer who understands the game class you’ve subscribed to but wish to solve nagging sticking points. You want to start sleeping with women more often or take the quality of their lovers to the next level. It’s crucial to realize when you’ve reached your ceiling as a screener or natural. So if you are at a plateau, it might be time to move forward.

Don’t worry if you’re still getting the hang of Zen or Volume game. You’ll easily become proficient by learning alongside our protagonists, Matthew and Pete, and applying the concepts discussed in this series regarding previous schools of seduction. This article serves as an inspiring sneak peek at what’s possible when you inject your dating lifestyle with a double dose of relentless pragmatism.

Relentless Pragmatism Pt. 3: Zen and Naturally Attractive Personas

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Let’s talk about Zen Game and how to build a naturally attractive persona that draws women like moths to your flame. As always, there are two ways to go about it.

Hang on to your helmets, guys. Today’s article will be a healthy dose of relentless pragmatism.

We’re moving forward with the razor-sharp analysis of various dating methods and manuals that have taken over the seduction community since its conception several years ago.

For the readers who’ve been following this series, today’s article is another impassioned yet comprehensive look at the three schools of seduction. These are the pervasive, overarching, lady-killer guidebooks the vast majority of advice, techniques, and dating tips are grouped into.

Read on as I give you an eye-opening and relentlessly pragmatic perspective on the ins and outs of each of the three schools:

  • Volume Game Class: The Screeners
  • Zen Game Class: The Naturals
  • Influence Game Class: The Controllers

Now, if this is your first time seeing this distinction, don’t worry. I wrote a primer on these distinctive paths to dating success, detailing the importance of splitting the multitude of practical advice into these diverse categories.

This is a common experience as you work at an improved dating life. It’s easy to get confused after seeing all the tactics and methods that seem to be at odds with each other. This series should help clear that up. I’ve touched on each seduction class or school’s unique approach to getting girls, as well as advantages, disadvantages, and suitable venues to meet women.

In my last article, we started with a sharp dissection of the Volume game class, highlighting the subtle nuances of how to screen for interested women. I gave you processes to work with, so you can find the girls eager to bend over backward for Mr. Right Now. We did this by taking a pragmatic look at diverse crossroads on the screeners’ path to dating success through the eyes of two gritty and remarkably determined students of the game, Pete and Matthew.

Today’s article will pick up where we left off. Let’s follow these two successful screener’s joint decision to continue their journey toward new heights, by venturing into the Zen game class, with a focus on creating an attractive persona.

We’ll see how learning the natural’s perspective on meeting and bedding desirable women sharpens their intuitive understanding of what women find attractive. Matthew and Pete will be in the perfect position to augment and refine the dating skillsets they started developing in the Volume game class.

Pete and Matthew take diverging paths as they progress in this school of seduction. By learning alongside with them and following in their footsteps, you can also craft an attractive personality, develop your intuitive understanding of charisma, and find out how to transform your current traits into sexually persuasive ones.

Those who subscribe to the Zen game class learn from naturals. Their perspective on the path to dating success involves the application of attractive behaviors and fundamentals that naturally captivate the women who get to bask in your energy. Determined students of the Zen game class will meet lots of women and cold cold approach. Once you get good, you’ll likely be sleeping with more women and getting laid more regularly compared to the majority of naturals. The typical natural relies on his social circles and prioritizes meeting women in niche venues like college campuses, the workplace, and career positions with social dominance.

So, if you’d like to join the esteemed ranks of men who intrigue, excite, and sweep women off their feet with a natural’s ease, read on.

Relentless Pragmatism Pt. 1: The Best Mindset to Get Better with Women

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Attraction has many factors, so choosing what to focus on isn’t easy. This series will help you forge a path to reaching your goals with women, whatever they may be.

It's no stretch to guess that you started reading Girls Chase articles regularly for a reason. Maybe a specific question piqued your curiosity if you’re a newcomer who stumbled on this website recently.

“How can I get better with girls?”

That's a completely natural desire. We're here to help.

Perhaps there’s a cute girl you’ve seen at the gym or yoga class, and you’ve wondered what it would be like to take her home. Or you go to a nightclub Friday night, and you see a gorgeous girl dressed to the nines. On your way to work, you stop by a coffee shop and exchange a few moments of flirtatious eye contact with an attractive woman.

So you’ve had a number of these experiences, and you’re tired of not knowing what to do. Maybe you’ve tried approaching women a few times and you want to stop failing. Conversely, you might already be on the path of improving your dating life but want to get better results. Again, these are natural desires.

It’s a fact that every time a man sees a woman who inspires quick, passionate thoughts and feelings, the desires he feels in these moments are just as natural.

As you take in how she looks, you realize she’s exactly the kind of girl you’d like to get intimate with, or get her to be your girlfriend.

The standard dating advice we always hear from mainstream media often doesn’t make sense – whether it’s a basic understanding of how women think, female psychology, or the type of men girls feel drawn to. If she’s lucky enough to meet such a man, she’ll spend time and energy chasing him, positioning herself close by so he sees her, etc. Or after an enthusiastic response to his opener, she’ll question him to find out more.

And as the interaction progresses, she starts to hope that he’ll ask her out or make a move so they can get intimate. She has pressing desires and inclinations, after all. Plus, we live in a society where it’s normal for girls to seek out experiences with men like these. The value of a man who can sweep her off her feet is sky-high.

How to Master Transition Phases and Be Smooth with Women

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When it comes to bedding women, getting from Point A to B can be rough. Learn to handle the key transition phases and the process will go a lot smoother.

Ever had a girl respond positively to your opener, maybe with sparkling eyes and a bright smile — yet the interaction fizzles out before you can get anywhere with her?

Or have you ever found yourself trying to seduce an attractive woman, things are going well, and both of you are feeling the flames of desire — but again, the interaction fails to progress toward an intimate conclusion.

“It was nice meeting you!” she says before leaving you standing at the bar.

Maybe you tried to invite her to sit somewhere private with you. But she tells you she needs to stay close to her friends. And moments later, those friends interrupt and take her away to the dance floor. Now and then you might have great nights when things just work in your favor. But most of the time, when you hit it off with a new woman, it seems like luck isn’t on your side.

Perhaps you prefer to meet women from day game. You bring new women back to your place regularly from dates or on the same day you approach them. However, when you have her alone sitting in your living room or on your bed, there seems to be an invisible barrier preventing physical escalation.

You’ve run into last-minute resistance in these situations many times before, and something tells you it’s about to happen again. At your place, she sits far away from you. And you already know it’s only a matter of time before she’ll make an excuse to leave.

If you regularly struggle with one or more of these frustrating scenarios as you meet and seduce women, then learning to handle your transitions better could make all the difference.

Social Acceptability and Sexual Acceptability in Dating

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The more acceptable a match a woman thinks you are for her, the better your odds with her are. Here's what you must do for her to mark you 'acceptable'.

Since I started this website, we've always stressed the importance of fundamentals. Fundamentals range from your posture, facial expressions, and voice, to how you walk and move, your hairstyle, your facial hair, your clothes, your fitness, and physique. Also included: social fundamentals like sprezzatura, and how well you stick to the Law of Least Effort. All are great, and you will do better with women the better you get on each. But why are they important?

Fundamentals help so much because they make you more attractive. Get your fundamentals good enough, and you can even overcome your disadvantages. Girl doesn't usually like men of your height, weight, race, job type? Get your fundamentals good enough, and it becomes "Wow, you're not like the other [whatever you are]!" Why would this be, though? How do fundamentals overcome deep-seated biases in partner choice?

The way fundamentals do this is by raising either (or both of) your social acceptability or your sexual acceptability. Acceptability is a topic Alek's been discussing in his "Female State Control" series, under the name of 'social frame'. I want to unpack this concept more here, and look at a few of the different ways 'acceptability' can go. Because not all sorts of acceptability are created equal.